can we do this?

[mrs v]

So we are team yellow, we have our girls name sorted but we are really struggling with boys names. Daddy is called Alexander, we both love this name, however we used it as my lo's middle name (really should have thought about it a bit better). Do you think we could still use Alexander even though it's lo's middle name? Feel like I am somehow taking something from him???

 

[Cjj]

Hmmmm, I probably wouldn't but I'm struggling to put into words why.... Like you say it's your little boy's middle name so I think I would go for something different for my second.

 

[julianne]

Go for it. My hubby has his brother's middle name as his first. Never have thought anything about it other than they share a family name. X

 

[redbear]

I don't think I would, I don't know why, but I like there names to be personal to them, I was very attached to my name and I still have it double barrelled, I think I get attached to stupid things lol x

 

[Capricorn]

I'd use it if you loved it.
Better that, than settling on a name you don't love as much & regretting it later on.
Chances are your first son won't use the name often at all & it won't be weird for them because it will be their norm xxx

 

[Gayle30]

Hmmmmm. I dont think I would. But thats just my opinion. Xx

 

[madsticks]

I'm not sure, I understand your predicament though.
I knew my OH as friends before we were an item and while he was still with his ex wife. When she was pregnant with my stepdaughter, he told me that they had been having issues thinking of and deciding on names. I suggested a few and told him my favourite name that I thought sounded perfect with his surname. He loved it. Told the ex wife, she hated it, but put it in as a second middle name (she chose name and first middle name).

Fast forward to now and thinking about what on earth I would name my daughter (when we eventually have our own children) I'm sad that my perfect name choice has already been used. I might not let it stop me, I'll have to get round to actually having a daughter to name first!

Had I known then that down the line we would be together I would have kept my mouth shut tight! On the plus side I did kind of choose one of my stepdaughters names

Go with what you feel is right. If you love it, go for it x

 

[CARNAT22]

If you like it then use it hun!

James is OH's middle name

X

 

[mrs v]

Thanks for all your replys, we are going with it, I think it will actually be very sentimental if our boys (assuming we have another boy) both have their daddys name whether it be their first name or middle, both boys will also have their great grandfathers names too, so my first is archie Alexander, and if num 2 is a boy they will be Alexander Richard x

 

[Sophiebishop]

I'm glad you've decided to go for it, I think it will be a lovely tradition you could start!

 

[clairebear22]

We followed middle name tradition ....

FIL is Colin Richard
His Sons are Stephen Colin and Paul Richard
My Sons are Jack Stephen and Harry Colin.

See the pattern?!

Both my Nephews ( Brothers) have the same middle name.

I think it's a lovely idea

 

[alicemagic]

I have a friend whose middle name is his older brother's first name. Older brother has never felt as though his name was taken from him , and no one has ever found it strange. I'd say , if you love the name (which you should , it's a great name !) then why not use it again ?

Coincidentally , the name in my friend's situation is also Alexander. The great thing about that name is there are so many nicknames / shortenings you can get from it ... if both your LOs want to use it as their name then they won't necessarily be using the same name