Getting paranoid

[x-kirsty-x]

I dunno what it is, I dont think OH would cheat on me but theres just a feeling that wont go away. Part of me says stop being so stupid but I've always thought you should never ignore your instincts.

Something just doesnt seem right with him, I've felt like this for weeks now

 

[Robyn_]

i got to this point with my ex, and it wasnt doing me any good at all
in the end i was like checking his phone and shit,
there was loads of arguements we had about it and that.

i think the best thing to do is sit and talk about how you feel,
dont keep it bottled hunni it wont do you any good

 

[x-kirsty-x]

i got to this point with my ex, and it wasnt doing me any good at all
in the end i was like checking his phone and sh*t,
there was loads of arguements we had about it and that.

i think the best thing to do is sit and talk about how you feel,
dont keep it bottled hunni it wont do you any good

Was he cheating? I always check Daniels phone

I cant talk to him about it cos he always has a go at me and says if I think he's cheating we may as well split up. When he gets all defensive like that it makes me even more paranoid

I hope its just me whos being an idiot, if I found out he was cheating I dunno what Id do

 

[Robyn_]

No he wasnt cheating
but there was this one girl that wouldnt leave him alone and i was always suspicious of them 2 and there was things like, apparently she tried to kiss him and stuff but he pulled away.
to this day i dont know if anything went on they both deny it so.

men always do that they are *******s if it was the other way round they would soon want to talk about it wouldnt they.
maybe you should give him the benefit of the doubt for a bit,
hes still with you isnt he thats a good thing.

do you trust him though. cos thats what it comes down to at the end of the day.
also out of curiousity have you been cheated on before.?
cos i was and thats what made me so paranoid.

 

[x-kirsty-x]

No he wasnt cheating
but there was this one girl that wouldnt leave him alone and i was always suspicious of them 2 and there was things like, apparently she tried to kiss him and stuff but he pulled away.
to this day i dont know if anything went on they both deny it so.

men always do that they are b******s if it was the other way round they would soon want to talk about it wouldnt they.
maybe you should give him the benefit of the doubt for a bit,
hes still with you isnt he thats a good thing.

do you trust him though. cos thats what it comes down to at the end of the day.
also out of curiousity have you been cheated on before.?
cos i was and thats what made me so paranoid.

Yeah I've been cheated on before, by Daniel

It was the very very first night we got together, he kissed another girl when he was pissed. That was like 6 years ago and I know its stupid to still think of it but I do.

He's always either at work or with me and he leaves his phone lying about so I should trust him really...

Ok, Im gonna lay it on the line and tell you the truth, sometimes I wonder if he has another phone to text people, whenever he works late I drive up there to make sure his cars there...its stupid, I know that, but all it took was that one kiss to completely shatter the trust.

He says he would never cheat on me but then again of course he's gonna say that. Bloody hell, I just read that back and I sound like a right psycho

Think I've done enough rambling now so Im gonna shut up

 

[Robyn_]

you dont sounds like a psycho hunni,
and from reading that i completely understand, especially as it was him who cheated on you, its always going to be at the back of your mind now isnt it?
But think about it like this,
you have two beautiful children, he comes back to you at night,

everyone gets paranoid, i used to get it really bad in different stages i dunno why, the summer is like eurgh cos all these girls are walking around in short skirts and everyting and it makes me paranoid,

i do think id would be the same as you though hunni, i think your just scared he would do it.

personally if hes said that he wont then trust him in that, that he wont.
your beautiful so i dont know why he would want to anyways.

 

[x-kirsty-x]

Thank you so much hun, you've made me feel alot better

 

[frangelle]

IM also very paranoid right now, the OH's attitude towards me has changed so much lately, he's either ignoring me or having a go Everytime I try to speak to him he just has a go at me for starting

I told him the other day I feel like I'm single, and that if something was going on he has to tell me, but he just ignored me ... for a change!

As for your situation hun, you've mentioned you've been abit down on yourself lately, could this be the trigger of your insecurities? Also I don't think you can assume he's going to cheat on you based on one kiss 6 years ago on the night you got together.

Hope you feel better soon

 

[Robyn_]

IM also very paranoid right now, the OH's attitude towards me has changed so much lately, he's either ignoring me or having a go Everytime I try to speak to him he just has a go at me for starting

I told him the other day I feel like I'm single, and that if something was going on he has to tell me, but he just ignored me ... for a change!

As for your situation hun, you've mentioned you've been abit down on yourself lately, could this be the trigger of your insecurities? Also I don't think you can assume he's going to cheat on you based on one kiss 6 years ago on the night you got together.

Hope you feel better soon

Men always seem off during pregnancy, ive been told and well i noticed aswell, like, some its cos of whats happennig, men arent good with change and this is a big thing isnt it having a baby.
i wouldnt worry hunni

 

[Huddsgirl]

hi kirsty just been reading your post and i have been in the same boat as you.
My partner used to take his phone everywhere and he even took it to the toilet with him cause he didnt want me to get my hands on it.
Anyway i went on the computer one day and i found out he set up a screen name on yahoo and he had pictures (of naked women) and emails...... he had been using his web cam and chatting to other women. and when i got hold of his phone there was a message to a girl saying i love you ... and there was an email from this girl on my computer. he says his friend sent the message off his phone and that he was just friends with her.................. how stupid do they think we are.
i hope your situation turns out better. but intill u have solid proof , i wouldnt confront him.... it may like you said, drive u to breaking point
sorry i have rambled

 

[x-kirsty-x]

hi kirsty just been reading your post and i have been in the same boat as you.
My partner used to take his phone everywhere and he even took it to the toilet with him cause he didnt want me to get my hands on it.
Anyway i went on the computer one day and i found out he set up a screen name on yahoo and he had pictures (of naked women) and emails...... he had been using his web cam and chatting to other women. and when i got hold of his phone there was a message to a girl saying i love you ... and there was an email from this girl on my computer. he says his friend sent the message off his phone and that he was just friends with her.................. how stupid do they think we are.
i hope your situation turns out better. but intill u have solid proof , i wouldnt confront him.... it may like you said, drive u to breaking point
sorry i have rambled

Sorry you had to go through that

Im not sure if you mis-read my post but I actually said that he DOES leave his mobile lying about so Im not sure why I get so worried, its not like he's being secretive about anything.

Its cos he's been working late all the time just lately and he never answers his phone anymore and I just feel like he doesnt care anymore. Anyway, yesterday I decided to play him at his own game and I didnt text him or anything, when he rang I was just like 'Yeah whatever', proper laid back.

It soon worked cos he text me saying 'Babe, are we ok or what? Love u x' He just needed reminding that I can still play hard to get if I want to

 

[Strangeness]

Hun, I think deep down you probably know that he isn't cheating on you. He's not showing any real signs of cheating, just that he's another absent minded bloke they're all like it at some point! My hubby goes through weeks where he makes me feel like he doesn't want to be around me but he's usually just tired from work or something is on his mind. We have a big arguement and it's sorted out for another few months! I know you may have some trust issues and I think I've seen you say that you're not feeling your best after having Ryan but I really don't think you have anything to worry about. Enjoy your family hun xx

 

[Robyn_]

hi kirsty just been reading your post and i have been in the same boat as you.
My partner used to take his phone everywhere and he even took it to the toilet with him cause he didnt want me to get my hands on it.
Anyway i went on the computer one day and i found out he set up a screen name on yahoo and he had pictures (of naked women) and emails...... he had been using his web cam and chatting to other women. and when i got hold of his phone there was a message to a girl saying i love you ... and there was an email from this girl on my computer. he says his friend sent the message off his phone and that he was just friends with her.................. how stupid do they think we are.
i hope your situation turns out better. but intill u have solid proof , i wouldnt confront him.... it may like you said, drive u to breaking point
sorry i have rambled

Sorry you had to go through that

Im not sure if you mis-read my post but I actually said that he DOES leave his mobile lying about so Im not sure why I get so worried, its not like he's being secretive about anything.

Its cos he's been working late all the time just lately and he never answers his phone anymore and I just feel like he doesnt care anymore. Anyway, yesterday I decided to play him at his own game and I didnt text him or anything, when he rang I was just like 'Yeah whatever', proper laid back.

It soon worked cos he text me saying 'Babe, are we ok or what? Love u x' He just needed reminding that I can still play hard to get if I want to

lmfao.
thats what i used to do
give him a taste of his own, lol..
then he would be all careful around me.
good going hun

 

[trixipaws]

kirsty first of all i dont see why hed need 2 cheat- ur gorgeous!

i understand what u mean when u say u hav a gut feeling. i had the same about 15 months ago. u hav 2 try and suppress it, as girls who are paranoid/possessive tend 2 push their partners away (im not saying u are para/possessive, but dont let it spiral and get that way!) i kno its not easy, like i said i'v felt like that b4 too.

theres no evidence of him cheating, and there are clues that he isnt, like him not hiding his fone etc. try 2 remember those things!

 

[Josephine_Beth]

First of all, you are a stunning lass and seem like one with a good heart.

Maybe it’s just a hormonal thing? And I am sure he is innocent, however, this will eat away at you. Try to talk to him about it, sit him down and explain your feelings but make it clear that you are not pointing a finger, just needed to tell him.

Maybe you are missing something? Romance? Some time alone together? It could very well be something as simple as that, you just need some loving attention, try to suggest this to him.

Chin up lass

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

Hun i do have ot agree you are gorgeous he would have no need to find somone else i think maybe its a hromonal thing after all you did just have a baby and mayeb things seem worse then it is?
Maybe go out for dinner alone and spend some quality time together ?