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[willow76]

My LO was quite easy going but a friend of ours had their 2nd child and were saying how they cried alot unlike their first, turned out he had a hernia, small operation and they said it was like having a different baby. Another friend had a baby who she struggled to bf and was intolerant to most formula, she had a very difficult time of it. My point is you sound like you are doing a great job but perhaps worth seeking some professional advice in case there is an underlying issue.

 

[mellie_88]

Ahh bless you, don't worry I'm sure you're doing a fab job. But as willow says I'd definitely mention it to someone professional just in case there's some sort of health problem that's making him cry so much.

 

[littlemonkey]

As the others have said, it is worth speaking to someone like your HV to get some advice as it could be a medical reason behind why he is crying so much. I'm sure no one would question how good a job you're doing, they really have seen it all before.

Do you have any one you could have round to help for a while? You mentioned you've not been out much with having the section, is there anyone who could come to you?

I had very simliar with my son, c-section I felt like crap after and he would cry a lot. It turned out he had reflux causing him pain and once we got it sorted he was a different baby, so it is definitely worth asking for help. As for me, I wish I had asked for more help in general earlier on instead of trying to be super woman and struggling on my own.

 

[Mackmummy]

Hi, firstly don't ever be afraid to tell your hv, midwife and doctor anything, they certainly won't think you're a bad mum at all. Some babies do cry all the time and if could be for a number of reasons and if you discuss these with your doctor they can help find out what it is. It could be something as common as colic, I note you've tried a few things but they don't always work and it is something baby just has to grow out of, could take days, weeks or even months every baby is different. With reflux there are two types, silent and just normal reflux. Silent reflux is obviously hard to diagnose as there are few signs but baby will be in pain after eating, a bit like heart burn. Vomiting is a sign of reflux and straining or stomach crunching, my lo had it but not for long but it later turned out my lo had an intolerance to lactose, I changed his milk and he was back his normal happy self over night. Discuss all possibilities with your gp, it might take a few attempts to work out the problem if there is one but you need to talk to your hv midwife, doctor etc, they are there to help you. Be warned though, some doctors are reluctant to do much some times so be persistent! Another thing I found with my lo as well was he often had trapped wind, ensure you're winding a lot to make sure the wind is coming up. We switched our bottles to mam colic relief bottles, not everyone thinks the work but they did for us, they help reduce the amount of air baby drinks in. Infacol also worked for us to help get wind up. It might be that you just have a baby that cries but you will soon work out how to help them stop, four weeks is still very new so don't worry, it's all very normal. Good luck x

 

[Applecrumble]

100% talk to people, you sound like you have been through it. I have a good baby and still find it tough, so my heart goes out to you. I have friend who has a baby that cried alot and she finds him so much more settled when she is out and about. I know you wont feel like it but force yourself out for a walk tomorrow. My little one is always better with fresh air. Sign up to a baby massage course....it may help.with calming baby!

Good luck,..but talk to proffessionals. Xxx

 

[Lyllian]

Speak to someone yes but don't worry hun that there must be something wrong. Some babies are just criers. My nephews one of them. He's 15 months now and still the same, although he's gone from.crying all the time when he's awake like your lo to it not being.constant when awake but still cries a lot. My ain't was saying as part of another convo the other week.how when she had.my cousin she met another girl out walking with her pram and the baby was still crying and the girl said anytime he's awake he just cries. There might nit necessarily be anything wrong, could just be the way he is but I really hope it calms down for you,it must be incredibly hard. Walks in.the pram.settle my lo if she's being gurney,she usually drifts off and has a long nap. Failing that a drive works for most babies. Get yourself out. A change of scenery will do you both the world of good.xx

 

[Rooster30]

I feel your pain. My son cried his way through the first four months... as did his mummy. I was almost ashamed of him because of how much he cried. I didn't want visitors because I didn't want the humiliation being seen as a mummy who couldn't settle their child. My son had colic. We tried everything, comfort milk, Colief, infacol, anti-colic bottles, spent a fortune - but he was still very very unsettled.

BUT it DID passs! Honestly, it passes. It feels like it'll never end, but somehow you both get through it.

I know you had a c-section but as an example of how things can get missed - It was only TWO weeks ago, I got asked by a midwife at my new hospital if my son had had a cranial osteopathy - I had never heard of it. She said babies born with forceps can be very unsettled afterwards because it messes their skull up slightly and cranial osteopathy would have sorted it out a lot faster. This, during all my discussions with HV, GPs and MWs during my son's first few months was NEVER raised - who knows, my poor boy might have really been in some pain whilst his skull recovered from the forceps delivery. I'll never know if he did suffer with this, I'm just ticked off that no one mentioned or suggested it when he was tiny (we lived elsewhere).

All the very best. As I said, it does pass. Speak to health professionals and makes sure you get plenty of help - especially since you are still unwell. You need to look after yourself too

 

[Staceylou27]

You should talk to your health visitor, they're not there to judge.
My daughter was crying for long periods of time? Usually 4/5 hours none stop and nothing would settle her. We knew if we hadn't had the crying period during the day we would have it in the evening just before bed.

We discussed it with our health visitor who suggested it was colic. We used infacol since then. It took about 2 weeks for it to start helping and the crying wasn't as bad.
My daughter is now 13 weeks and she is starting to burp without us having to wind her so much all the time.

It does get better and unless uou are going through it yourself you can't understand how hard it is. We were shocked at how difficult we found the first few weeks.

I would say when your able to go out to go to baby groups you will speak to other women who no doubt will have experienced something similar. And as already suggested baby massage is great for colic. We're still waiting for a place so we wernt able to use it when it was most needed.

 

[H16]

I feel for you, my daughter cried all the time for the first 3-4 months. I had anti colic bottles, gave her infacol, gave her dentinox etc but she still cried loads and was definitely in pain. It was a nightmare.

I took her to the doctors a couple of times and they checked her over and told me all was fine and it as probably colic even though the colic remedies didn't do a lot. By the end of the 4th month she was a different baby and there was no more crying unless she was hungry etc. If it is colic unfortunately not a lot works and they just have to grow out of it from my experience

How are Lo's nappies? My Lo had bad constipation at one point so that made her cry even more and I had to change her formula which helped to halve the amount of crying x

 

[Kay Kay]

My baby was the same and it is so stressful. As the other ladies have said don't be afraid to tell your HV anything, they are there to help. In the end our boy was diagnosed with silent reflux as his main issue was being terrible at drinking milk and screaming during feeding (and also when he wasn't feeding!). He was so grumpy esp in the first 8 weeks, it really got me down (sleep deprivation was the main culprit I suspect, it just makes everything else 100 times worse). You are not alone and I promise you you will have a happy smiley baby, it will not last forever. Hugs xx

 

[clairebear22]

My first Son was the calmest baby ever. My second Son cried every moment that he was awake unless he was feeding. He had colic and cried until it cleared when he was 7 weeks old. I was in complete shock because of my well behaved first baby!

The only things that helped with Dr Browns anti colic bottles with infacol squirted into each feed to get rid off all air bubbles and keeping him upright at all times. I also winded him very vigorously, he would do the most humongous burps too! We also let him sleep on his tummy after him laying contentedly across my lap for an hour wide awake! He was 10 days old and at almost two is still 100% a tummy sleeper. We we're worried at first but he was very proficient at turn his head from side to side and his cot was always empty of teddies. I'm not suggesting you tummy sleep him, just giving you our experience.

Now however he is the most happy and content little boy ever so it does stop, even if it feels never ending.

I hope your LO settles soon xx

 

[kumber]

Huge hugs hun, as the other ladies have said you are in no way alone!! My LO had awful colic up until about 12 weeks, I remember spending most of my late afternoons and evenings crying with him, bouncing him to try and get the wind up, taking him out for walks just so he could get some sort of sleep as he was massively overtired. I found switching him from Aptamil to Hipp Organic helped almost immediately (I'm not sure if you mentioned your LO was breast or bottle fed but if bottle might be something to consider?).

I also echo what's been said - get baby to your GP to rule out any underlying health issues. It may very well be nothing and it's always better to get things ticked off so it narrows down the list of culprits.

Stay strong chicken, it absolutely doesn't feel like it but LO will not be like this forever. I promise you will feel sane again, and soon!!

 

[Mackmummy]

Yeah I'd try changing food, that helped my lo. We changed to cow and gate from aptimil then sma! Tried them all! Then he had lactose intolerance, was giving him really bad trapped wind!

 

[littlemonkey]

Thank you everyone. I'm so glad I'm not alone as that's how I feel at the moment .
I sit him upright and use infacol and dr brown bottles but I have to be honest I've seen no change in him. He has a lot of wind but can't seem to get it up no matter how hard I try. He spits up a lot too. Ahh if only they could just tell us what was wrong eh . He's on SMA gold at the moment but maybe I'll try the hipp organic if that helps. Thank you xxx

Spitting up frequently is a symptom of reflux.

Other symptoms my LO had were screaming when laid flat, screaming after a feed and being squirmy and restless in general. It wasn't diagnosed as reflux until he was a few months old and refusing feeds.

 

[Bonfire Bride]

Oh bless you, it will pass! sleep deprivation makes things so difficult too.

Have you tried holding him using the.."tiger in the tree" method. It is supposed to be really good!

It will all work out in the end.

 

[H16]

Oh bless you, it will pass! sleep deprivation makes things so difficult too.

Have you tried holding him using the.."tiger in the tree" method. It is supposed to be really good!

It will all work out in the end.

Agree with the tiger in the tree or just laying on belly, both used to give my LO a bit of relief