Dog problems :(

[Hope81]

We have a 1 year old puppy that is a quite good behaved dog, not aggressive at all, knows and obeys quite a few commands and is quite submissive.
All good until a stranger comes near...
Then she will pull, cry, bark, whine, cough, choke, pee herself to go meet the stranger to get petted... She will jump on them (never does that with us) and generally does like crazy.
We tried absolutely everything... To distract her with a favorite treat, cooked sausages etc she couldn't care less for whatever you are offering her...
To remove her repeatedly from the room until she calm approaches the visitors (I gave up 90! Min later as no progress was made and every time I was getting her back the room and she was seeing the visitor all hell would brake loose)
I tried to tell her off, sent her to cool down corner, or other times praise her for even 1 sec of calmness ...
Absolutely nth worked...
We asked an instructor who assessed her and said she will grow out of it...

Meantime while we have visitors she spends all the time in other room alone or in her crate because simply its impossible to deal with...
Today my fil came to help fix the basement. She saw him for a sec and all the hell broke loose... My oh tried to calm her down but it was impossible... She left her with me upstairs while they are downstairs working. It's been 3 h and the puppy cries and whines non stop...I am at the breaking point really... Nth will distract her, no a treat or a bone or a toy...
I have no idea what I am going to do if she will react like that to the bean.
Also in 2 months my parents will come to meet the bean and they will stay here a whole month!!!!!! What the hell I am going to do then???

Please anyone any idea that I didnt try yet?

 

[Hope81]

We tried and tried, last idea was to tether it to the dinning table to still be with us then let it approach and if it gets super excited then back to the tethering...
It didn't work at all maybe if I do that for a week or so...
The puppy whined absolutely all time including now 1 h after my fil left I am out of my mind with worry and rage...

 

[Humesy]

maybe having ur parents there will help her settle a bit if its just excitement??? xx

 

[Hope81]

I hope so though God knows what will we do until then... I mean we can't crate her repeatedly for a week or so until she accepts them and calms down

 

[Humesy]

cud u try get her out n about with strangers more? xxx

 

[Hope81]

We do that for months and months twice per day in her daily walks. Same things happens every time regardless what we try. With dogs and other people or bicycles...
We tried to socialize her quite a lot when she was little but obviously either that wasn't enough or sth went terribly wrong??? Or it's just a breed problem with golden retrievers being so social...

Thank you for your help I am quite at my end of patience and ideas...
She is just a perfect puppy while only with us

 

[Humesy]

oh gosh i have no clue, sounds like she gets plenty of exercise and socialising . sorry i havent been of more help xxx

 

[Hope81]

Don't worry, helps to just have someone listen

 

[PyscoFalcon]

Okay first up you need the help of the strangers.

When they come in tell them not to look at the dog, touch the dog or even acknowladge the existance.

When the dog jumps up the person is to fold there arms and turn back on the dog. The person may get dizzy by constantly turning the back to the dog (dog will keep running to the front and jumping up to get attention)
Eventually the dog will give up and go away.

It WILL take time tho and needs everyones support and understanding. The person might be spinning for quit a while. do NOT even look at the dog until person sat down and the dog is calm. THEN person/you can call dog over.

PS when she whines/cries ignore her - it's like a kid having a tantrum and even telling her off will get the attention she wants.

 

[Hope81]

Thank you, tried that one before well you can do it for that long before you actually have to accommodate the guests and make them comfy...
The result is that she is laying down and she tries to approach them crawling towards them meantime crying and coughing and choking from the excitement...
We practice that when she gets overexcited sometimes when my oh comes back from work and it usually works but with strangers is a different story...

 

[kra0]

This sounds like my dog! She's just turned one and is a jack Russell. She jumps up to greet us when we come in and goes a bit crazy if we give her attention so like above we ignore her and ask visitors to do the same. She's just so over friendly and very social lol but it can be a little annoying. We trained her to sit at her side of the room on her dog blanket when she's being too hyper or if someone comes in and she knows not to move from it unless told and by then she has calmed down. It took a long time to get it to work and she will sit there and stare us out and whine a little. We had no choice because with baby due within the next few weeks we don't want her jumping all over us! Could this be an option for you to try? At the time i would have argued with anyone that it would never work but after a lot of patience it did Xxxx

 

[mummy2b19]

im sure phsco falcons idea is a tried and tested one. could uou ask a friend to come over just for the purpos of dog training thrn you can do it for aslong as needz be? x

 

[Hope81]

Kra she already does that. just when visitors come nth applies anymore she is never jumping on us. She sometimes gets a little hyper but she still obeys all the commands and she calms down. She knows by now sit, down, paw, calm down, roll over, leave it, go to bed, wait, come, go to your mat, guard, bark, drop it, go potty, go home, hide, carry and lights. We do obedience with her every single day and though I am clearly more dominant to her than my oh she still obeys all of his commands.
She is generally not a hyper dog unless she is outside playing.
I am afraid we don't have the kind of friends that they can pop in only for training purposes but the instructor we got her tried to ignore her and turn his back etc and she eventually crawled to him whining lol like she did at home Abd when she reached him started sort of half jumping on him from behind. She stopped trying to go in front of him lol.

I suppose we will keep trying when my parents come as with the baby due any moment we don't get any visitors right now me hopes...

 

[Pudds86]

no touch to talk no eye contact.

she Will learn she doesn't get stroked until she us calm.

hardest part is getting your guests to obey the rules.
Xx

Sent from my shit hot phone! Fo shizzle home girls.

 

[Hope81]

Tell me about it... They never listen...

 

[monkeynut]

I actually don't think turning your back on a dog jumping up works very well! 99% of dogs don't get bored by it and the person ends up dizzy and with scratched legs!

When you have visitors due I would ensure she is attached to a lead/house line that you can leave dangling, brief the visitors before they arrive of what they are to do, (I assume she knows sit command?) give the visitors a really yummy tasty treat and have them not stroke her at all but when they walk in the door get her attention with the treat in their hands and tell her to sit, if she does so then she gets the treat with just a 'good' command- ensuring no excitement in the voice.
Repeat this several times and if she is behaving then a singular stroke on her head as well as the treat, then when it's time to invite the guest right the way in then just ignore the dog. If she continually jumps up when the guest arrives or doesn't respond to her command then that is what the line is for- to pull her down without having to go for her collar which can make them more excited.
I would be very firm with her if she does jump up, a sharp "no" a maximum of three times and if she continues to jump up then remove her from the room for 5 minutes, repeat (it could take a while for it to sink in!) if needed.

 

[kra0]

Tell me about it... They never listen...

This was our biggest problem in trying to teach her, it would be going well til oh's daughter or nieces came to our house!
I hope you get it sorted soon cos I know how stressful and frustrating it is, especially with a baby coming xxxx

 

[Hope81]

Kra I don't really think it will get sorted any day soon really...
We will see how we will survive my parents arrival here.
I just hope once she is an adult to leave all that behind her (as the instructor said it will happen...)

 

[PyscoFalcon]

Yup mine is a tried and tested method and Dalmations ARE hyper when young

When she whines and starts crawling forward, stand up and take the dominant stance in fornt of her pointing to her bed (or a blanket on ground) and say bed.

Stay there until she goes into bed. When in bed praise her and give her a treat.

I've found when training dogs it's best to teach them the bed command so when you have people over or sit down to eat, they eventually go to bed on there own accord until you've finished eating or you call them out. Make it a nice safe place they WANT to go to.

No matter which training method you use you HAVE to stick it out and be consistant. Sometimes it can take months, sometimes only days or weeks. But consistancy is the key.