Best age gap for #2?

[Goat]

Lacey, it's a complete judgment call and circumstance dependant.

For example I've left baby to cry for a few minutes whilst I gave toddler his cereal as that way I know I can sit down and give baby an uninterrupted feed. Later on I know toddler will end up waiting for something or another whilst I tend to baby.

It's hard when they both 'need' me at same time so you assess each situation as it arises. It's nowhere near as bad now. In the early days baby was feeding constantly and I was literally stuck to the sofa some days. Thankfully OH extended his paternity leave (well he is self employed and took extra time off) so he helped loads with toddler.

I can't say if things would have been easier or harder with a different gap as I don't know any different but I think all gaps pose their own challenges.

X

This to me would make most sense.

I just literally in the last couple days read the thing I posted above (in another thread on here, I think, but damned if I know which one now), and figured I may as well share it.

I guess I find out in a couple months how I'd handle it, but, yeah... Case by case would seem by far the most appropriate choice xx

I think I said that? It's more to do with if the baby is napping and you're playing with the toddler and the baby wakes and starts crying rather than finish off the game so toddler doesn't feel left out, go to the baby. I found this really helped and helped my eldest understand that I'm there as I always was but that when baby needs me we go to her. Now when baby cries my eldest runs over and says things like 'don't cry, there there, it's ok'.
However if you're feeding toddler/helping them with the toilet/putting them down for a nap etc etc and baby is crying then you can't do a great deal and the baby just needs to wait like Carnat says.
But that's just a bit of advice someone gave me and it's really been so useful.x

 

[SaraLouise]

16 months between my two & I find it really difficult, im hoping it gets easier when ds2 (5 months) starts regularly going longer between feeds. Everyone keeps saying itll be lovely once they are older.. I'll let you know lol x