Depressed :(

[notty]

I'm feeling out of sorts today and i can feel depression looming. I've been trying for my first baby for several months and still nothing. I stopped obsessing over it for a couple of months which was fine but now it seems that everyone around me are having children. I only want one so why won't it happen?
Anyway... it would be nice to speak to anyone out there in the same position.
to all that are TTC

 

[libs]

not in the same position - I'm lucky enough to already have one child, but hope someone else answers who you can chat to

 

[notty]

Thanks libs that's really nice of you

 

[skairdykat]

Well I do already have 2 kids but the yearning for another child is burning strong inside me. I have been feeling low as well today for some reason . Maybe it's because of the millions of PG women I see everywhere .

 

[notty]

Hi skairdykat!
I just needed to chat with women who are burning with desire to have kids (whether they already have children or not). I also feel as if i am every month. It's funny really.. all those years i was praying that AF would arrive each month and now suddenly i never want to see her again, lol.
We are such funny creatures!

 

[libs]

oh well if you just want those of us going loopy with desire to be pregnant - I'm one of them

Just don't mention pregnancy testing

 

[Trudyscrumptious76]

Hi Notty I can only post a quick reply as I'm heading out the door. DH is cross I'm TTC my 1st have been for 10 months. I now how it feels, but it does get better. I'm always happy to talk. Sorry I can't now

 

[A&J]

Hi, I have been ttc since May 07 so not as long as you but I still have days where all I think is why am I not pregnant? but I know one day it will happen. I have found that I have been better since I started on Fertility friend don't know why? Are you temping?

 

[Alicebabe]

I feel exactly the same as you. Been TTC our first for about 10 months in total now and not to take anything away from other ladies, but I think its worse for those who have never been pregnant because we dont know that its actually possible whereas people on their 2nd or 3rd do actually know they can conceive.

I feel for you

 

[trigger]

Hi Notty, I have been trying for blooming ages (5 years) and am currently on the IVF waiting list. I totally understand what you are going through and went through the same upto about a year or so ago but now I just have to believe that I will get pregnant and it is surely a matter of time.

I know what its like when your friends announce they are pregnant and you feel so jealous and bitter towards them and also so guilty as they are your friends so surely you should just be happy for them and then when they have their children you feel quite useless and totally inadequate, and also with your family you feel slightly competitive in the sense that if you don't get pregnant before younger family members you feel all other eyes of the family are on you wondering why you haven't yet (most of my family think I am just career driven (ha!) and have no desire for children)...
It is hard but you can't let it rule your life, I have found making plans for the future, eg - holidays as if I book in advance I lose the deposit but hey - I am pregnant! And if I don't get pregnant before the hol - hey, I am going on Holiday!

Keep doing everything that you are doing, get tests done to ensure all bits and pieces working and try and stay positive. Fingers crossed before long you will have your BFP blaring out on the site soon.

 

[Tillytots]

Hey Notty

Please dont get down. I was TTC for 1yr with no sucess. Eventually I got sooooo down about it that I couldnt bear to put myself through anymore agony so we stopped trying. This time Im TTC month 3 and Ive figured that if I get stressed about it then its bound never to happen. Ive read time and time again on this wonderful forum that the best thing is to stay relaxed and happy.

It is a terrifying thought that maybe we cant have children if we havent had them before so how do we know we can? but we have to stay calm and positive, keep healthy, listen to our bodies and do lotsa BD'ing!

I was told a story at work this week about a couple who were TTC for around 8 yrs for a child and could never concieve. In the end they went for adoption and after having their children for 2months the mans wife fell pregnant with twins!! The DR's put it down to being so stressed and when the woman was finally happy ta-da!!!

Seeing babies everywhere certainly tugs at my heart and I long for one so badly but as my OH says....our time will come. Patience really isnt one of my strong points but I havent really got a choice LOL - so I look for the positives and Im enjoying all this baby making.

Chin up honey always here for a chat if you need one

xx

 

[Zobo]

Hi Notty...

I had a m/c in may and although i was devasted, i was hopeful, as id read that loads of girls got caught out strait away again, so just automatically assumed it would only be a matter of about 3 weeks at the most! as i got caught out first time last time we TTC!!

But here i am now, 11 weeks down the road, and still nothing.... it seems like ive been trying for an eternity!!!
every twinge i get, i think... yeahh its my time.. then i get a BFN!

since my m/c in May, ive found out loads of my friends are having babies and everythings just going brilliant for them, and i get sooo jealous and end up just feelin like poo!!!

i just want one sooo bad it hurts.....
people say try not to obsess about it and forget, and itll happen... ive tried.....but how can you forget when its all you think about morning, noon and night!!!

so yeh, altho ive not been trying as long as you, i know how your feeling... feel free to chat anytime hun!!

and pray we get that BFP very very soon!!!!

 

[Jingles]

Hi - I'm new on here. But I know how you're feeling. We've been trying for 12months and nothing!!

It really does feel as though everyone else is geting lucky. The hard part for me is my little sis and her husband decided to try and fell pregnant within 3 weeks!!! She's now about 10weeks.

It's going to be our parents first grandchild so of course everyone is really excited and I am really pleased for her, but it just makes me feel more of a failure!

I dont have any advice I just wanted so say that I completely understand how you feel and to send