gutted :(

[Maximus17]

hiya
so my testing day is approaching (this week) and I am having exactly the same symptoms as month like AF coming
I am soooo gutted and upset again, I mean I am sure I am not out yet but I think you just know don't you. With my first I had no symptoms till 8dpo (nothing), this time I am having all the symptoms as AF. I also know that every pregnancy is different but I know my body too well...
anyway I will let you know anyway , I am planning to test at 10dpo

 

[Sunflower1]

Sorry hon. I know what you mean about just knowing. Hope you are wrong though.. Hugs x

 

[Maximus17]

ah how I wish I am wrong, but again with my first I had this gut feeling that made me test. When I woke up that morning, I was like I have no symptoms as AF nothing, and thats when I found out I was pregnant. I just knew deep inside. Our ages really playing a big role this time. I can just feel that we are nearly 40 and things are changing. Every month passes by I am doubting myself whether I could go through this over and over again. I just want to move on in life arghhh sooo annoying

 

[Sunflower1]

Lots of women get pregnant in their early 40s, and there's been a lot of misinformation put about about fertility at that age. Apparently the highest no. of abortions tend to be in that age group because women are told they are not likely to be fertile when actually they are. Also there is evidence that some women in early 40s ovulate more than once a month. Don't assume your fertility is rapidly dropping off. I know 40 is a scarey number, but with improved diets and healthcare it's not what it used to be. It may take longer but it doesn't mean it won't happen.

 

[Maximus17]

Thanks for your encouraging words. It’s just that it needs to happen soon before my DH changes his mind

 

[Sunflower1]

That's so much pressure. Is he not into it? It's gonna make it sooo much more stressful for you each month.

 

[Maximus17]

He wasn’t at first but he agreed to try for a while. I think he will be sooo happy if I got pregnant but also he knows I get very upset when it doesn’t happen so he said he can’t have this going on for ages ...

 

[Melly41]

Just to add that i was told by midwife that more women are deciding to start family in their 40s and that she felt there shouldnt be any reason why someone in their 40s couldnt conceive. It might take a little longer but like sunflower with improved lifestyle now more women are successfully conceiving in their 40s. I hope youre wrong and your af stays away x

 

[JemRose]

Just thought I'd add that my partner's mum had him and his twin at 42 (they are now 32, and things are so much more developed since then!!) and then she went on to have a further baby at 44.

She was shocked both times as thought she was too old. But just goes to show that until you've definitely gone through the menopause, you are in no way out of the running.

Good luck, it might just take a bit longer but I have my fingers crossed it happens for you x

 

[Maximus17]

thanks so much, my DH won't try for too long and I am hoping I get pregnant soon, I should be testing in 2-3days but I really don't think this is our month again

 

[Melly41]

We have decided to make the next cycle our last too. Its just so hard month after month. I really hope you get your bfp....af symptoms are often similar to early pregnancy symptoms so youre not out yet x

 

[Maximus17]

hi melly41, so will you not try anymore? have you got any other children? and also what are your reasons for stopping?

 

[Melly41]

Hi maximus....i do have 2 children (12 and 10) and after ttc #3 last year for a few months we gave up and decided to stop. However in july came back from holiday pregnant.we were shocked but happy. In all the months we were ttc its bizzarre i happen to catch when not trying! I think there is a lot to be said for the more relaxed approach! unfortunately had mmc at 10 weeks in sept. It was devasting but we agreed to ttc again as we both felt it would be lovely to have a third but that we would try to the end of the year and then call it a day. Im 42 so dont want to be mid 40s and still trying. My age is only a small part of my decision and the midwife looking after me when i had my mmc said age isnt a factor really anymore and many women are having babies well into their 40s which gave me sime hope I have two beautiful kids so i know that ive been very lucky and i dont fall pregnant by end of the year that it was just not meant to be. I will then focus on the future with the lovely family i do have. It will be hard and i will feel very emotonal but we have both agreed we cannot do this very much longer. I wish you all the best and hope you get a sticky bean soon. x

 

[Maximus17]

hiya thanks for your reply, it's very hard isn't it when it just doesn't happen. I also have one daughter, she is so lovely and 4 years old. I would love for her to have a sister or brother as we have no family nearby and I really don't want her to be lonely when she is older. I just keep thinking whatever happens happens and everything is for a reason. fingers crossed though both for you and me x

 

[Melly41]

Thanks maximus. It would be lovely for you DD to have a sibling. Keeping my fingers crossed for you x