feeling really stressed

[hannahbet20]

over the past three days ive just felt so stressed mollys perfect but with my attention on her and everything my two boys are really tesing my patience ive just been crying i feel as if they are having a dig at me they make mess and destroy toys and things whilst im not looking and i ask them not to do it and the same things happen over and over i feel useless like my control over them is just slipping away, lee has been working from 8am till about 9pm and hes at his dads for the weekend he just laughs at me i find myself shouting at them and then i just feel bad, i really do feel like crap i don't know what to do. it just seems to be getting worse and im too scared to go out on my own with all three of them so i know they are bored so its like its my fault but i cant drive and its been rainy and miserable, we did go to the park last week and were out in the garden the beginning of the week with the paddling pool but we are stuck in now and they are just driving me mad house is a pit and im usually a clean freak im too drained to bother.

 

[lauramumof2]

i seen one of these baby progs once and it sounds similar to your situation. I think the key thing she done with them was, to get them out of the house a walk or something. The destruction was less because they werent as full of beans. I know you said the weather has been bad though. What age are the boys? Can they go to some kind of playgroup thing? As for oh, kick his ass. He might work but thats no reason not to take your conerns seriously.

The bad weather wont help your mood either. I dont know what other people think but I find wee boys harder work than wee girls.

Its really easy to loose your patience so dont feel bad about it, i bet if we started a thread for people who didnt loose their patience it would have no replies.

 

[hannahbet20]

yeah i really want to take them out more im learning to drive at the mo they just have lots of energy and im chasing them about all day trying to keep them both happy they are 3 and 1 and a half but my little one has been walking since he was 9 months, jake goes to nursery for a couple of hours 3 times a week but i find that a mission walking there and back with 3 kids for just 2 and a half hours its hard i feel really guilty but i just spend the whole day cleaning and trying to keep them happy we nearly always go swimming or to the park or do something as a family at the weekend. i know my disaplin isnt up to much i dont like shouting but i dont know what else to do i try time out but that just leaves me stressed trying to get them to sit still, i feel like i really need my oh to step up hes just not interested hes working so hard and he pays for everything, but i dont get a break i get up in the night i look after them and clean on weekends and he just thinks because he works so he doesnt have to help me at all.

he keeps telling me its easy and he wishes he could sit around all day but i dont he thinks i make a big deal out of nothing and just ends up making me feel bad.

 

[lauramumof2]

I think your oh needs a reality check honey. Its easy to fall into the trap that if your oh pays for everything then you feel as if you have to do everything else. Thats when your self esteem starts to fall. Have you ever seen mums on strike? I have yet to see a programme where the cocky dad isnt a bit more sheepish by the time the mum comes back.


You sound like a great mum taking them here there and everywhere .
Im learning to drive too its a flipping nightmare, I hate it but I like you need to be able to do it to ferry kids around.

They are all pretty close together and with the best will in the world you would have to be supernanny to acheive harmony but what you can do is not to beat your self up about it.

You are right about the shouting, i dont do it anymore because quite frankly it doesnt do any good and then they see what buttons to press and I beleive even at that age they know

I think what is called for is for you to get a babysitter, get him who pays to pay for a flippin night out because with 3 kids under 4 you deserve it.!!!!!!!

 

[hannahbet20]

ha ha yes they do know how to push my buttons i see them smile when i tell them they are naughty, little monsters they usually are so good im just worried over nothing really just a few bad days. we have had such an upheaval recently we have moved house and mollys arrived its all just very stressfull my little boy jake said to me the other day i dont want this house i want my other one mummy, we had to move to a bigger place but i feel guilty we have lots of memories in the old place its hard trying to keep them happy and molly at the same time, thanks for ur help youve made me feel much better, i cant wait to get driving ill be able to take them so much more places we can do a lot more.

i think ill have a word with my oh im looking for part time work at the moment and im starting a course in september i need his help more, hes just not taking me seriously.

thankx again