continued for the third time. confused and in need of advice

[pineapple]

hi agen. just to let everyone know- i went ahead with the abortion and feel devastated as a result my ex has cut me off completley and i keep crying ... keep wishing it was back in my tummy , but nothings there xxx

 

[Krystal]

Is there a friend you can confide in? Maybe they can help just by listening. When you have an abortion do they offer any sort of councilling? It may be worth looking into. You don't want to bottle things up. Good luck

 

[Jade&Evie]

When you have an abortion you are offered counselling- I would suggest speaking to them as they will be able to offer you support and advice.

As you were only a few weeks into the pregnancy you will have to go back in a few days and have tests done to make sure the pregnancy has terminated because sometimes they aren't successful. Maybe speak to them then.

 

[pineapple]

i went to marie stopes :S and now i come to think of it- i never was offered any counselling? which i found weird- and whats this about going back agen? i was neva told this eitha- had a surgical abortion :S and keep preying its still there xxx

 

[Jade&Evie]

i went to marie stopes :S and now i come to think of it- i never was offered any counselling? which i found weird- and whats this about going back agen? i was neva told this eitha- had a surgical abortion :S and keep preying its still there xxx

I thought you were only a few weeks pregnant? they only do a surgical procedure after 9 weeks or if a chemical termination fails. You wouldn't have been offered a surgical termination without counselling.

EDIT: had a google about it because I wasn't sure what was involved...

Pineapple, did you go through your GP? If you did then they should be able to offer you some support. As has already been said you can still go on and have children when the time is right for you. Your OH may be battling with his own feelings so maybe give him a little time to come to terms with it too.
I had a look at the Marie Stopes website- I can't believe they charge £75 for just a consultation! However, the aftercare is free (maybe why it wasn't offered )

No more advise I'm afraid but

 

[sparky]

It depends, what people are supposed to have and what happens are often completely different.

Pineapple, get back to them and speak to them about councelling, i'm sorry you feel sad, i dont think its an easy thing to do whatever the situation.

I had a termination years ago and at the time was devestated about it, looking back now i realise i had made the right decision and am now having my first with a man i truely love in a secure marriage.

I would seek councelling anyway as these things are always useful

 

[pineapple]

i was 7 weeks and 2 days and at six weeks ur allowed the surgical one involving sedation and suction. it was also free for me, i was refered by my GP and am also a student but overall everything was free. i think i must need to go back to my GP. and as for my ex bf hes horrible too complete monster. im so angry with him for making me abort.xx

 

[pineapple]

i was 7 weeks and 2 days and at six weeks ur allowed the surgical one involving sedation and suction. it was also free for me, i was refered by my GP and am also a student but overall everything was free. i think i must need to go back to my GP. and as for my ex bf hes horrible too complete monster. im so angry with him for making me abort.xx

 

[Melly+2]

You shouldnt have done it for your bf if you didnt really want it for yourself, my bf tried to make me but i said no. A desision like that isnt one for him to make

 

[zebrastripes]

I'm sorry that you ended up having the abortion and feeling this way. I'm not suprised your boyfriend is acting like this. I think the best thing you can do now is, as everyone else said, seek counselling.

 

[pineapple]

do u think theres a chance the abortion didnt happen?
i ve heard you are ment to bleed for ages afterwards.i bled for 5 minutes and it was brown andthen it stopped. im still hot as b4 and breasts aretenderand stil geting stomachcramps. do u think im stil pregnant?xxx

 

[Melly+2]

Could be a chance wait a week or so then do a test me thinks x

 

[dannii87]

I'm sorry hun It's easy to blame people for a decision that was made (ie your boyfriend) but try not to point the anger at anyone in particular, counselling will help direct that anger in a positive way.

Hope you are ok & get some much needed help with your emotions x

 

[pineapple]

i rlly hopeits stil ther ? wot do ppl think?xx

 

[zebrastripes]

There could be, but I doubt it. Different people's bodies react in different ways, I suppose. As previously said, wait a week then take a test to make sure

 

[mary70]

i wouldnt have thought you are still pg hun i would accept the baby has gone and get councelling, i knoe people that have had them and had no bleeding just gone bk to normal periods

 

[clairescunny55]

im sorry but i dont think the baby is still there.an abortion is an abortion, the baby is gone and you need to come to terms with that.hope you get the help you need xxx

 

[Urchin]

Sorry but I'm locking this.

Pineapple if you want help, you have already been advised to go to professional people...if, as I am beginning to suspect, you are here just to try and stir up shit.... again, go somewhere else, we are not interested.