Hello Everyone!

[LaineyG]

Hi there!

My name is Lainey and I discovered, much to my shock, that i'm pregnant!

I'm 8 weeks and one day.

Bit of history for you -

I was on the CP and in a relationship. Had been with him for 2 years and lived with him for 1 year. I decided just after new year that I really wasn't happy (control freak and jealous into the bargan!) so I left! Packed my bags and moved back in with mum and dad (Bliss!)

2 days after I moved out I did a pregnancy test and it was negative (my period was late, but that's not unusual for me!). Let this be a warning to you!!! The £2.99 own brand kits can give wrong results!

Anywho, on I went with life, out with the girls, going for a job interview....all the usual things!

I'd had sore boobs, but thought it just meant my period was on the way. So on Friday, to put my mind at rest before another big night out, I bought another kit (an £8.99 one this time!). You know how they tell you to wait 3 minutes? Well I hadn't even stopped peein' and the blue cross appeared! I almost fell off the pan!

So I walked around the house in a daze, called a pal, handed a sample into my GP, did another 2 tests and then thought...."Do you know what? This is totally unplanned, couldn't be any worse timing wise, but hey, it's a baby, I've got great parents, friends and family, I CAN DO THIS!"

So there you go, you'll hopefully be seeing a lot more of me over the next god knows how many years!

xxx

 

[BustyJo]

Blimey Lainey thats one heck of a few weeks you have been having!

So pleased you seem to be happy with it and dealing with it and by sounds of it your sailing through with no sickness so far!

Congratulations!

 

[lsmith1984]

Hi Lainey

Hope you are well, welcome to the forum. And big congrats

I'm sure you'll be fine

Laura xx

 

[lsmith1984]

Just noticed you are in Scotland, where you from?

Laura xx

 

[LaineyG]

Blimey Lainey thats one heck of a few weeks you have been having!

So pleased you seem to be happy with it and dealing with it and by sounds of it your sailing through with no sickness so far!

Congratulations!

That was another contributing factor to the reason for a late period....STRESS!!

No sickness, just a feeling of dizziness and sometimes a but of a sicky feeling......I put it down to a hangover.....ooops!

Post your nominations for mother of the year here!

 

[BustyJo]

ha ha!! I went out with my family 2 weeks ago and had a rather heavy night on the Jack Daniels, had no idea i was PG we were not trying, im sure i will be fine!

I had a craving for Jack Daniels an Coke in both my previous pregnancys, was a nightmare, limited myself to a small one every month.......... Evened it out with a big steak and lots of veg to soak it up

 

[LaineyG]

ha ha!! I went out with my family 2 weeks ago and had a rather heavy night on the Jack Daniels, had no idea i was PG we were not trying, im sure i will be fine!

I had a craving for Jack Daniels an Coke in both my previous pregnancys, was a nightmare, limited myself to a small one every month.......... Evened it out with a big steak and lots of veg to soak it up

Ooooo! We have more in common than you think -

Jack Daniels.....yummy! My favourite!

It's probably what got me here in the first place (well, it contributed to it anyway!)

 

[Paula+bump]

Congrats on your pregnancy and so please to hear you being so positive and you sound like you can and will do this and have lovely people around you also, big congrats again x

 

[Snuggle]

Congratulations

Welcome to the forum

 

[sarah113]

Congratulations and welcome to the forum!!!!

 

Lainey, Thanks for sharing your story with us. My timing was pretty bad as well. I mean, I desperately wanted another child and due to my age (and a medical condition that can cause premature menopause) I felt that time was running out for me, so I've been trying to conceive for a while (not using contraception for 2 years, charting for over a year). I'm happy to be pregnant, but worried about my own relationship.

My partner and I had split up for a few months before Christmas (basically, he was stoned all the time and an idiot when he drinks). The Thursday before I took the test at the weekend, he was out at a gig and came back drunk and we had another massive row. I felt like there was no point in being with him anymore. Then a positive over the weekend!

Of course, my emotions are now all over the place. He was out for a few hours tonight and my older kids had the chance to tell me what they thought of last Thursday's escapade. Basically, they said they don't like the way my partner treats me (he's not their dad). He always tries to blame things on me, so it was a revelation when two little kids were pointing out that he's the idiot. I feel bad that they've had to witness our arguments too.

God, I feel upset tonight! I'm worried about how I'll cope, being pregnant and hormonal with my partner and his short temper and with the stress of a newborn. I also wonder if I've made a huge mistake. My mum was just telling me last week to leave my partner. My brother has said the same (so has my friend). Before we split up for a couple of months, I was so depressed, I contacted the Samaritans!

If I was reading this about someone else, I'd probably say, "go it on your own", but I'm worried about how I'd cope financially, as well as being on my own with 3 kids. Gosh, it's a bit of a mess, eh?

I spoke with my partner tonight about his moods and he says he'll just have to try and prove that he can change (but I have heard all of this before).

Sorry for the moan! Things'll probably look better in the morning.
xx

 

[madam bully]

Congratulations

Sounds as though you have made the right choice coming out of the relationship and if you are happy then good for you!

My sister in law has a 2 year old, done it all on her own and is now about to have another in 6 weeks and again doing it on her own and is as happy as can be!

Good luck with everything!

 

[pigletpoo]

Wow! one hell of a story you got there! Well done for being so positive! I too have split wih my control freak OH and am facing going it alone. I think it's so fantastic that you are being so positive about it all!
I'm very envious! Does your ex know your situation?

Oh and congratualtions by the way!!!

Piglet xxx

 

[LaineyG]

Thanks everyone!

Sometimes I wonder what the hell I'm doing.....and other times I'm over the moon!

I told my ex, who is desperate for us to get back together, says he can change, wants to do up our flat for the baby, yadda yadda yadda. Maybe if he'd thought this way 6 months ago I would feel different, but I don't.

I told my parents, who said that I shouldn't feel obliged to go back to him, we live in a big house, so plenty of room for me plus one!

It's just such a relief to know that I have my parents support. I want my ex to have as much to do with this as he wants, but I just don't think I want him!

Hormones! Who would have them!

Wendywandy - what a situation you have! You have to remember that the most important people in this are YOU, your kids, and the bean on it's way! Look at all the people out there that deal with this everyday, on their own with no support at all.....you have a family that, if they are anything like mine, will support you in whatever decission you make. If you're not happy then no one around you will be happy. Do what I did and think of yourself for once.....go on! Be selfish! It's great!!!!

xxx

 

Thanks, Lainey - good for you!

I just had a 'phone call there about a job I applied for last year
They are going to call me tomorrow to do a telephone interview. It's a p/t post. I've also just read that the law for maternity rights have just changed: anyone who has a baby after April 2007 is entitled to 1 year's maternity leave, regardless of length of employment. That means that if I got a p/t job, I could work up until the baby is born, take up to a year's maternity leave, then go back to work. I'd also get working/child tax credit - enough to pay my bills on my own! That would take away the worry about being financially reliant on my partner

Fingers crossed I'll get the job and stick with it, then, if he doesn't buck up his ideas sharpish, he's out the door

It's reassuring to know that other people manage. This is the first time I've been pregnant and living in Scotland. I am actually better off this time around because when I lived in England, I had no-one nearby and my husband was often out 14 hours a day, so I practically managed on my own then anyway. This time, I have my huge, extended family nearby, including a cousin who is due her baby at the end of this month.

So thanks again, Lainey - I feel better today. I'm so glad that you're taking your time to think things through and that you feel you have some good options. I'm glad to hear too that your former partner is interested in the baby and that he seems to want to take his role seriously. It takes a lot of work to maintain a child's relationship with their dad when you're no longer together (putting your own feelings aside sometimes and trying to be as accomodating as possible, even when you don't feel like it). It's been almost 4 years since I split up with my ex-husband and, thankfully, we've stayed on good terms (although getting to this stage took time and patience) and he still sees my older two children regularly.

I'm not going to rush into any decisions right now and I'm glad you're not either. We have to just concentrate on having a healthy pregnancy for now.

I'm looking forward to getting to know you and all the others more as the time goes on.

Best wishes,
Wendy
xxx

 

[Bexter]

Hi, Congratulations and welcome to the forum