Hello Everyone!

[RomanyRiver]

Hi.... I'm a newbie here

I'm nine weeks now and loving it!! I just wondered though, how others have gone about breaking the news to their families?

I'm in a situation where the timing isn't ideal by any stretch but like many i'm sure, unless something goes wrong inside there is no way i'm interfering - to please others! Needless to say although I'm sure the news will be exciting to the families at the same time i can't help but worry about the negatives that will also come with it - how have others of you coped?

I'm probably worrying about nothing but hey ho....

Thanks for reading, I look forward to getting to know you all better as time progresses

 

[Crackers]

Hello!

I'm a newbie here too (as of yesterday!)

I'm about 5 weeks and a bit along, so a bit behind you. Hubby and I haven't told anyone else yet, but were planning on telling our parents and siblings this weekend. However, as you say, there's always those little issues..!

With us, we really don't want any of the rest of our families finding out before 12 weeks - just because. We both have quite large families, and some of them (on both sides) we aren't that close to. So we're a little worried about telling our parents this early in case they slip up..! Also, we want to be the ones to tell our friends - not for them to find out on the grapevine.

I'd be interested in how others have broken the news/kept it a secret!

I don't know your situation, but I'm sure that your family will be excited and supportive to you. You obviously know your own mind and if you show that you're strong and able to cope with your situation that will surely help fight off any negative comments..?
x

 

[minxies]

hi and welcome!!

believe me i dont think there is ever a 'right' time by everyone to get pregnant. i was petrified about telling my family. even though i have a finace and live on my own and wanted the baby i still felt ashamed of telling my mum LOL! so i didnt tell them. unfortunately i lost that baby and whilst at the hospital, scared i wanted my mum and family there, so thats how they all found out .. a bit to late and not the right way. they were all heartbroken and surprisingly all saying how great it would have been.
So this time round i told them all straight away and they loved it! ... sometimes families can me hostile to begin with, but at the end of the day when they see you grow they will love it, and support you. no1 can hate a baby

hope that sorta helped lol xx

 

[Bee7]

Hello and welcome to the forum

My pregnancy wasn't planned either and like you, the timing really isn't great. I had lots of career aspirations and my relationship with the OH isn't great right now. But now i've had chance to get used to the idea i'm actually really positive about it. I broke the news to my mum pretty much straight away and she was also very shocked but is now excited at the thought of becoming a grandma.

You'll find lots of support, advice and reassurance here, i know i have xx

 

[TORino]

Hello and welcome to Tri 1.

As for breaking the news, I haven't told anyone yet. I too have suffered the heartbreak of a mc and couldn't bear having to tell people if it went wrong again so I have kept schtum and will do until next Thursday when I see the 12 week scan.

 

[SamStevens]

Im married and left home 3 years ago and was still bricking it about telling parents!
They were absolutely fab about it and are so excited!
I used the line "fate made it happen. Was meant to be" and all was good!!
X

 

[BabyBrain]

Congratulations and welcome xxxxxxxx

Personally I knew my side would be over the moon, has taken us 10 years to conceive. I was petrified of telling the father in law who we live with cos he and I have a really bad relationship but I can't believe how good he's been bless him and is desperate to be a grandad. People's reactions can be very surprising xxxxxxxxxx

 

[flinty84]

Me and my other half decided to wait till i was 12 weeks before telling anybody, but I've thrown that idea out of the window cos I'm desparate to tell my mum. As its my dads birthday tomorrow I'm trying to get my parents and my brothers and sister together for a meal or something at the weeked, and I have a birthday card that says Happy Birthday Grandad, and signed it from the bump, and see if he gets the hint. Knowing my dad he wont, but my mum will. I think they may be a bit shocked since I've been married 7 weeks, and I'm 6 weeks pregnant!

 

[RomanyRiver]

Thanks everyone, I've just had my first midwifes appointment which went really well - she was really positive so I'm feeling abit better about it Still keeping quiet for the time being and hopefully it will out when time is right!!

 

[gills]

Congratulations

I am new to PF too, Im also 9 weeks, due around the 18th of April going by my dates! Got my scan app for the 4th of October! Cant come quick enough!!

Theres always someone who has something negative to say but this is a little life and it will be amazing and those who arent happy at the beginning Im sure will come around by the time your little one arrives! I hope when you do tell everyone they are pleased for you x