Content Parents = Content Baby?

[poppy160]

Do you agree with the statement?

I was in the Docs yesterday having my coil checked so while I was on the bed I left Ella on the floor with the box of toys and she was happy. The Doc said that because she was happy to play on her own that was because us as parents are content? I just said thanks but I've been everything but content really, well maybe I have recently, but with my PND I'd never felt so un-content in my whole life!

So I don't know why she's so laid back, just her nature I guess?

 

[LisaJ1986]

I was soooo laid back during pregnancy, and besides the odd hormonal moment in the early days was content too. Angel was so laid back and chilled. Always quiet. But the passed couple of weeks shes been teething and not sleeping, so i've been stressed which she picks up on. I do find it a bit of a vicious circle. I do sort of agree with that.

 

[Jen & Her Men]

I have heard this statement a lot and for us its definitely true.

Both Alan and I are very laid back and I have always been someone that embraces the fun side of life and James is definitely known for being a sunny, happy baby.

I do think the environment you bring your baby up in has an effect on the child - which is why i dont agree with arguing in front of children etc. But I dont think its the only factor and sometimes behaviour isnt learned its innate...but I do think we can influence our children by our own personalities and the way we react to situations.

 

[valentine]

I definitely think there's something to be said for this.

OH and I rarely fuss round DD and possibly as a result, she's very contented, sleeps 16+ hours a day (13ish a night), plays for hours on her own 'reading' books, playing with toys etc and feeds herself really well.

My BIL & SIL have a child roughly the same age. They won't let him play at baby group (he's walking and into everything) in case he gets dirty so constantly follow behind him, are constantly shoving things in his mouth to eat, 2 of them to change his nappy (he's nearly 16 months), fussing over him all the time - its x time therefore he needs a nap etc - possibly as a result again, he's fussy and whiney and not settled and doesn't sleep well at night or nap.

We are really relaxed parents, its not for everyone, but it works for us.

Valentine Xxx

 

[Penstraze]

Im generally quite laid back I have definately been laid back about my pregnancy and birth and I think am fairly laid back as a parent and people often comment on how laid back and content Kara is, she only gets upset for good reason i.e. she gets colic in evenings but she seems to take everything in her stride. DH gets more stressed especially when she has colic and she reacts to that being much more fussy and upset when shes with him.

 

[beanie]

I am a complete stress head and live my life in chaos. Seren is content but forceful, Cally is so laid back she's horizontal.

I am noit sure where I stand in this. To a degree the environment is influencial in that a child brought up in a aggressive environment has a higher chance of being aggressive but I also believe that if a baby has all their needs met when they want then they couldn't give a stuff abiut how their parent is feeling. I had PND for most of Seren's babymoon and have anxiety and depression so I am most certainly not cotent, yet my children are.

 

[ASD123456]

OH and I are completely laid back and we have a very, very laid back baby to the point that everyone comments on it. I do think parents influence their childs behaviour but not completely.

Like Beanie said, if a child grows up in an agressive household he/ she is more likely to be aggressive but this isn't set in stone and there are lots of exceptions to this perspective. I could waffle on and on about this because it whats we are currently studying in psychology, but I won't bore you with the details

Alex xxx

 

[newmum]

I think it is a bit difficult to say as it has changed a lot with LOs age for us. Both me and OH are relatively quiet people and easy going.

For the first few months I could leave LO by herself for a long time and even if she couldn't see us she was happy - everyone said 'very content.' I was well stressed out though

But then she suddenly became REALLY active and just moved ALL the time and started walking at 9.5 months. So clingy, loud and demanding but it did coincide with a bad bout of teething. People said it was because we spoilt her there is only a limited number of times you can say 'teething' to people before you go crazy!!!

Now she has turned 13months she has left the 1 year clingy stage behind (that wasn't fun) and is really happy to play around us and do things on her own although she likes to see us and bring things to us if she wants. Now she is 'content' again ....

until she starts teething again

 

[Squiglet]

Dunno... Both my girls are totally different in nature. Lil miss is the embodiment of her name... and is very serene and down to earth...
Tia is well... away in the clouds, shes such a dreamer and a fragile soul... and I'm just quiet and studious.... So my girls are nothing like me..