Can't stop thinking and worrying

[pickled_onion]

I can't seem to switch my head off at the moment. I'm feeling overwhelmed. If I'm not worrying about the baby and whether we will make good parents, I'm worried that I'm not eating well enough or that I'm not keeping on top of the housework as much as I'd like. Ordinarily I'd say bugger it re: the housework, I can only do so much and my hubby is a good un and always helps out at the weekends anyway but we've got his mum coming to stay next week. For five days. We get on quite well (me and her) but it's always a bit difficult for me to have others in my personal space regardless of how well I get on with them because I'm a bit of a solitary animal. I need time on my own in order to feel refreshed and stuff. There are days when it'll be just me and her because my hubby can only get so much time off. I feel a bit nervous about that and I'm not sure how we'll fill the gaps. Plus the spare room (where she'll be sleeping) is currently full of junk. So I need to deal with that. Everytime I try to gear myself up to do it, I end up feeling defeated before I begin. I can't do anything for very long without needing to have a sit down. I want my energy back

Sorry for the moan.

 

[nazmomi]

I know what you mean I hate people in my space, especially if i'm not feeling great to start with. (I'm very anti social when i'm not well!!!)
I'm sure your MIL will understand if your house isn't perfect. If not tell her to clean it
Maybe your OH could do something with her on his own one day when he's off and give you a rest and some space on your own ?
Hope it all goes well

 

[tracey 2]

oh hun lots of hugs coming your way

sometimes its like so much stuff comeas at once and its like whoo ok hold on one sec oh i know i think just want a day where im not doing anything

been so so shattered last few weeks so thats not helping i know but hope the next few days go past quickly for you hun

 

[Potbelijo]

((hugs))

I understand how you feel. I'm the very much the same. There are times I feel like even an unexpected phone call invades my personal space, nevermind a visit. We'll eventually be selling our house and moving in with the in-laws as we're seriously struggling with money.

I'm worried about the time I'll have to spend alone with them, having the baby in their house and proving I'm good enough. We willl have very little private space and I'm scared it will drive me mental.

However, I try to keep in mind that they will understand how I will feel. They [i[want[/i] to help and [i[want[/i] to be invovled.

Try to remember your mother in law is family and don't worry too much about the house being perfect. She might just be happy that she's needed. Also if you do find yourself sitting in silence with nothing to say, try to relax. You don't have to be entertaining to keep each other company.

xxxx

 

[pickled_onion]

Thanks for the replies, ladies I tore myself away from my laptop and procrastination and managed to get some of the stuff cleared out of the spare room and my dad popped round this evening to take away a load of books for recycling/charity shop donation. So the clear-out feels much more achievable now. I also had a chat with my other half and he reassured me that he'll help blitz the place before she arrives 8)

Maybe your OH could do something with her on his own one day when he's off and give you a rest and some space on your own ?

That's a really good suggestion, nazmomi. Thanks for that. I feel a bit guilty asking for time for myself sometimes but I really am decidedly better company when I'm feeling relaxed and rested so will have to escape for a bit on my own methinks

I hope you get that day of rest soon, tracey 2. And that you start to feel more energetic too.

Thanks for the reassurance, Potbelijo. You mean I don't have to be the life and soul whilst simultaneously maintaining a spotless residence? Jeez, we do put an awful lot of unnecessary pressure on ourselves at times, don't we? I will try to keep things in perspective.

Sorry to hear about your financial troubles and the situation it's put you in. I really hope it works out. I know how I'd feel in the same situation but like you say, they are there to help. Just think you'll have babysitters on tap and it's not going to be forever