Confused/Sad/Need Advice

[LillyFlower]

Hi all

This is my first time posting on one of these sites so I hope my post makes sense.
I came off the pill on January 2nd this year after being on pills for 9 years (i changed the pill approx. 3 times over that period of time)

I should mention that I've never been pregnant before and me and my husband are both 24 years old.

On Feb 18th I had positive pregnancy test using a First Response, it was so unlike me to take it, especially since i'd only finished bleeding a few days before, but I was just feeling different, I couldn't stop feeling sick and I was only eating certain foods that I wouldn't normally eat, so I booked an apt at the doctors for 4 days later.
However, on the Monday (21st Feb) at about 8pm I noticed light bleeding, then on the Tuesday it got heavier, then by Wednesday it was like a normal period flow. The doctor said some women do bleed through their pregnancies, otherwise I could be having an early miscarriage - of course this broke my heart since my husband and I are trying to conceive.
So I was feeling devasted and after a couple of days, I took another test and It came out negative, again I felt really heartbroken and cried for a few days before attempting to come to terms with a miscarriage.

Now, 2 and a half weeks after my first positive, i'm feeling the same symptoms again, the tingling nipples, heavy breasts, nausea, bloating (really painful sometimes I can't sit in certain positions my bloating hurts that much) extra fatigue, mood swings, aversions to foods that I love...but I've started bleeding again! Only 8 days after what I assume to be my miscarriage.

I know I probably sound crazy, but i just feel really confused and down hearted about everything, i need some advice and some people to share their stories that might help me.

Just when i was accepting the fact that i can start over again by trying, i begin to feel like i did before with bleeding again.

Can anyone give me some advice? I'm scared to go back to doctors and ask for a scan or blood test in case they just think it's all in my head and won't help me.

 

[Melly41]

Hiya lilyflower havent a similar story to share im afraid but wonder whether the bleeding youve experienced could your body just adjusting to not being on the pill anymore? I hear it can take a few months to settle. I would recommend you go back to the doctors and dont be worried that they'll think its in your head. You need some reassurance and some advice from them as to when might be the best time to give it another go. There is plenty of support on the forum and hopefully one of the girls will have experienced something similar and can provide some advice. I wish you luck and i hope your journey ttc is a short one x

 

[LillyFlower]

Thank you for your kind reply
The first doctor i saw did tell me i was pregnant (6 wks) and that early miscarriages are very common..i guess im just wishful thinking that i didnt have an early loss

 

[Notmyrealname]

Hi LillyFlower,
I don't think I can really say anything helpful but didn't want to read and run. Really sorry to hear you've had such a rough time. I know they say our bodies can take a while to get back to normal when you come off the pill and I think the same is true after miscarriages. I'd imagine that with all this that your body is probably quite confused and needs time to readjust. But if you are worried you should definitely go and see your doctor again.
*Hugs*

 

[LillyFlower]

Thank you notmyrealname

It's just so confusing! Women have it bad enough as it is without having our bodies tricking us on top of it all lol
I'm prepare to wait and let my body adjust, I just don't understand how I can still feel pregnant after an early loss...my cousin had heavy bleeding all the way through her first pregnancy and she knew she was pregnant...I guess you're both right, I should just go back to the doctors and get checked out again, I just feel a little silly just having 'the feeling.'

xxx

 

[Casey]

Don't feel silly Lilly, its a very emotive subject. I can guarantee that most of have gone through similar feelings. I hope it all settles for you

 

[Carly89]

Hi all

This is my first time posting on one of these sites so I hope my post makes sense.
I came off the pill on January 2nd this year after being on pills for 9 years (i changed the pill approx. 3 times over that period of time)

I should mention that I've never been pregnant before and me and my husband are both 24 years old.

On Feb 18th I had positive pregnancy test using a First Response, it was so unlike me to take it, especially since i'd only finished bleeding a few days before, but I was just feeling different, I couldn't stop feeling sick and I was only eating certain foods that I wouldn't normally eat, so I booked an apt at the doctors for 4 days later.
However, on the Monday (21st Feb) at about 8pm I noticed light bleeding, then on the Tuesday it got heavier, then by Wednesday it was like a normal period flow. The doctor said some women do bleed through their pregnancies, otherwise I could be having an early miscarriage - of course this broke my heart since my husband and I are trying to conceive.
So I was feeling devasted and after a couple of days, I took another test and It came out negative, again I felt really heartbroken and cried for a few days before attempting to come to terms with a miscarriage.

Now, 2 and a half weeks after my first positive, i'm feeling the same symptoms again, the tingling nipples, heavy breasts, nausea, bloating (really painful sometimes I can't sit in certain positions my bloating hurts that much) extra fatigue, mood swings, aversions to foods that I love...but I've started bleeding again! Only 8 days after what I assume to be my miscarriage.

I know I probably sound crazy, but i just feel really confused and down hearted about everything, i need some advice and some people to share their stories that might help me.

Just when i was accepting the fact that i can start over again by trying, i begin to feel like i did before with bleeding again.

Can anyone give me some advice? I'm scared to go back to doctors and ask for a scan or blood test in case they just think it's all in my head and won't help me.

Lillyflower, i am sorry your experience is not a happy one so far. My husband and i have been trying since December, and as such no luck yet. I know it is harder said than done, but i think patience is the only answer. I also have experienced symptoms this month similar to pregnancy, and yet today i am spotting. Praying it's implantation bleeding, but still feeling like im dying inside. The only thing i can suggest is making as many plans as possible, keeping yourself and your mind occupied. I was on the pill for about 13 years, it took my periods about 2 months, but then i was quite lucky they fell into place and have been like clockwork ever since (asdide from this bleeding ive experienced today) Give yourself time, don't tell too many people you are trying, and take as much pressure off as you can. Also, together with your partner, plan days you will try x