getting sick of this now

[winnie89]

My hubby is really pissing me off now, I'm sick of having to nag him to help me with harry and looking after the house. I know he's been working more (normally does 24 hrs but he's been doing 40+ atm due to it being wedding season) I have had harry all day and been out paid all the bills and done the shopping and lugged it up the stairs aswell as the pram, and he did help me put the shopping away but then went and sat on the sofa and fell asleep mean while harry was crying to be fed and changed and he's there snoring away so I wake him up and I get told to fuck off because he's tired, erm excuse me does he not think I'm tired and would like to sit down for 5 mins or even to drink a drink while it's hot would be nice! But no I'm not allowed I have been told to go and cook tea( which was already made just needed warming up) told him it would be 5 mins and he buggers off out to his brothers to go and buy a blueray thingy so his tea went cold, I popped harry on his play mat and I went to tidy the kitchen up when he got back and harry started to cry and he just sat there looking at him so I changed harry and fed him and put him down for a nap and he's just sat there watching tv like a moron, I'm really starting to wonder why I stay with him sometimes, he barely gives me any money to pay the bills and he has a go when I get charged because there isn't enough money in there, he doesn't help with house work he'll put a load of washing on and then expect me to put it in the dryer. Or load the dishwasher and not put it on!?!?! He's always sleeping in late and I get up with harry at 8.30 every morning feed him his breakfast and get him dressed and play with him, mark'll casually get out of bed at 11 or 12 and just watch tele which harry is crying! God knows what I'm gonna do when he's got to have him when I go back to work in 10 weeks he won't change nappies he doesn't know what to do to make a bottle or harrys porridge on a morning, harry'd be better off in a nursery but I can't afford one really don't know what to do anymore

 

[VikkiR]

Oh heck, I didn't want to r&r. Sounds like you'd be better off in your own at this rate. I'd let him fend for himself, let him cook his own food for a start. I've had some heated discussion about similar things, well I did the loud talking and said this is how it's going to be or we're going. You need to tell him in no uncertain terms what is expected of him and if he doesn't then I think you may have some serious thinking to do. I'm flipping mad just reading it. All you can do is fight your corner but I certainly wouldn't continue to do everything for him, he should be cooking for you and carting the bliddy shopping and giving you enough money and certainly not shouting or swearing at you. Big hugs hun and if he doesn't like what you have to say, sod him! xxxxxx

 

[littlemiss83]

I've been in a similar situation but not to the same extent as you.

My OH worked longer hours, but yeah still, its bloody annoying, they just sit about & we run around doing everything & its a hassle to get them to do anything. I just got so fed up with hassling that I started doing it all myself. But rather than moan i'd just be down alot (as you can imagine doing everything yourself) and he mustve noticed that i wasn't nagging & i was looking down & i'd always say that its just so hard & I cant cope ect. Its kinda like reverse psychology. Coz you know he's the problem but trying not to make it sound like it. Anyway - eventually I think he realised that I wasn't quite right and I kid you not - I came home & he had scrubbed the whole house, I almost dropped dead at the sight. Then 3 weeks ago i returned to work after mat leave & OH works from home & my LO isn't able to go into nursery due to a medical condition so he HAS to watch him. He never done nappies ect before but when left all day himself, he done everything & I think he had a new found sense of independence being alone in the house coz he started doing random things like cleaning various things ect. He moaned the arse off himself the first week then after that got into a routine. I was worried but he's doing ok. It almost feels like......ok - here you go, heres your baby - do what i've been doing since birth & see how you get on

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[winnie89]

i wouldnt mind but the first month he was brilliant he'd get up with harry in the night and give him to me to feed and mark would change him (i had a section so couldnt get up and down very quick) he'd always push the pram with the shopping in it and carry everything, but once i became more able he just stopped! i've had the talk with him and told him to bugger of to his parents if me and harry mean that little to him and he's getting better he changed harry last night and put him back to sleep in his cot and let me sleep through was actually nice

 

[misscrazycooki]

Yeah i hope things improve between you and your partner hun. Me and my partner have our ups and downs but his problem is weed he cleans etc and all that looks after our eldest son but won't on a thing for our newborn i have warned him i will chuck him out and make him sign his tenancy over to me and then i will be safe and secure with no worries x

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[winnie89]

If your name is on the tenancy if its council they will always let you have the property and throw the bloke out as you have a baby x

 

[misscrazycooki]

If your name is on the tenancy if its council they will always let you have the property and throw the bloke out as you have a baby x

Mine isn't its partners flat my social worker wants us to have joint tenancy but asked they want of to wait another year as i was moved in and out by social services x

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