Finding it hard to cope with emotions :'-(

[AndreaJayne]

Hi,

I wondered if anyone else is finding it emotionally draining being pregnant, or being over sensitive, had an argument with the OH last night and my emotions are all over, I don't know if im right in my reaction or whether I am being too sensitive.

To pain the picture, I am 23 and OH is nearly 28 and he has always called me immature in arguements which is so annoying, my friends feel he is the immature one... anyway we had finished watching tv and he randomly came out with 'I want you to start saving (for the baby) so I can see you are making an effort'. So I said to him, I do not have to make an effort or prove anything to you of course I will save for my own child! I also mentioned that it was very patronising to say that to me, so I got upset and went to sleep in the spare bedroom crying and he just stayed in bed and went to sleep. I wanted him to comfort me and say sorry to me for hurting feelings but just cared about going to sleep! It made me so upset and feel like he didn't care and it worries me that Im not going to be able to cope emotionally if he is like this throughout the pregnancy?

Sorry to rabbit on but I just want to see it from other points of view, I feel he was in the wrong but it could be me being over sensitive.

I want to sort it out asap as I don't want to cause my baby upset or stress at all.

xxxx

 

[Sleepy sue]

Hi Hun, firstly and secondly your oh.
Omg how insensitive of him!! I hope you pointed out that it is his child to and just as it takes two to make it, it takes two to provided for it!!! You definitely did not over react his comment was hurtful and as for making the effort he should try having 10 billion pregnancy hormones buzzing round his body! He has no idea

Let him apologise to you Hun, you def deserve better and the first few weeks are so emotionally draining he should be supporting and comforting you xxxxx

 

[lanny]

I cry and moan the WHOLE 9 months so your not alone lol,
I don't think your being over sensitive It was a harsh thing for him to say.
I don't think they Eva understand what it's like to have all these hormones running about. I tell o/h how tired I am and he's like it's only an inch big they don't have a clue xxxxx

 

[BevG]

he shouldnt say things like that, men are dense tho, they dont quite get us being hormonal and how to tread lightly. im not an emotional person usually unless it comes to crying over films. ive had thoughts recently thet were weird and girly and emotional and got a bit upset with my oh but then i took a min and thought about it and realised that those werent the way i usually think or act and it was me being overly emotional (damn hormones) so i stopped myself and later told my oh about it and we laughed. he laughs when i cant stop my eyes leaking for no reason, generally we both laugh at me being a hormonal mess but if he got upset with me i dread to think what would happen lol.

 

[k8_005]

Men are insensitive and mostly they don't mean to be he obviously didn't think that one thru. My oh has taken to apologisin every time I'm sick I'm like don't apologise just help around the house or give.me a hug etc and when I do somethin stupid don't laugh at me as right now I'm hormonal!!!! It's a man thing xxxx hugs xxxx

 

[AndreaJayne]

Thank you so much everyone I feel so much better, I have given him the cold shoulder, it has now paid off as he is taking me for a meal to say sorry and show me how much he loves me and will give me lots of cuddles. I can't help keeping in the back of my mind that this wont be the last time that it happens as men are such dip sticks!!

I really appreciate all your comments so much and want you all to know that it has made me feel so much better and positive, makes me feel like shedding a tear when I know your all here to help 'pick me back up'!!!!

Thank you again!