guilt and panic...miss the old me!

[Red_Fairy]

right up till i discovered i was pregnant i lead a very 'rock n roll' life style. Drugs and booze and 3 day long parties was the normal thing every week for me.
As soon as i found out i was pregnant (i was about 5 weeks) it all stopped. Me and my OH met at a festival 2 years ago and what we had most in commen is partying. Soooo the last 6 months ive felt like a complete bore. Now dont get me wrong, my OH is very very supportive and we love eachother deeply - its ME that miss'es my old life style sooo much. Christmas, new year and boyfriends 21st birthday in all under 2 weeks really got me down. I let the OH drink and party (why shouldnt he?) while i felt like a moaning-fat-bore in the courner. - i ended up drinking a couple of glasses of red wine when i shouldnt have done and the guilt i still feel is unreal. I know i wont drink again. I just feel bad all tghe time and then guilty for missing the life style i used to lead.
anyone feel the same?

everythings different now and it'll always be different! im not sure i like it!!!
*i still love and want my baby of course... im just letting my emotions blurt out somwhere.*
ta for listening

 

[Misslarue]

I was exactly the same. Most weekends you would find me clubbing in Brighton until the early hours with some very unsavoury people! I loved to go out and spent a lot of my free time in the pub. Honestly I know it seems forever away but enjoy your pregnancy, its over before you know it. I should have had 3 weeks left and in a sad way I feel I was robbed of them. He has only been here for 10 days but I really don't feel like going out. In fact my brother has just rang to ask me if I fancy a game of pool and a pint and I actually turned him down, which I never thought I would have done when I was pregnant. Don't get me wrong, I am looking forward to meeting up with the girls very soon, but I'm quite happy to sit in and watch my lil bubba sleeping. Its all very sad!! lol Don't feel guilty, as soon as you hold your little one your feelings will change.

 

[mummytoBee]

same here!! ive just turned 18, and my bf has just turned 21 so wer both party animals,when i go out now n thn with my m8s they all get drunk n dance rwnd n hava laff all crazy i find myself sitting there feelins like a whale with a glass of wine, i feel guilty for my baby for feelin that i just wanna party, but i know i got a responsibility now, n wen im out i end up having a rubbish nite because im jealous n feel down all nite. just get so fed up of being stuck in all the time. the more ive been doing it the more iv got used to it. new yrs we were all planning to go raving to birmingham, buti got pregnant and so me and my bf stayd in all nite, i felt bad coz i KNEW that he wanted to be out with the boys but didn wan to annoy me so he stayd in for me. hes ben great through it, he hasnt been out once since iv been pregnant so im never lonely. just makes me wonder ho wil cope when ive got the baby and no freedom at all. it will all come together and im sure when youv had the baby on the weekends ul find some1 to look afta him/her n go out nm hav a gd time, but i bet all u will be thinkin bout is ur baby and u will end up goin hme cos u miss it lol, its all gunna change,but it wil b worth it xx

 

[cloud9]

Your life is going through a dramatic change and the fact you wan the baby doesn't mean you shouldn't miss the things you aren't able to enjoy right now.

I am not sure if i understood your post correctly but the advice on drinking is a couple of units a week so if thats all your talking about then don't beat your self up anf if it was more then you've learnt it wasn't worth it for you.

most people are not natural mother earth from the day they concieve so are you expecting too much of yourself

 

[Flame]

I feel like a bore when i go out now cause i had more confidence when i drank. I stopped drinking as soon as i found out i was pregnant but since Christmas i have allowed myself to have a small glass or two of wine or half pints of shandy at the weekend and as far as i have been told that is ok to do so i am trying not to worry to much, i feel a bit guilty when i drink them but tell myself it shouldnt do any harm. So dont stop going out or enjoying yourself altogether, just dont go mad or get drunk.

 

[Londoner Claire]

I didn't feel like that as Ryan was planned and I'd done all that (other than the drugs). This time it wasn't but already got Ryan so only thing I am gonna miss is having time to myself at school time!

I do miss having a beer, Karl was drinking Stella next to me last night, offered me one but I just can't, not even one. With Ryan I had the odd drink but after watching that programme on what even a couple does to the baby, decided against it. Gonna get so pished next birthday, lol

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

I was the same when i fell pregnant with Kiara i was on the pill so wasnt expecting it at all i drank every day just to wake up and do it all over again, taht was my life. I do miss it somtimes having all the fun and partying ect but once Kiara was born i knew it was worth it, you do have your days when you still miss going out all the time, but when your LO smiles at you and gives you a hug for me thats the life i want
Katrina