Have I been irresponsible

[Freya]

My daughter who is 4 1/2 plays all the time with a neighbour who has just turned 6. The play well together and are good girls. The girls are always in each others houses and if we/they go on trips they usually take the other for company. Yesterday they went to a theme park with the neighbours parents.

Anyway today after going shopping with the neighbours parents my daughter asked if she could go to local park with neighbours dad (park is 5 mins away not over any main roads or anything). I said yes. Anyway later on my daughter came and said not dad taking us but friends brother (who is 15 and looks after sister sometimes) I said that was ok but to be careful etc.

Anyway it turns out not only brother but brothers friend as well went and they scared the girls but taking them a long way around and hiding from them.

Was I really irresoponsible letting her go in the first place and is this all my fault or should I by cross. By the way my daughter has suffered no ill effect and saw it more as an adventure than anything so maybe I am overreacting!!

 

[mary70]

no i don't think you were 15 is old enough

 

[Hypnorm]

No, just the 15 yr olds being stupid, they like to wind kids up!

 

[Jo]

No you weren't irresponsible so don't worry about that I just wouldn't let her go with him in future
15 yr olds are daft to be honest but i don't think they did owt spiteful

But i would have a word and make your feelings known about them hiding and stuff

 

[Freya]

thanks a lot you have made e feel mch better

 

[x-kirsty-x]

Its no wonder parents worry with the things that happen these days but no, I dont think you were irresponsible.

If the lad looks after his little sister sometimes he cant be that bad! I know 15 year olds act daft sometimes but Im sure he's got his head screwed on

 

[lauramumof2]

I think 15 is old enough but they shouldnt have frightened them. Just boys being silly boys.

 

[Urchin]

Our next door neighbours daughter is 11, and her and Mason get on really well. She has a 15 year old brother, and, knowing what him and his mates are like, I wouldn't have let Mason go to the park with them.

They're not bad kids or anything, but I think they are a but rough and have seen them pushing Mason around on the trampoline they have. ( I told Mason to come back and told Aaron not to do it again)

So....if you know the kids and trusted them (which you obviously did) then you did the right thing, it was just them being irresponsible. Have you spoken to them or their mom about it?

 

[Freya]

No I have not spoken to his mom YET but I will let him know how I feel I think this will embarass the hell out of him actually. He has actually been to watch football with my husband and I think he will be quiet scared about what he might say to him. I also get the feeling that he was scared when the girls got upset.

It has in some ways been quiet good for my daughter it has led to all sorts of discussions about going off with people and has actually scared her about going anyway with other people except me, her dad and other peoples parents when she has told us!!!

I will never let her go again anyway!!

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Its good she didnt react differently, like run off at try to find home and get lost etc..
I think maybe have a word with the kids who were supposed to be watching them and say please dont leave them on their own..nicely.
It wasnt a bad thing, but it could have been.
Ur not irrisponsible at all honey!
Some kids dont realise that bad things can happen if u abandon the children ur watching! lol

 

[Jayceesmumma]

And its a good learning curve for her like u said, about her not going off with other people!
They have to learn these thngs by themselves sometimes just for it to sink in!
If i didnt trust the boys then no way id let them have her but as u trusted them and knew them its different.. but still... grab them by the ear and give them a warning!