Feeling all alone and depressed...

[Baileysmummy]

My eldest son went camping yesterday with my mum and im missing him already, i thought i could use the time to bond with my youngest baby but he still is pushing me away and im feeling a little low cos cameron would have given me cudlles etc, so i have a son here who i love very much but getting the feeling hes not wanting to be with me..

I dont get cameron back untill monday evening, im at work tomorrow for 5 hours then im bck to being with a child who doesnt want to be around me..

Any idea's what i can do with him to make him want me..

Sorry if i sound silly, but its getting to me now..

 

[Alfiesmummy]

SSS dont take it personally some babies just dont want the attention, i was always that way as a baby mum said i hated cuddles hated being picked up would cry and want to go down or get away,it wasnt anything personal i was just very independant even as a baby a newborn i hated it. There are several pictures of me having a bottle propped against a pillow as i wouldnt even tolerate being held for that. i would try some activities together try get him to colour, dont have the telly on, go for walks if he walks ok take him out with his reigns, the weather is nice go to the park, play on the swings go to an activity playground take him to the beach build a sandcastle together play a game in the garden with a ball take him for his dinner somewhere there are alot of things that you can do that doesnt involve cuddles, maybe he just doesnt want them but you dont have to bond through cuddles try just spending time with him! make the most of this one on one time

 

[Nicola]

I was the same too, very independant baby/toddler/child and mum seems to think I drove her nuts with it. I did however really engage with her when we done really exciting actities, baking a cake I loved, anything that involved cutting things out and sticking them on something else etc. I know with a baby you can't get him to help with mixing a cake batter etc but I'm sure you'll think of something. How old is he?

 

[Baileysmummy]

Thanks girls, will take on board what you have said..

he is 2 in june

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

if hes 2 in june then hes probably at the age where he has realised he is his own little person and is exploring his independence. Be proud that you have a little man who will probably grow up to be very independent and strong! You must be doing something right!

I agree with the activities, spend time laughing and playing with him and let him come to you for cuddles, im sure if you give him some space he will let you know when he wants to be cuddled.

Enjoy your time together xx