Crying at Bedtime

[Juzza]

Ok i just need some reassurance really. Jacob is awesome in every way imaginable, he is so happy, active and observant and sleeps like an angel for us.

BUT when i put him down at 8pm he sometimes cries for about 15mins non stop making himself beetroot red and red hot.

I know he hasn't got wind, isn't dirty, is well fed but he still howls. Does anyone else leave their little one to cry for a while? I always go up at 8.15 and give him a cuddle if he's still upset.

Juz xxx

 

[Lauz_1601]

Ella went through a phase of doing this. Usually I put her down and leave ehr she goes off to sleep by herself.When she went through this phase Id lie on the bed and cuddle her to sleep then put her into her cot. I think ti was just a clingy phase. Has it always been like this for you though?

 

[Juzza]

He always used to be really active at night time and so until he was about 2 months he'd stay up til his last feed at half 10.

We decided he needed to go to bed earlier as part of his usual bed time routine (bath, feed etc) and i also read that staying up later actually did nothing to make them sleep longer.

Some nights he will just go off after watching his mobile, some nights he'll grizzle but probably 2 or 3 nights he'll cry like this. It's obvious he's tired otherwise he wouldn't fall asleep and stay asleep but my heart aches each time he screams

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

braydon would be up till 11 tonnite but he gets over tired so i put him to bed at 9.30 awake aand he is crying calming down a bit but if not hed be a lil monstor at 10.30 ish

 

[Juzza]

Phew! Thanks Sarah. Jacob's not necessarily grumpy but i just think babies should be in bed by a certain time - plus i'd never get anytime with my hubby if Jacob had his way - especially as i only see him at weekends at the mo.

xxx

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

Phew! Thanks Sarah. Jacob's not necessarily grumpy but i just think babies should be in bed by a certain time - plus i'd never get anytime with my hubby if Jacob had his way - especially as i only see him at weekends at the mo.

xxx

i agree hun and Braydon takes the PEE out of me summit cronic lol he is 9 months dont sleep thro and wont go to bed till late
i feel like i dont get ne me time in the evening lol ( dont get me wrong i love B tho)
after 45 mins of crying wimpering n talking his asleep woohoo

 

[beanie]

when you moved his bedtime forward did you do it gradually over a number of weeks as any sudden changes can upset babies. the only other thing I can think of is it is just a stage. When Seren was about 3 1/2 months she would really kick off about going to bed, she would fall asleep in my arms and when we tried to ut her down she would wake up. This lasted a few weeks but she has gradually improved. She now goes to sleep straight away. When she was being really tough, I would pick her up til she calmed down then put her back to bed. I would have to do this a fair few times before she went but she would eventually and this seemed to work for us.

 

[Juzza]

I didn't really do it gradually Beanie - i just noticed that one night he was looking sleepy about 8pm and as we'd just bought his mobile i thought i'd try and put him down to see if he'd go off on his own and he did.

My bro and girlf cam down at the wkend and i felt like a wicked witch when they could hear him crying through the monitor.

It's not every night and like you i'll cuddle him and try putting him down again - he never needs to be picked up more than twice. He does have an explosive bum though bless him and sometimes i think this hurts him, wakes him or scares him.

I suppose i'll just have to see if he grows out of it. I don't think it helps that his dad is away mon-fri as he has my sole company and attention the whole time and i think he gets a bit lonely on his own at bedtime

Thanks for the help xx

 

[Duds]

I think it pretty normal, Aimee has always cried and cried before going to bed and when put down - sometimes she was overtired. It just a habit with her now. She is much better and just grizzles for a few mins now so they do grow out of it.
I usually leave for 5mins then go back in and reassure her if I need to and give her a dummy.

Its up to you how you handle it but I feel that they will never get to sleep if they are that stressed out and upset.

 

[Juzza]

Thanks duds - i'll try going ion more frequently tomight and see if that reassures him. He's only recently stopped needing his dummy so i don't really wanna get him back on it again as he loves his comforts and i don't think he'd ever give it up!

xxx

 

[Duds]

Good luck hun, Have to admit Aimee is the same re: comfort thing. I was only going to use a dummy for aimee for the first 4 months as she really needs it to get her to sleep - there's no way she'd give it up now! I'd have a real problem on my hands without it.
Dont think she's too well at the mo, had me up 3 times in the night hate not having a full nights sleep

 

[Juzza]

Aw bless her. Well i hope Aimee feels better soon- its horrible when you know they're poorly because theres not much you can do - i always wish that kisses could take away Jacobs tummy pains at night. If only.

Hope you get some sleep tonight hun - if not make sure you have some sneaky naps tomorrow - who says its not allowed once they're over a couple of months!

Juz xxx