Being judged!!!

[Rachx]

My little one will only sleep on him tummy, when he was in SCBU they used to alternate him every few hours when i got him home i did the same and found he'd sleep for four solid hours on his front and bout hour on his back, i invested in an apnia mat now he always sleeps on his tummy i mentioned it at baby class and all the mum's were like and really judgemental so i talked over it with midwife she said its not advised but go for it as eventually he would just turn himself over anyway and i've got the mat on so not a prob, she also said years ago every baby slept on his tummy it was the 'fashion' and the human race didnt end

What are yor thoughts?

 

[Tangerinedream]

i was put on my tummy as that is what was being advised at the time. im taking it that thr apnia pad alerts you if they stop breathing. i think you've done the right thing in buying one. i know how if makes you feel when you feel jugegd. i chose to bottle feed my lo after breastfeeding not taking off so well. it was just after the huge rows on here about breast or bottle feeding and i felt the same

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

i was put on my tummy as a baby and im fine

 

[Sammystar]

I would ONLY sleep on my tummy. Both my little girls are the same. Sometimes you just have to do what feels right for YOU and your baby.

 

[OopsyDaisy]

I know what you mean about being judged, at the moment I'm constantly feeling like I'm being attacked when my parents and parents-in-law start commenting on the ways I've chosen to do things for my LO.

As long as you feel it's right for your baby, and that you have the necessary safety equipment in place, then go for it.

 

[Melanie]

Tell them to sod off hun.
Thea has always slept on her tummy too, its the only way she seems to feel comfortable.

 

[Redshoes]

YOU know your LO best and know what's best for him, that's what's right Those Mummies are terrible to make you feel I've personally never done the feet at the foot of the cot, and Isaac's been fine sleeping in his cot every night. I think your MW sounds lovely, and it's true about tummy sleeping, my cousins LO is 11yrs old and when he was a baby all Mummies were told to put baby on their tummys to sleep So you do what feels right and very best wishes he sounds like a lovely sleeper

 

[trixipaws]

i always put millie on her back as per nhs recommendations but my mum has always been quite bemused by it, she says in 1980s when she had us they used 2 put pillows behind STOP us going on our backs coz they thought it was dangerous! and like she says, it never did us any harm!
tell them 2 ask their mums how they used 2 sleep as babies and point out that they are all still alive so it cant be that bad!

 

[krystal&jack]

aww Rach

Those women have no right to judge you

Look, we all do things differently, advice on what is best for our babies is forever changing! All any of us can do is what we think is best, we know our babies well enough and we all love our children so it's obvious we would never put them in any danger.

Like other people have pointed out there have been millions of children put to sleep on their tummys and they are ok!

NHS recommendations are just that.. recommendations, it's not a law all of us new mummies have to abide by.

Do what you think is right and sod everyone who disagrees.

krystal xxx

 

[sam96031]

they have no right to judge you

 

[cloud9]

One thing about been a parent is everyone thinks they have a right to an opinion.

I was told by someone before Dylan was born Every descision we make you will always find someone to disagree with you and its sooo very true

 

[mrs_tommo22]

Me too and here i am still gobbing off and pushing kids out of my own!
Though i ve not put any of my babies on there tummies, i wouldnt judgr anyone else for doing so.
As long as they sleep and have those breathable mattresses

 

[Rubys mummy]

One thing about been a parent is everyone thinks they have a right to an opinion.

I was told by someone before Dylan was born Every descision we make you will always find someone to disagree with you and its sooo very true

You are so right!!!

Ruby has slept on her tummy from a very early age, we spent hours turning her, but the second we walked away, she rolled back

When she naps at nursery, they have to turn her every 5 mins, they wont allow her to sleep on her tummy....so she doesnt sleep well, and is always exhausted when she has been there.

Do what you feel is right, its YOUR baby

 

[Squiglet]

When my mum had me...she was advised to put me to sleep on my front, in case I was sick in the night and choked to death... I could see the point and was never sure about putting Tia to sleep on her back.... so I used to put her to sleep on her side..(best of both worlds)...and now she only sleeps on her sides... Also my mum said you hardly ever heard of cot death back when I was a baby, and can't see how this new advice became apparent...

At the end of the day you have an apnia mat...and that makes your baby safer than those mother's babies at your class, no matter if he sleeps on his back, front or side.. so ignore them and be happy in the fact that you have made all the necessary arrangements to keep your baby safe..

 

[Rachx]

Thankyou so much for all your replies i feel so much better seems to me when it comes to babies you cant do right for doing wrong so i'll do it my waaaaaaaaaaaaaay *sings very loudly *

 

[maybebaby]

My MIL had 4 children over 10 years, my OH is the youngest. She's always telling me that she was given different advice for each child - with the first he HAD to sleep on his front, the secong HAD to sleep on his side, the third HAD to be weaned at 6 weeks etc. She's told me to listen to everyone's advice, nod happily then do whatever feels right to me.

You're his mummy, you know what's best for your son.

(I quite like my mother-in-law sometimes! )

 

[lella]

I know what its like to be judged. It really gets me down, especially as a do everything that my HV advises. I get annoyed at having to justify myself. No one has a right to judge you. You do what you want with your baby, your their mother and in the end you know them best and what is best for them.