do you?

[helsekia]

think you spoil your kids?.....and do you think its wrong?


the reason I ask is cos the other day when kiara had friends over they said omg!kiaras got so many toys.my MIL says i spoil em rotten and a friend who i havent seen since caden was born phoned me earlier and in the conversation said that my kids had everything,loads and loads of toys and far too many clothes.now to justify it they dont get everything they want and Im very honest and if i cant afford it I say to kiara I cant and each month when the family allowance rolls in I buy nappies n milk but the rest goes on toys n clothes.It is true we do have nothing while the kids get everything but is that wrong?????just wondered what everyone else thought out of interest.

 

[LisaJ1986]

Angel isn't really old enough yet to spoil but i am always buying her clothes. I never buy myself anything, but i don't mind. She's my world and i want her to have things she wants. I'll stop if she starts demanding, but i like doing it.

Ive said from day one that i'll be strict with sweets, but thats coz there are far too many kids in shops that scream bloody murder til they get what they want. We were never like that so i hope Angel won't be either.

 

[JoAnn&Aimee]

I don't think there is anything wrong with spoiling your children every so often as long as they know that they won't get everything they want when they want it. I was spoilt as a child, and I still am in a way, but I was brought up knowing the value of money and that just because I wanted something didn't mean I would get it. Of course I would ask for it, go in a bit of a sulk for a little while if the answer was no but I've seen children in shops throw full blown temper tantrums to the point where their parents buy them whatever they want to keep them quiet. Not good parenting if you ask me.
It doesn't seem like you are completely spoiling your children. You are giving them what they need and no one can fault you on that!

 

[Red_Fairy]

im unsure..
but i would worry about when they are older (teenagers) and will expect it. As they've never had to go without before.

 

[helsekia]

mmmm its a bit of a toughy really,i mean how much is too much?I mean if i say no i dont get tantrums or anything just the occasional ''but awwww''.and its not just a materialistic thing i make sure i spend 'quality time' each day and sundays are family days and just the 4 of us spend time together usually at home and we dont do visitors on sundays lol suppose its about balance

 

[LisaPink]

My kids do have LOADS of toys, & I do treat them quite a lot (usually something small like Littlest Pet Shop), but it does depend on their behaviour. If I dont have the money, then they dont get it, if they whine (luckily havent had temper tantrums), they definately dont get it!! But if they have been really good, have helped at home & been kind to each other, then I have no issue treating them.

As long as it isnt affecting your kids behaviour, then what has it got to do with anyone else? As long as your kids are happy & kind to others, then spoil away!!

 

[mum2A&L]

Yes, i would say alice is spoilt. Not so much that i spoil her, but i give her everything she needs. Then the rest of her family give her loads of things. its more of a combinded spoil than from only me

I was spoilt as i was a first grandchild on my mums side, but i was taught to share. I only got if i was good. And i had to share with my brother when he came along.

 

[chickadee1976]

I like to give them stuff, but they know the moment they just start expecting it . No more

 

[sarah113]

don't think my kids are really spoilt, they get what they want most of the times but only if i can afford it at the time otherwise they have to wait for it

 

[lea m]

I dont think my kids are spoiled! Some people make comments on how much they get for xmas and what they get etc but that and their birthdays is really the only times they get toys and stuff! If they behave well and get good school reports etc then they may get something but usually we let them pick and they say go to McD's or BurgerKing! I didnt have a lot as a kid and I like they way I think of money etc so I want them to be the same!

 

[budge]

think you spoil your kids?.....and do you think its wrong?


the reason I ask is cos the other day when kiara had friends over they said omg!kiaras got so many toys.my MIL says i spoil em rotten and a friend who i havent seen since caden was born phoned me earlier and in the conversation said that my kids had everything,loads and loads of toys and far too many clothes.now to justify it they dont get everything they want and Im very honest and if i cant afford it I say to kiara I cant and each month when the family allowance rolls in I buy nappies n milk but the rest goes on toys n clothes.It is true we do have nothing while the kids get everything but is that wrong?????just wondered what everyone else thought out of interest.

dunno if i do. don't care if i do.

put it this way. My kids get nowt unless its christmas or their birthday. Except a weekly magazine of their choice (the two eldest ones that is)

 

[paiges_mummy]

I spoil both my girls, if I cant spend my own money on them, what can I spend it on , other than damn bills lol
theres never a day I hit the shops and they come back with nothing, unless im skint.

 

[Princess_Puddles]

Harrison could run his own toy shop with the amount of toys he has, we do spoil him rotten, mostly on birthday and Christmas though and im not bothered what other people think. He's our son & its our money so we can spend it on who and what we like. People have said things in the past but I just tell them to butt out (In a nice way) If i've got money to spend then who better to spend it on!!
Just cause you spoil them doesn't mean they are going to be spoilt brats, if you teach them right & wrong, to share their things and the value of money when growing up then you cant go wrong.

 

[kelsey]

tbh i think it depends on the person. i think i spoil the children on birthdays and christmas but children are precious. things like buying them computer games etc i will only buy one and if they want any more they save their pocket money and get one. i wont buy them everything they ask for, i buy for them what i think i should, can etc

 

[Becky&Willow]

i dont think we spoil willow but she has plenty of toys but they are not expensive ones, i think christmas will be when she spoilt most from everyone, on her 1st birthday we only got her 1 present (she was only 1 after all) she had a party so she got pressies there but from us just 1.

and i think that is the way will keep it as i dont want her to be spoilt so if we are able to get her more she can appreciate it.

will see

 

[zebrastripes]

I don't think I spoil Willow. For a start I don't have the money, also I wouldn't want to. She doesn't have many toys, but that's cause I'd rather buy her one nice solid toy she'll play with and keep, than a whole pile of plastic tat. She has loads of books though. Books are the one thing i DO buy far too much of, but you can't have too many ( and that's as well as the library, but it's tiny and doesn't have a very good selection of baby books. )