Co-sleeping... Pro's and con's?!

[Lacey's Mummy]

The first 2 nights we put charley in his Moses basket then after the 2nd feed of the night we've been putting him in bed with us and he sleeps till 9ish when we wake him! Last night we put him straight in with us and he slept for 5hours until I decided to wake him for a feed! He seems to sleep better in our bed which means we get more sleep but I don't know if it's a good idea! The plan was to have him in our room in his basket until 6weeks then move him to cot into laceys room even though we're thinking of putting the cot in our room and putting him in there from now but now I'm thinking about co-sleeping with him for a couple months instead! The thing is I don't want him getting to used to sleeping in our bed so he refuses to sleep in his cot.
Is it a good idea co sleeping or do you think I should stop so it's easier in the future to put him in his own cot?!

 

[berit87]

Me again!

I was co-sleeping with Brandon until he was nearly a year old! And I must say - it was quite hard to get him used to sleeping in his own bed - took us about 2-3 weeks of waking up at night loads and crying and screaming... I loved co-sleeping as I loved having him in with me and when he was feeding at night it was so much easier as well. When he stopped feeding at night he slept a lot longer in the morning next to me than he did in his cot so I obviously loved that as well! I am sure if you co sleep for a couple of months or until he wakes at night you will be fine, just don't leave it as late as I did
With Cameron I keep him in his basket at night and take him in with me around 6 or 7 in the morning for a feed and then he sleeps with me until 8 or 9 (again, nice to have a lay in in the morning!) x

 

[amyjayne77]

My dh is dead against co sleeping and we never did it with the girls. But it is just so easy to get into and with Oscar were more flexible and do a bit of both. For example, at bedtime, Oscar goes to sleep pretty much straight away in my bed, on my boob. When he'sfast asleep I put him in the Moses basket. When he wakes for a feed I'll get him back in with us. If I fall asleep he stays with me, if not I'll put him back. He's used to either. And he'll sleep til 9am if I leave him in with us.

 

[sexyamy2005]

this may be a REALLLY stupid question, but im a 1st time mum so gona ask anyway...


how do you actaully co-sleep, is baby in the middle of u n OH, or on the end, or in there cot at the side ov ur bed?

im so confused n id b scared of baby being coverd by the covers or me rolin over or summert,

thank u for not laffin at me... to my face, lol

x

 

[berit87]

I've got a moses basket right against my bed, there is a rolled up towel against it (HV said no to pillows) so he is sleeping on his side (don't care what HV's say, he doesn't like sleeping on his back and only settles on his side just like Brandon when he was a baby) next to me. I make sure there is a gap between us so my duvet doesn't cover him. Never been worried about smothering him (or Brandon), I think you are naturally more alert and aware even if you are asleep. I don't know if I'd trust OH not to roll on him lol. Co-sleeping is lovely though!

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

My OH doesn't like charley in bed with us so we've put the cot up tonight! Charley's already fallen asleep in our bed though! I might co sleep with him when Tims working away! I have charley on the outside but with my arm around him and I seem to be very aware that he's there so don't think there's a worry of rolling onto him

 

[Toonlass]

Co sleeping is amazing for catching some extra zzzzz's. You won't smother your baby because you are so aware (although asleep) that they are there. Co sleeping is also great when BF'ing as it saves you getting up, disturbing baby and getting cold. The disadvatages come if you leave it too late to move baby into their own bed and they are too attached to sleeping beside you.

I made the move gradually at about 6 weeks, bringing the baby into bed later and later, eventually turning it into morning cuddles (I still do this with them). I am pro co sleeping but I wouldn't do it for too long xx

 

[Momma`Kat]

I have plans to co sleep till she is able to sit up by herself and stuff, then she will go in a cot.

Cant wait for Social Services view on that LOL

 

[bearsmummy]

I have morning cuddles with liv if she's up early or I co sleep through the night with her if she's poorly. But I don't usually get to do it though cos she sleeps from 9.30pm to 10am so I make up for it and have an afternoon nap with her x


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[Lacey's Mummy]

Well we put charley in his cot last night and he wasn't pleased so put him in with us and he slept so well waking 4 hours between feeds then I had to wake him up this morning! Tim still isn't happy about it but if it means we get sleep then I'm happy

 

[Yodabo]

We did this with Dominic, not by choice! He just wouldn't settle in his Moses basket. It is easier especially when your knackered but If I had a choice I would rather not. Dom was a nightmare to go in his own bed when he got older, even now he likes to come into bed with us now and again! A real passion killer I tell you! As it happens Drake is brilliant at going down on his own. He'd rather that than be fussed. So I'm really happy with that!

I'd say if your happy with it then go for it, I think as long as your strict when it's time to move him into his own bed (which I wasn't to be honest!) then you'll be fine.

 

[serenitylove]

i think it individual the thought of co sleeping scares me to hell i would never forgive myself if something happened but alot of people swear by it so if it feels right for you go for it

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

we started with Jasper properly co-sleeping in the bed with us, now he has his own cot but attached to the bed - its fab he is safe, we are close and i can feed him practically in my sleep

here are one of the pros of co-sleeping right here

- Liam and Jasper having a morning chat


as for cons... we havent found any yet

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

That looks so cute bigbump! I put Charley in his basket last night, only was settled for 15mins then woke up, put him in with me and he slept for 3hours!! Midwife today really frowned about it but it's so much easier!!

 

[lauren86]

I think co-sleeping is lovely although i do put Ethan to sleep in his cot but if he keeps waking up at around 4am i put him in bed with me and he goes straight to sleep and doen't wake till 7am sometimes 8!

 

[*Hope*]

i love the idea of co sleeping. i did it a tiny bit when she was really new (under a month) because the night feeding was so irregular and she loved to fall aslepp on my chest then i would move her next to me. it was nice.

but i was always too aware of her getting to used to it so after the first month i insisted on her moses (next to my bed). napping in there was hard for her at first (i had been letting her nap on my bed a lot), but she got used to it and now she loves her moses. i think co sleepings good but remember the longer you do it the harder they will find it when you stop it.

 

[Esoames]

I would love to do this, currently moses basket is by the bed with me and I'm constantly waking up when she stirs. I wake up with such clear visions that she is in bed with me, asleep on my boob, I nearly convinced myself that DH was her!

I know I wouldn't hurt her intentionally but I'd fear that DH may roll on to her. She is so tiny.

Emma x

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

but i was always too aware of her getting to used to it so after the first month i insisted on her moses (next to my bed). napping in there was hard for her at first (i had been letting her nap on my bed a lot), but she got used to it and now she loves her moses. i think co sleepings good but remember the longer you do it the harder they will find it when you stop it.

Actually this is a bit of a red-herring... i have many friends who co-slept with their kids until they were 2 or 3 and found it very easy to move them into their own rooms, they enjoy independance at that age and enjoy the chance to break out on their own a bit

Its really the choice between making them independant at a young age so they dont know any different, or waiting until they are ready to be independant themselves x

 

[*Hope*]

but i was always too aware of her getting to used to it so after the first month i insisted on her moses (next to my bed). napping in there was hard for her at first (i had been letting her nap on my bed a lot), but she got used to it and now she loves her moses. i think co sleepings good but remember the longer you do it the harder they will find it when you stop it.

Actually this is a bit of a red-herring... i have many friends who co-slept with their kids until they were 2 or 3 and found it very easy to move them into their own rooms, they enjoy independance at that age and enjoy the chance to break out on their own a bit

Its really the choice between making them independant at a young age so they dont know any different, or waiting until they are ready to be independant themselves x

Yeah i understand that but i wouldnt want to be doing it when she was a year old let alone 2 or 3

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Oh i dont know anyone who has moved the baby out at a year old so cant comment

i do know that i never really enjoy sleeping alone though so i wouldnt want a baby to sleep all alone, Jasper sort of half co-sleeps, he has a co-sleeping cot at the side of the bed though with the cold weather i have been pulling him into bed with me to keep me warm lol