Do you regret it?

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Hi everyone :wave:

We are in our 5th month of TTC and so far have not told any friends or family that we are trying. I was just wondering, for those of you who have told people, do you regret it at all?

I am thinking about telling a few of our closest friends but I am concerned that it might put us under even more pressure! At the moment my friends are probably thinking that I have gone a bit weird because I wont commit to any nights out (in case I am in my 2 WW)!

Just wondering what other people's experiences have been... :think:

Thanks x
 
we've not told anyone, as I don't think I could stand people asking "any news?" even close family (especially as younger people in the family have had kids easily).
 
I have told close familiy and friends and its been great as i told em not to tell gal i had and they dont ask me whats going on all the time :D
 
I have been pretty open with everyone that we have been TTC and my family have been brilliant about it, they dont ask questions they just know Ill tell them as soon as it happens. My Mum has been very supportive. My work mates have been lovely too but they do ask every week If anything has happened yet which does annoy me as again Id be shouting it from the rooftops if I was! and they know that.

I wish I hadnt told some of my friends, one in particular as she has no social skills and always seems to say the most inapropriate comments - the usual - 'well we caught first time we must be super fertile', and 'Im sure when you relax it will happen', or another beauty, 'Im not surprised you havent caught with your OH as he drinks too much and is overweight it might never happen'. (This coming from the woman who's husband drinks 8 pints a night - probably just to block out the noise of her moaning and nagging constantly :lol: My OH only drinks on the Fri and Sat nights now btw)

Anyway thats completely besides the point! :lol: As a whole Im glad Ive told people as I have had a lot of support and some really good advice from most people. :D
 
hiya,when we first ttc first time we told close family and friends as we were grateful for the everyones support as dh has dieabetes{can't spell}
when it got to 8 months of ttc then everybody asking every month anything happen yet. :wall:

they soon given up hope when we were ttc for a year and a half then it happen when we not stressed out as much finally pregnant :) .

all depends on yourself and oh only both of you can make that choice yourselfs.

good luck and sending lots of babydust.x
 
we havent told anyone...we thought it would be best with us only beig together a short time...



Loola congrats to your OH and cutting his driking back :clap: :)
 
We have been married nearly three years and i think everyone is expecting 'the announcement' even though we have not told anyone that we are trying!

If people see me without a glass of wine in my hands (not that i used to drink much anyway) they always ask me if I am pregnant...i then come out with this blurb about wanting to travel some more before I have children :fib: (i must be blushing too by this point as i am rubbish at telling porkies!). I just think that if i told them, they might ask me if i am pregnant even more!? On the other hand, I hate not being totally honest with my friends..especially as one of them has confided in me that she is TTC! If i told her though, it might seem like a race to conceive!!!??

Oh I just dont know... :wall: sorry for the ramble....!
 
We've been very open about it as well. Our families and our friends all know. In general it is not known at my work though. It hasn't bothered me in the least that they know. No one asks now. I find that the people that don't know are the ones that ask. My DH's parents ask every time they speak but that has been the case for the past 7 years, so nothing new there :roll:
 
Everyone knows friends family. They kno not to ask really as we will tell them if we are pregnant. i dnt regret it at all, as they are there for support.
 
Only my closest friend knows we are ttc and I wouldnt have it any other way. If it doesnt happen Id hate for family to think 'aw bless they always wanted another baby but it just didnt happen'. I dont want anyones pity.

For us its a bonus if we have another one, if we dont its not the end of the world either. As far as our families are concerned we dont want any more so if we one day announce we are preg the look on theor faces will be brill!
 
the only person i told was my sister as she is ttc with pcos and i wanted to pre warn her as i wanted her to get used to the idea i know it hurts her when i get pregnant :( she has been trying for over 4 years now and nothing :( if i get pg again it will be third time ive been pg since she has been ttc it must feel like im rubbing her nose in it sometimes :(
i wont tell anyone else as i cant stand the constant "any news" it drove me mad last time xxxxxxx
 
I told my friends about TTC and my M/C and regret it greatly now. They have been asking: " any news yet? Is it you or your husband who has problems?? " Why couldn't I keep it to myself? :wall:
 
We didn't tell a single soul. Nor did we tell when I miscarried. It worked better for me as it helped me to forget about the issue quicker and carry on trying.

We only made our news known when I was 12 weeks pregnant. I really enjoyed having our own little secret. Mind though, it was a bit tough at times because of my morning sickness.

Said that, some of my friends have told me that they are TTC, which I think suits them better. However, I have learnt from my experience so I never ask if they've been lucky etc. So perhaps, if you tell your friends/family you could also say that you would appreciate if they didn't ask you for updates all the time...

Hope you'll get your BFP soon!
 
We didn't tell anyone either time we decided to TTC but then both times it only took a couple of months before we were successful!

This time I've told my mum and a close friend but I think most people will be wondering anyway as close family and friends know about the M/C.

I wish I hadn't told certain people I was pregnant as early as I did last time as they haven't really been supportive and instead its now uncomfortable to talk about possible future children.
 
We didn't tell anybody first time around that we were TTC. I felt it would add more pressure on us.

2nd time around, our close friends knew we were TTC and I personally felt that it added more pressure. Fortunately for us we conceived on the 3rd month of trying but it felt like it was much, much longer than that.
 
i only told my sister and a close friend (pregnant with her third and has 2 year old twins - jealous!) cos i'm worried about people's responses. i'm 25, got my own house, stable relationship etc etc, but i just feel really nervous about telling my parents! my mum especially - if i mention anything about babies and 'when i have one....' she always counters with something about it's not the right time or she's too young to be a granny! also, my mum is physically incapable of keeping an opinion to herself, so i'm sure she will point out that having been made redundant recently (got a new job now though phew!) it's probably not the best time. i know that, but i can't stop know, been at it for 6 months!!!

anyone else feel like this or am i being silly? any one think i should come clean?

amy xx
 
i don't regret telling my family. We told them all when we started and now they know that if a family member is pregnant they slyly tell us first so i can get over the shock.

I think too we have had huge support from both sides of the family too cos they know it has been a long road for us
 
Some times its lovely because you can talk to someone about it but on the other hand once some one knows they will also ask you and when your in a phase where you dont want to think about it and someone asks you it can be a bit anoying.

Another thing that worries me is my inlaws know how long weve been TTC and my DH tells them about it all and i feel like if his sister ever got pregnant then they would all asume that id be upset (even though i probably would be at first) but i feel like they'd all be looking at me and feeling sorry for me. But they used to go on about us 'poping one out' and 'when we have kids' and at least thats stopped since telling them :lol:

Some times i wish no one knew and it was just between us two, but more than anything i wish other people would understand how difficult TTC is and how upsetting little comments can be. Its alright making silly comments like 'your just not doing it right' but when your the one thats been trying for what seems like a lifetime its hard to put on a fake smile.
 
We've told friends and they have been great about it! We haven't told my in-laws as they would be asking all the time about .. they already want to know why they haven't got a grandchild from me :x :roll:
Hubby and me gets so fed up of it!
 
Haven't really told anyone, my mum knows because she is my mum :lol: but I wish I didn't tell her she dosen't put pressure on me but she keeps making recomendations.

Two of my aunties are under the impression that we are ttc and they also make recomendations.

But haven't told any friends
 

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