Head all over the place

[scones]

Dont get me wrong I am really chuffed that I got my bfp, we wanted this from last october when I had my coil removed. Its that my feelings at the moment are really odd, Im happy but I have this information that I kind of have to keep to myself, its really hard talking to my Mum and not telling her, my hubby said to tell her and Im starting to think what the heck I may as well.

Im going to work on Monday and theres only a few of us at my workplace but I fel it is too soon to tell them but once I have told the boss then I want to tell them all as its such a small working environment and they will be so surprised as we didnt tell anyone we were trying, except my closest mate (who knows). Im also apprehensive as I have a 7 year old son and he doesnt really like babies but Im sure he will come around to the idea but I still think it is too soon to tell him, seeing as Im just over 4 weeks pg, its so soon.

Sorry for the long post and really, Im not moaning I just feel anxious about all the things that are going around in my mind. Ive got the inlaws coming in 2 weeks time to visit us, hubby wants to tell them as they will probably wonder why Im not drinking hehe

Can anyone give me any advice or what your thoughts are? I just dont know what to think first, i guess thats normal for when you just find out - right? Appreciate your comments xxxx

 

[*sara*]

Hi i told everyone as soon as i found out i was pregnant its nice to be able to speak about it and if things go wrong i have support from family and friends, ive had 2 losses this yr and it helped that people knew i was pregnant as when i had my losses everyone was great.
Ive got an 8 yr old son who is is really looking forward to a little brother or sister. Im sure your son will get used to the idea when you tell him, and as for everyone else tell them when your ready.

 

[Anna23]

Hi i told everyone as soon as i found out i was pregnant its nice to be able to speak about it and if things go wrong i have support from family and friends, ive had 2 losses this yr and it helped that people knew i was pregnant as when i had my losses everyone was great.
Ive got an 8 yr old son who is is really looking forward to a little brother or sister. Im sure your son will get used to the idea when you tell him, and as for everyone else tell them when your ready.

we have done the same although we had a loss 11 weeks ago we are telling people becasue if something was to happen (god forbid) we have the support of friends and family i also have 2 children and i couldn't of kept it from them it was so ovious they guessed when i went docs

 

[scones]

First of all I al so sorry for both your losses I can imagine it was probably helpful to have the support of your family when this happened.

I guess in my mind I want to fast forward a few weeks and get it out in the open by then I suppose everyone has those feelings right?

I have my 8 week first midwife appointment on 30th sept and of course I will have to tell the boss I need the docs, so I think that will be a very good time to tell her, I will be 8 weeks then and Im terrible at lying so I cant say Im going for another reason hehe, not that I need to say why Im going to the docs and they would prob guess anyway.

 

[jo jo]

Hi

The only advice i can give is tell them when you feel comfortable. We wanted to wait untill 12 weeks with Jess, it was taken out of our hands as my old manager had a big mouth and when he was told in confidence he started telling people
so we had to tell people at 8 weeks as i wanted to be the one to tell them not HIM AAAHHHHHH

Hope you have a H & H 9mnths

 

[Mummy-D]

I told everyone as soon as i knew first time round with my ds and again this time round. Tbh i think i would have burst inside with excitement if i hadnt told people! I find that i feel a lot more relaxed now that i have told people and dont have to worry about slipping up or constantly having to make excuses as to why i am not drinking lol!!

It is entirely up to you though when to tell them as everyones situation etc are different. Good luck and congrats on your Bfp!!

 

[scones]

Thanks for your advice, I know what you mean about wanting to say-Im desperate to tell my parents and I think if i told them to keep it quiet for a little while they would, they would probably love to share in our secret!

Work is the main issue, I guess Id better tell the boss at the end of the month when I go for my first appointment!

 

[scones]

I hope its not really obvious to my workmates that Im asking for help now with lifting stuff

 

[ShineyHappyPeople]

Yeah I know how you feel. I always thought that once I got my bfp I would be so excited all the time but realisitically, I was excited and nervous about the next few delicate weeks and not knowing whats ahead of me and its hard to keep all these thoughts inside when I only have dh to talk to (and you lot lol). So we have decided to tell only our parents and siblings next week and tell them to keep a secret until the scan then we will tell everyone! As a few people said, if I did have a MC, at least my mum could support me otherwise she might talk about babies and it would be too upsetting to hold it in!

Its so hard to know what to do though isn't it! Cos you want to tell everyone but then it will be a better feeling telling them when the risks are low and you even have a scan pic to show them!

 

[scones]

Yes its true, but as I said alread I have my first MW appointment on the 30th sept so I will tell my workplace then, especially as i work with kids and she will need to do a risk assessment on me anyway, i got worried today as a kid kicked me, and I cant put myself at risk!