Gender scan - should I?

[Lou12]

Hi all,

I'm having a debate with myself, and no side is actually winning!

I had my 20 week scan 2 weeks ago, and LO was all curled up asleep and refused to move. The sonographer got all the measurements, but I had to go back so they could check the heart, cord and face. So I went back on Friday, and baby was curled up again! I was in there for over half an hour turning this way and that, I had a little walk and jump about... LO still refused to move. After turning this way and that with the sonographer jamming the whatsit everywhere so much I was starting to hurt - he finally managed to get everything. Except gender.

So glad that baby is happy and healthy, but disappointed we couldn't find out what it is. I've always wanted to find out!!!

We've been thinking of going to Hello Baby in St. Helens in a couple of weeks for a gender scan. They've said if it happens again, they send me out for a walk and some chocolate and a fizzy drink which sometimes gets them moving and if still nothing, they'll book me in for another one free of charge until we find out.

However, I'm now thinking do I really want to go through it all again? I do want to know, but I've lasted this long, and I've got less than 17 weeks now. It just seems that maybe LO wants to be a surprise?

OH doesn't mind waiting, but would've liked to know.

Thoughts please???

 

[Princess81]

I was team yellow, which I found frustrating at times but then at 33 weeks I found out in an additional scan (due to prem labour) that I was having a boy. I was upset to find out, wish it had been a surprise. It still was a surprise for my o/h mind, never told him the sex x

 

[twinkles]

Listen to ur little one and have the surprise! X

 

[Lolly85x]

Oh I think your wee one wants to give you a surprise!!! I'm team yellow and loving it, so glad we never found out now x

 

[jjackson90]

Listen to ur little one and have the surprise!

 

[cosmicgirl]

I'd want to find out!
I'm going to take a peek in st Helen's on 30th April, I believe they are very good x

 

[x_larlybelle_x]

I would have to find out! I did with Henry and so glad I did as I wanted a boy. If I'd have waited as had a girl I would've been over the moon but slightly disappointed at the same time. It also allowed me to buy gender specific clothes and decorate his nursery into somethin more interesting than neutral xx

 

[SARAHSTAR]

It sounds as though little one is making the decision for you hun!

I'm in a dilemma myself, got my 20 week scan on 22nd May and still don't know what to do!
Part of me thinks it would be nice to have a surprise and the not knowing might keep me going through labour!
The other part of me likes to be organised and also I don't like calling my baby 'it' instead of he/she!!!

Hmmmm, maybe my bubs will make the decision for me too - he/she certainly didn't want to give much away at the 12 week scan!

xxxxxxx

 

[Karate Kid]

As the other ladies have said looks like LO want's you to have a nice suprise after all that pushing! x

 

[frankie247]

I would find out - I did with mine, although she's hidden her face at every opportunity

There were a couple of reasons - one being I'm so impatient, having the technology to tell us means I wanted to know. I wanted to narrow down my name choices and start bonding with my bump by calling it at least 'her/she' and trying out various names but perhaps the most compelling for me is that I'm a very organised person and I wanted to buy clothes and other stuff in the right colours not have tonnes of yellow/green/beige clothes. The day we found out was so exciting, hubby cried because it was so amazing and he really wanted a girl and I've never ever seen him cry! I don't think it will make me any less determined to push her out because I'm desperate to meet my daughter!

There are no right or wrong choices, all we can do is give you our individual opinion but what you should do is listen to your own instinct - what do you want to do? Regardless of what we say!

 

[EmmaN27]

We wanted to know and was disappointed they was unable to tell us at the 20 week scan so we booked a private gender scan with Babybond and found out we was having a girl. We wanted to know so we could plan and buy the right clothes etc. I have a couple of friends who have remained team yellow. Only you can decide what to do! x

 

[maybe baby]

I felt a bit like I'd opened all my Xmas presents at once when I accidentally found out at 13 weeks, next pregnancy I'll try and wait, if was you I'd wait it's like it's meant to be!

Xx

 

[Lou12]

Thanks everyone! I think I've decided to wait and see. I say "think" because I'm not a very patient person, so it could change haha!!!

 

[twinkles]

Well done Lou! X

 

[SARAHSTAR]

I admire your willpower Lou!...(for the time being lol)