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going it alone
- Thread starter Tillytots
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Am sorry to hear your going through this.
I havent read all the posts so if i repeat some one am sorry. I left my babys dad when my baby was nearly one but i should have done it much earlier, it takes a brave woman and alot of guts to stand up for what you believe is right and seek the best for your child which from what you said you have done so that in its self shows you are going to be a great mum.
as for being single and no one wanting to raise some body elses child well i can say that is false, and you will find some one who will love you and your baby, I did i met a great guy nearly 4 years ago and we fell head over heals for each other and he and my son get on great together, also we got married 2 1/2 months ago so it goes to show that you can find happieness with a child you just got to meet the right man, which am sure you will when the time is right and your least looking for it, don't settle for second best because you think you cant do better (thats what i use to do) make sure you put you and bump first,
As for the housing situation go to the local housing authority i dont know how they work where you live but where i am from they are prity decent and you can get a grant to furnish your house (its only a small one but it does the job) dont bother waiting for decenber do it now and also speak to your landlord you never know some do take benifits and he might have and affordable property for you.
hope you sort things out the way you need to
and good luck
Pam x
I havent read all the posts so if i repeat some one am sorry. I left my babys dad when my baby was nearly one but i should have done it much earlier, it takes a brave woman and alot of guts to stand up for what you believe is right and seek the best for your child which from what you said you have done so that in its self shows you are going to be a great mum.
as for being single and no one wanting to raise some body elses child well i can say that is false, and you will find some one who will love you and your baby, I did i met a great guy nearly 4 years ago and we fell head over heals for each other and he and my son get on great together, also we got married 2 1/2 months ago so it goes to show that you can find happieness with a child you just got to meet the right man, which am sure you will when the time is right and your least looking for it, don't settle for second best because you think you cant do better (thats what i use to do) make sure you put you and bump first,
As for the housing situation go to the local housing authority i dont know how they work where you live but where i am from they are prity decent and you can get a grant to furnish your house (its only a small one but it does the job) dont bother waiting for decenber do it now and also speak to your landlord you never know some do take benifits and he might have and affordable property for you.
hope you sort things out the way you need to
and good luck
Pam x
Hi Sarah,
Im so sorry what you have gone through.
Remember that not all men are violent, I totally object to violence especially towards a woman.
I do provide everything for our bean and my OH (who incidentally HAS given up smoking so far for 48HRS BIG KISS to you darling for keeping your word, your a star!) and I would never have any harm to either of them.
Just remember, from a man's point of view the one thing that would really hurt me from a child was " Your not my dad, you cant tell me what to do" however when they receive things they love it and use these words in a somewhat selfish way when they cant have it their way.
Anyway good luck and Im sure you will have lots of men to chose from, but a good tip is to avoid a man who likes excessive alcohol.
Daddytobe.
xx
Im so sorry what you have gone through.
Remember that not all men are violent, I totally object to violence especially towards a woman.
I do provide everything for our bean and my OH (who incidentally HAS given up smoking so far for 48HRS BIG KISS to you darling for keeping your word, your a star!) and I would never have any harm to either of them.
Just remember, from a man's point of view the one thing that would really hurt me from a child was " Your not my dad, you cant tell me what to do" however when they receive things they love it and use these words in a somewhat selfish way when they cant have it their way.
Anyway good luck and Im sure you will have lots of men to chose from, but a good tip is to avoid a man who likes excessive alcohol.
Daddytobe.
xx
Hi
I am sorry you are going through such a hard time. I would like to mention Women's Aid to you.
I was in the same position as you a few years back. I spoke to Womens Aid and I made a choice to go into a womens refuge with my children.
I was in there for about 5 months, and eventually I got rehoused by the council, I have since bought the house.
Fastforward a few years......I am in a new marriage to the most wonderful man I could wish for. He treats my children like his own, and in turn I love his son from a previous relationship.
I have just found out I am pregnant, and we are both happy.
I dont usually post much, but I want you to know that you are not alone in your situ.
I wish you good luck xx
I am sorry you are going through such a hard time. I would like to mention Women's Aid to you.
I was in the same position as you a few years back. I spoke to Womens Aid and I made a choice to go into a womens refuge with my children.
I was in there for about 5 months, and eventually I got rehoused by the council, I have since bought the house.
Fastforward a few years......I am in a new marriage to the most wonderful man I could wish for. He treats my children like his own, and in turn I love his son from a previous relationship.
I have just found out I am pregnant, and we are both happy.
I dont usually post much, but I want you to know that you are not alone in your situ.
I wish you good luck xx
katyk said:looks like a duck Becsssss, lololool!
Tilly when my OH lost his parents a few years ago, he was a complete tosser for over a year, his own family distanced themselves from him because he was too volatile and extremely hard work. But now he's doing great though he did have professional help. Now all is brill!
Your OH is being immature too.
I hope even if you have some time apart, maybe he will get through his grief and sort his head out and you'll get back together in a few months, or if it's right for the two of you, you and bump will move on to find someone more lovely.
Men can get the fear a bit when they first find out a lady's preg- maybe he'll come round to that part of things in a week or so (my OH didn't get his head round it till about 8 and a half weeks).
You certainly don't need it while you're preg, and we do have funny turns when preg so you should have a sit down whenever you need it.
I couldnt put up with a year of him hun LOL!!
he has gone now. I went to Council today and they said they dont think Il get any help and I wont be housed as I dont score many points. They might do something if I get evicted which they assure me takes a while LOL
Oh well it could be worse I spose......
xx
