Do Not Feel Like

[helpneeded]

I have anyone to talk to. So thought that some of you might understand.

It just seems like every month when it comes around to the time when I am supposed by OV'ing (not tried charting yet) there always seems to be something wrong with DH when it comes to BDding (he gets cramp or does not feel well). He says he really wants a baby but sometimes he makes me wonder. If he wanted it as much as me would he be acting like this?

I have got one set of parents who say it will happen when it happens and another set who say well you cannot be BDing enough.

I just feel like that may be I should just give up on the whole thing and realise that I will never have a baby. I just feel like an emotional wreck at the moment.

Sorry for the long post and the rant

 

[sazzleevans]

I think the last sentance of your post should make you realise that you need to chill out about it all.

My OH was getting very much like yours. Try not giving him so much information on ov, af etc and just try and just do the business. I work in a very male dominated enviroment and the guys at work told me the same. When their wives were trying for babies too much info was a real turn off.

I know you really want a baby but dont let him feel its teh only thing that matters. It might not be the case with you but i know, myself included, its been an issue in the past and still gets me now and again.

Sarah

 

[Loola]

I know exactly what you are going through! For many many months my OH was always 'too tired' or 'had a very important football match to watch' just around ovulation which made me think that even though he said he wanted a baby, perhaps psychologically he didnt really want one.

I eventually confronted him with this and he reassured me again that he did want a baby very much, but like Sazzle said, all the baby talk, the talk of ovulation, all the sciencey bit really is not sexy and it puts men under a hell of alot of pressure. I also told my OH about how I put myself under a hell of alot more pressure than what I put him through. I explained the emotional rollercoaster I go through every month, getting excited about every little twinge, feeling tired, sore boob is a pregnancy symptom then being so disappointed when AF arrived. He understood me better then and I understood him.

I now dont tell my OH when I should be ovulating. I give him a rough idea so that he knows not to make plans, but as a rule now we BD every other night or perhaps every 3 nights leading up to ovulation, so we have a good chance without me having to nag him. Its still awkard sometimes and TTC isnt very sexy unfortunately, but needs must!

Id be completely open and honest with him and ask him to be with you and hopefully you can work it out. Men dont like being thought of as sperm donors only.

 

[Petra]

I think that some men feel under pressure to perform when you tell them you are ovulating. Here is the plan: test and when is + put on some sexy underwear and seduce him I am just that works. Good luck hun

 

[*CLAIREBEAR*]

hi there!
i can relate to this also!
my boyfriend does not turn me down or make excuses but he does tell me i give him TMI sometimes!
i suppose they do not really want to know the technical stuff like when we are OV or how much CM we have!! they just want to get down to it and keep it fun! (not too much stressing or telling them when we NEED to be doing it!!)
like petra i bring out the lacy stuff!! its worth a try,i doubt very few men would even notice the footy was on if you walked into the room in your best undies!!

 

[Petra]

My DH also tells me that I give him TMI. Luckily, this doesn't put him under any stress. He could swap his breakfast and dinner for a good xxxxx.

 

[*CLAIREBEAR*]

LOL!!!
hmmm food or sex???
for my bf probably sex first then food!!
hes got a big appetite!!

 

[helpneeded]

Thanks for all your comments. Feeling a lot better this evening. Just one of those days today