Feeling really low - Will I ever feel normal??

[happy-chick]

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[Alfiesmummy]

oh chick i dont know what to say, i think maybe your friends arent ignoring it but it must be awkward to adress it as they may not want to upset you, but maybe if you could get one of them one on one and try have a chat say you feel as if everyones expecting too much of you too soon. I know you are happy for your friend but maybe they could handle this a bit more sensitively as its just going to hurt your feelings!
when i had a misscarriage my friend had her baby a couple of weeks later, she text me the next day as she said she wasnt sure how i would deal with it but also knew i would of been upset if she didnt tell me. she lived next door to my mum so when i visited my mum i decided to suck it up go round and see her, the baby was 4 days old, and she was gorgeous, i held my nerve, i held her and coo'd over her and after about half n hour i left congratulated my friend hugs/kisses etc, then i went back to my mums and she asked how i was, i stood there said "she is so beautifull!" and then i broke down, i sobbed and sobbed for 2 days i didnt get out of bed didnt eat didnt wash didnt get dressed didnt sleep. Then after 2 days i stopped crying, got up, showered ate a slice of toast and then said mum im off home, she took me home, i got into bed went to sleep and woke up the next day i decided from that day i would look forward not backwards, i was still devestated but i knew iu needed to move on. Later that day i went out bought a box and put all the baby grows id bought, shoes clothes teddies etc into the box, wrote a letter, then put the lid on the box, kisssed it and said that i would never forget, but i had to move on, ask for forgiveness, and thats what i did. every now and then i take out the box and look in it and cry, put the lid back on and put it away, kiss it, say ill never forget and ask for forgiveness and carry on. It hurts hun, itll get better with time, but youll never be over it, that box means more than any gold or diamond or any material object but its helped me deal with things too. I think that time is the best healer, if you need to talk to anyomne please pm me hun

sorry to ramble on hun,

 

[Happybunny]

Hi Jo,

Sorry you are having such a sad time. Of course it is completely natural to feel this way, especially since you are still going through the bleeding. I still feel like that some days and I am two months down the line. I am still completely the same about being around others talking about babies...you can't help the way you feel.
I think it is normal to want to be with your OH...you can be yourself with your partner...if you feel crap then you can let it show. Even with our best mates, we feel the need to paint on a smile and trudge through because we don't want them to feel embarraaed or sad for us.
You are not wallowing...you are still going through your mc, there is no time limit to recover...just give yourself time. You will feel better when you are ready. Just take each day as it comes, I promise you will feel better eventually and you will want to go out with friends. But for now, just do what you feel is right for you and don't worry about anyone else.
Lots and lots of hugs sweetie
Michelle
xxxxx

 

[loz]

Hi sweetie, so sorry you're feeling so bad. You are so completely normal with this. I think people dont always know what to say and sometimes just think that if they ignore the problem it will go away and that you'll get over it which is not very helpful to you. I am just the same - I cant even face meeting up with friends at the moment or talking to people other than my close family on the phone! Yea for caller ID! I am never usually like this and feel a bit bad. I have a pregnant friend and friend with a young baby but dont know how I will react when I see them - not their fault obviously but difficult emotionally. Hopefully this will get easier with time. I am trying to think a few weeks at a time and plan things to look forward to e.g. holiday, buying clothes!!
Hugs to you.
Felt v annoyed at smug Charlotte Church last night! 21 and has it all, bah humbug!!! Sorry I am bitter and twisted at the moment!

 

[sonia205]

Aww hunni - i feel really sorry for you.

Those people sounds a tad rude - they really should think before they start talking, its just plain insensitive.

Good luck 4 the scan on monday, i for one will b thinkin of u

I think ive mainly said what ive needed to say thru MSN lol

You know where i am if u need to talk, ill always b here 4 u huni xx

 

[happy-chick]

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[valentine]

Hi happy_chick,

I am so sorry to read about your bad day and your experiences - my heart goes out to you and I really hope that you start to feel better soon, it's awful feeling low.

I think everyone's advice was brilliant, especially Alfiesmummy - would doing something like she did give you any closure (if that's what you need just now)?

Thinking of you

Love

Valentine xxx

 

[tracey 2]

hey hun

There are no words that i can say to make you feel any better and the advice the other girls have given you is great and there is not much more i can add to that except that you know im here for you anytime you need me hun ok.

Im glad you have got great support from your partner that must really help, just follow your emotions through day by day if you want to cry then cry or scream then scream.

look after yourself huni

 

[happy-chick]

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[happy-chick]

Just wanted to let you know ive done a pg test today and its negative!! YEY hopefully I will stop bleeding soon!

There is a VERY faint line but very hard to see. Do you think this will mean I will stop bleeding soon?

 

[Ginnymarie]

hi
so sorry I have not been on msm of late, I am back to work tommorow and we are moving flats soon so I'm going to be a busy bee.

so sorry you are feeling so bad, I know what you mean about the dreams, I have been getting them x4 a night and yes I sobbed for half an hour with my oh just cos I was hungry ??? I wonder if your hormones are all up the shoot, I know mine are, you should see my spots ! Anyhoo, take each day as it comes and maybe consider the herbal root, I believe the black cohosh has stopped my bleeding and I take iron, consult a registered natropath though don't take anything with other meds and defo nothing if you do fall pregnant.

Don't worry about loosing pals, if they are real friends they will wait for you, I saw my work mates today and you could tell they didn't want to ask about it but I forced myself to talk bout it and they were quite shocked and changed subject but I wasn't going to have that, I said look guys this is very common and awareness should be raised, the more you know the less scary it is, anyway they relaxed when they realised I was not going to get nippy or cry....I can do that with my oh, mum,sister etc...

I hope you will stop bleeding soon, you must feel so drained, your energy levels will be so low, wsh I could wave a magic wand and once you don't have this physical reminder I think everything will fall into place.

Maybe try to herbal route, lots of rest and tlc from hubbie and ba humbug to all those charlotte church types who have it all, your time as will mine will come.

good luck and take care pet
Gemmaxxx

 

[happy-chick]

Cheers Gemma,

Good luck with the moving, good your staying busy. Also good luck at work tomorrow.

You sounds really positive at the moment, I hope it rubs off on me hehe

Will hopefully speak on MSN soon, if not then please drop me an email to let me know how things are going for you!

Thanks for being so supportive, you've been great hun!

xxxxxx