first pregnancy and scared!

[dolly]

Hi everyone! can I just say, that reading all these forum chats is amazing. It restores your faith in human nature - and that people do really care about others.

This is my first pregnancy at 31, and I'm scared to say the least. Estatic as well. Am in a loving relationship, and we had been trying for a while, but it was still a shock!

I have PCO and my partner has a low sperm count, and some are misformed, so now I am convinced my baby will be disabled.

I am also terrified of m/c. I am 6 weeks and every minute of every day is filled with nasty thoughts, instead of nice, warm, bouncy baby dreams.

Also, I have just made an appointment to see my doctor, I will be 7 weeks when I see him. I did not tell the receptionsist it was because I was pregnant. Should I? am I better going straight to a hospital? I have to wait 2 weeks to get an appointment and am worried I will see him for 2 minutes and he'll go "go to the hospital ante natal clinic" I am assuming he needs to refer me though?

what happens from here? do I get scans now?


xxxx

 

[Jo]

Congrats hun

Nasty thoughts are all a prt of the early days so don't worry too much

as for the Gp he will prob just tell you to make a booking in appointment with the midwife (about 12 weeks here)

hope that helped a bit

any Q's just ask we are all lovely

 

[Emmylou]

Hiya

Welcome to he forum, everything you are feeling is natural - i have been petrified of mc since finding out, especially for the first few weeks after we found out, I thought everytime i went to the loo i would see blood. In actual fact bleeding in the first tri is common so that doesn't even mean mc necessarily.

With regards to seeing your doctor, do you have a mw based at your doctors surgery, as you will need to book in to see her - at my docs i hd to see doc first, who then booked me in with mw - about 2 weeks later - then she booked me in for my dating scan - usually at 12 weeks but mine was early at 10 weeks.

Call your docs back and speak to the receptionist, explain you have just had a positive test, and therefore are unsure whether you need to see the doc or book straight in with the mw

Congratulations on your BFP! You have plenty more exciting things to come - tiredness, nausea - and the best thing is you don't really mind (I say that but you know) as it is a good sign that baby is developing and whooshing hormones all round your body!


Em

 

[kirlykird]

hi congratulations and of course a big congratulations to you!

I think Jo and Emmylou have given you some good advise there so I'm just going to say good luck and looking forward to seeing you around the forum

 

[Vicky_Gazerimmer]

Hi Hun,

I totally understand what your going though, this is my first baby too and I have been up and down with various worries and paranoias.
It is perfectly normal.
Best thing to do is chat to your midwife or the ladies here, I went though a phase in the early weeks worrying that my baby will have Downs Syndrome (due to eastneders I think) but I spoke to my midwife and the ladies on here and got the facts and now I feel much better.

I had my first scan yesterday and the baby looks well, after your first scan you will fell much better too

 

[Cat&Noah]

Hi hun, nice to meet ya!

Like the others said its all part of the hormone thing, to worry like mad about every possible (and impossible) thing that could go wrong, and that doesnt stop after they are born either, as you continue to worry that they have things wrong with them! Dont worry about the low spe thing, cause this has no corrilation to birth defects at all, and your just as likely to have a happy healthy bouncing baby as anyone else.

What you have done so far is right, most doctors like that you notify them first, and they will then have you book in with a midwife. Once you do see your midwife dont be afraid to ask questions, she is going to become your best friend and most trusted source of information. So many women end up worrying themselves cause that didnt want to ask a stupid question, but always feel free to talk to your midwife about anything and everything that bothers you, they will not think your stupid, and will be happy to help you and advise you on everything to do with your pregnancy.

And of course were all here for you too.
Congratulations, and heres hoping to a happy and healthy 9 months! Good luck, your body and emotions are going to go mad, like you never thought possible!

 

[Emma22]

hi dolly, welcome to the forum

as the other have said think its all quite natural to worry, my first pg too and im constantly worried about mc.

when i found out I booked an appointment to see my regular doctor and she was really helpful, she has referred me to a midwife which im waiting for my appointment now. i think most people get seen by mw between 10 and 12 weeks so dont panic too much at the moment about only seeing your doc next week.

have a happy and healthy pg and welcome to the world of raging hormones

 

[cloud9]

Welcome to the forum and congrats on your pregnancy....I started feeling a ltittle more confident when my morning sickenss came but like others said i think everyone worries about it

 

[Peanut]

Hiya

Everyone has given great advice, so I just wanted to say helloooooo

Pea x

 

[Dinski]

Hi Dolly,

Like you I am also 31 and this is my first pregnancy. I think it goes without saying that all women worry about something going wrong. Its a natural response especially when there are so many horror stories around. Just try to remember that good news doesn't really get reported and think of all the women out there who have had perfectly heathly pregnancies and had healthy babies. If they can do it, so can you.

Go and see your doctor who will refer you to your local hospital who will contact you with a 12 week scan date. I got a whole lot of paperwork through the post about a week after I'd seen my doctor.

Good luck with it all and remember we are all in the same boat!

 

[dolly]

hi guys, just wanted to say thanks! I feel so much better, and relieved at havng such great advice at the touch of a button. You all sound lovely!
speak to you soon
Dolly xx