Bringing Up Baby~Anyone used/use the 50's model?

[Redshoes]

I can't begin to comment on the 50's model because I find it beyond human nature, and quite alien to both parents and child, but wondered if anyone actually used/uses it?
The 2 families on the program are, and many of our Grandparents did, would be interesting to hear from the other side on the model, I know one of my MW's told me how hard it was for her but it was 'the rules' back then.

 

I didn't see that hun but i've heard a lot about it and I certainly wouldn't have used it but that's just me xxxxxxxxxx

 

[enn]

if its the one about leaving yr new born outside. not letting yr child close to u when u feed them. shoving the bottle in babys mouth and twisiting it for soem unknown reason then no

love holding my baby but cant for long cause shes getting heavy now and aching me lol wouldnt of done skin to skin contact else

etc lol

 

[budge]

good god no way

my mum was encouraged to put her babies outside everyday come rain or shine and time feed. But she used her head and did what came natural. And that was lots of cuddles and demand breastfeeding.
She did swaddle us all though -

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

Im confused whats this about???

 

[Tangerinedream]

Im more inclined towards the 60's woman- just following you instincts and doing what you think is best for your baby as every child is different

My nan bought up her boys in the 50's and was advised to do that stuff but she ignored the 'welfare' and did what her instincts told her.

 

[emma28]

We had quite a firm routine and he was swaddled in his moses basket in his own room every night. I also used to put him in his pram under the washing line most days. He liked to watch the washing blowing about, but he always had lots of layers, and was never left alone to cry. If he went to sleep I would leave him while I did the dishes or whatever, but I could always see him and he was never left to cry. We live on our own in a very rural area so no risk of anyone pinching him, or foxes!!
I also had a bit of a thing about him falling asleep in people's arms and would always pop him back in his moses basket before he actually did.
During his night time feed I always kept the night light on only and would never bring him downstairs or stimulate him, so he would realise that nights were for sleeping.

You'll probably all think I'm really hard but while I did all that, he also had millions of cuddles of eye contact during the day, and is my whole world.

I can kind of see where that woman is coming from and think perhaps that we used her technique loosely. It is of couse far too OTT, as are the others in my opinion. Every parent thinks their way is the best, and as long as there is an abundance of love I can't see that anyone would go too far wrong.

 

[Kylie1007]

Hi

Im confused whats this about???

There's a programme on TV at the moment called Bringing up Baby. They've taken different methods of parenting styles such as a 50s style and a 70s style. The 50s style caused a lot of controversy because the health visitor (I think thats what she is) made the parents put their BRAND NEW baby - who was only about a day old - outside for 3 hrs in its pram. They were told to wrap it up etc and put it out the back door, then shut the back door! As well as that, at night time the baby went to bed at 7pm and they had to ignore it crying (bearing in mind that it was only about a day old!!!) until the 4 hrs was up and then it could be fed!!!

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/arts/main.jh ... 26last.xml

http://www.channel4.com/health/microsit ... index.html

 

[Tina & Gabs]

Katrina; you can watch this programme back on www.channel4.com/od

 

[LucyBee]

That woman is just ridiculous.
How can ten minutes of cuddling at 3pm and no more be good for any baby????

 

[Kylie1007]

That woman is just ridiculous.
How can ten minutes of cuddling at 3pm and no more be good for any baby????

Didn't she say that the baby shouldn't be cuddled for the 1st 2 weeks of its life!!!

 

[nathanmum]

my mum didnt see anything wrong with it
think this is why were so close

 

[Rubys mummy]

We had a really firm routine from day one, bath bottle and then bed in her own cot in her nursery from a few days old...it worked for us-she slept through from 7 weeks old, loves her cot and her nursery and is really happy and content Her last bottle before bed, and any night feeds when she was newborn were always in her nursery, in the dark..she would drink, burp and settle straight away but i always cuddled her, snuggled into me, kissing her face and whispering soothing things to her.

She loves the outdoors, we love long walks as a family with our doggie Ruby in her pram with her wrapped up snuggly and warm, I could never leave her outside alone for 3 hours

Babies are for cuddling and kissing, it would break my heart not to!!

 

[cloud9]

I think what makes the 50's one so bad is the lack of contact and the assumtion it is a bad thing a baby wanting attention

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

KYLIE 1007 thank you for that wow thats discusting in my eyes i could never do that i think babies need affection and dont think they should be left alone outside or left to cry for so long

 

[Kylie1007]

Hi

KYLIE 1007 thank you for that wow thats discusting in my eyes i could never do that i think babies need affection and dont think they should be left alone outside or left to cry for so long

Not only that but the mentor who is leading the 50s style of parenting doesn't believe that babies need cuddles - brand new ones at that! It's molly-coddling in her eyes Also they weren't allowed guests for the 1st 2 weeks so the one grandparent came and wasn't allowed to touch her new grand baby!
The theory was that the 50s style brought children up to be independent.

I think children do need a routine but it's really extreme.

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

wow this shocks me that anyone would bring their child up like this they are going to feel so alone and unloved

 

[Kylie1007]

I think that something was mentioned about depression in later life with the 50s model.

 

[*saulino*]

I wouldnt doubt it

 

[Duds]

I cant bear that cold heartless bi*ch, she makes me soo
how can she say you shouldnt cuddle a baby and they dont want attention, dont feed them close to you or have eye contact, leave them to cry & cry bettween feeds..... grrrrr
sorry, i just cant bear her - i do see some of her points but she is just so heartless.. it has me in tears as it should be a happy time that you should treasure and enjoy and its so against nature intended.
She hasnt even had any kids