Feeling down and alone :(

[Meggiiiii]

I'm 23 weeks today and feeling so down and alone. I feel like I have no one to talk to and have so much going on I'm so stressed! Just want it to get better , does anyone else feel like this ? Xx

 

[BettyHoop]

Yep! I'm with you there. I've had a bit of a time of it and as much as this baby is definitely wanted I've found I haven't been able to enjoy the pregnancy at all because of everything that's gone on. You know you aren't alone - your baby is with you and will now always be with you. They can't give you words of advice right now but try and take some comfort from that. Also remember that everything you feel is heightened due to raging hormones during pregnancy. Nothing ever stays the same forever, that is the only thing I can guarantee in life so I can bet things will change and it will get better, and you have your baby's arrival to look forward to. Xx

 

[Meggiiiii]

I just feel so low all the time and it's really getting me down , I think it's mainly because I want her so bad and can't wait for her to be here but her dad doesn't speak to me anymore and won't speak to me as he doesn't want her , he already has a son and that's what hurts , & I know things will get better but would just wish it was better now! When she kicks I realise how lucky I am and that gives me comfort! Hope your alright xx

 

[BettyHoop]

I'm sorry to hear the dad isn't talking to you. Do you have other friends you can talk to? Also, if you mention how you feel to your midwife she can put you in touch with help groups perhaps or maybe even local mums groups. I contacted a local doula and she runs a group once a month which I'll be going to. Xx

 

[CoolNoMore]

Hi Meggiiii! I'm really sorry to hear that you're having a rough time. Have you heard of Mush? I only just heard about it yesterday, but it seems to be a sort of Tinder for Mums/Mums to be. Might be worth a look?

I get you though, it's a lonely time, even with the best intentions, it's difficult for people to understand what you're going through. Just remember that this will pass, and baby smiles are the best!

 

[Tigeress]

Really sorry your feeling this way hun, it's really hard to try and break the emotions, try doing things you enjoy and distracting yourself.. it may help xx

 

[M1chelle]

I just found Mush yesterday too! What a great idea!

 

[Meggiiiii]

Well after 2x 12 hour shifts I'm knackered but been busy which has helped , I would speak to my midwife but due to past history I don't want to be judged or it effect when she is here if that make sense. I suffer from depression but this feels different , I have heard of it il take a look at it thank you! I do have a lot of friends but I don't think they understand how I'm feeling and I don't want to bug them either xxx

 

[JillMcCoy]

Just wanted to say i hope you are feeling OK. I had prenatal depression with my first and I felt the same. My sister and I had fallen out and my mum and dad were making things worse which delayed us speaking. We were both pregnant with our first baby and due 10 days apart and missed a massive bonding time because of stupidness. It really effected me and I really felt alone. I too just joined mush and a book club so I can have some kid free time. It seems to be helping this time. Xx

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[may1718]

I'm 23 weeks today and feeling so down and alone. I feel like I have no one to talk to and have so much going on I'm so stressed! Just want it to get better , does anyone else feel like this ? Xx

yes i do sometimes and other times i don't i lack motivation to do things but feel its worse when i stay indoors all day and better on the days I'm busy and active.
currently seeing perinatal team and psychiatrist who will support me throughout pregnancy and up to a year after birth due to depression. i feel a lot better knowing theres support for me I'm taking medications that are safe during pregnancy but still don't feel great about taking them .

if you do get too down i suggest seeking help as really helped me with feeling down and hopeless still have some bad days but also some ok ones.
this might help to reassure you but if your ever going to experience feeling down in your life pregnancy is one of the most common times to feel it , one of the reasons being the hormone surges , happened more to me in very early pregnancy but felt awful and now i don't feel so awful.

so i am hopeful for you that things will improve, but seeking help might help as well.

good luck with everything and your baby x