Fighting A Losing Battle

[DebbieM]

I've not read this whole thread.. sorry... I have to read and run a lot but wanted to reply. I just want to say also that if your Mum can't be supportive to you about something that you obviously are really fighting hard to do (and doing very well, may I add), that she should not make any comments at all. I did see you have told her this so good on you.

I am assuming your Mum is from the time where all babies were bottle fed so she doesn't really *get* breastfeeding? A lot of women in their 40'/50's are like that so she is quite normal BUT, you are her daughter and you're going through a tough time and she really needs to back off and think about YOU as well as EVIE. You are doing brilliantly. Don't let the buggers get you down xxxxxxx

 

[dannii87]

Thank you SO much! You lot are amazing.

I feel so much better now. Love you all!! x

 

[Suzie and Faith]

had to reply to offer hugs.
I think it is important for your mum to support you and to be there through the breastfeeding diffuculties - keep explaining how important it is to you.

You should not give in and give her formula unless YOU want to.
I got to a stage where I was desperate to give up and I needed my mum to say 'it's ok to stop' but before that it was really good how she encouraged me.

You are doing great hunxxxx

 

[Becky]

Just wanted to add that it takes a stubborn determined attitude like you have to succeed at breastfeeding. It is hard to cope with a crying baby and more so when you're the only one who can provide the solution to that cry and that's why if you weren't so single-minded you would have given up by now.

You are doing a great job and you are putting Evie first, it would be so easy to put her onto formula and you could share the burden with other people who would be willing to give her a bottle but you've decided not to take the easy option. In my opinion that's what being a mum is all about.

If it is something you really want to do then stick to your guns. Give yourself milestones to reach (another night/week etc) and when you reach them you can feel good about it.

Oh and never never never make a decision in the night time. Wait until the morning and if you still feel the same then go for it.

But remember that no matter what you decide you are being a good mummy to Evie because you are making your decisions with her in mind.

 

[skyraaa]

hun i cant really reply 2 this coz iv only been bf for 5 days but i just wanna send u lots of these and ur mum shud b suporting u whatever u decide xx

 

[zebrastripes]

Evie doesn't need formula- she's getting exactly what she needs which is milk from you!
I know it sounds impossible at the minute- but honestly, your body and supply are constantly adapting to meet all of evie's needs and you are doing so well don't listen to your mum, she means well but this is something which YOU are doing..actually I'm going to pm you