Feeling hopeless

[Sparklegirl]

Gp appt was disheartening to say the least. The upshot is apparently I am just too fat to help so thats the end of that.

I asked if they would do a laparsocopy to see if I can get some answers but nope, I am too fat. Ok so I asked about the 21 day bloods to see if I am ovulating, but another no for the same reason. He doubts I am ovulating so the sum total of the whole appointment is that I probably wont have a baby

Shame the only appt was the day before my wedding anniversary, I feel like a broken mess

 

[MrsS15]

So sorry to hear this hun. Instead of shooting you down did the GP indicate how much weight you would need to lose to get some help and offer you help to lose it? I do know a friend of my SIL was the same, she tried for about 6 years and they didn't help her until she lost the weight you could go private but I think their views are the same - well for ivf it's under 30 bmi in the NHS and under 35 for private patients (not saying you need this, just giving an example).

Try not to let it dampen your anniversary hun. Speak to your hubby and come up with a plan, having something to work towards always gives me a new push.

Hope you're okay xxx

 

[liz85]

I'm so sorry to hear this but your gp doesn't sound very helpful?!! I would go to someone else a little more helpful.

 

[elsa16]

Hi Sparkle, it's so awful when you feel helpless TTC. A friend of mine is a doctor and she would continually remind me that up to two years is still a perfectly ''normal" time to be trying. Bloody frustrating and when you're TTC I know you don't care what's normal. What she said gave me peace of mind in some way though. I think you should maybe go to someone a bit more compassionate and helpful rather than someone more keen on getting through their list of patients quickly! Xxxx

 

[MoominGirl]

I'm sorry you've had such a negative attitude from your GP. I would have thought you could still have basic tests even if you've a high BMI as I thought things like PCOS can be associated with weight gain. Personally I'd try and find a more sympathetic GP. The fact he doesn't think you're ovulating but doesn't think it's an issue would be a problem for me. I've been very lucky with my experience with doctors so far but reading on here tells me you've got to be prepared to be persistent if need be. We've not used contraception for over 2 years and in hindsight I wish I'd pushed for testing a bit earlier as they seem to be finding problem after problem at the moment and although I'm glad to be getting treatment now, the impatient part of me wishes it was all done and dusted!! The worst part is the time you wait for everything.

 

[treetrunks]

Really your GP cant be guessing whether you're ovulating or not? I really am sick of discrimination against ladies who aren't in some sort of bmi bracket. Im sorry you were made to feel helpless, there are plenty of women who still conceive at a plus size. Our female bodies are all different sizes and weights and you should be supported and offered tests regardless.
Everyday in town I see plus size women pushing babies in prams, they cant all have been a size 10 to begin with?
I hope you catch soon lovely, fingers crossed for you xx

 

[Loveandpeace]

Sparkegirl really feeling for you! I think the attitude of your GP is disgusting and it doesn't appear that he was in anyway helpful to you or offered any solution or hope.
Can you afford to have any tests done privately, or at least get a second opinion? Don't lose hope!xx