baby sleepin times?

[kezvsmrt]

my little boy is now 1 month and 2 weeks old and my mother-in-law says i should now start trying to get him in to a sleeping routine like putting him to bed at 7 and leave him crying in there till he pops of to sleep.
Help is this true because he is still a baby s he will still sleep at all hours he wants to.

 

[daftscotslass]

At 1 month and 2 weeks he'll sleep when he's tired. You can try and make night time sleep a quiet time by having the room darkened and not talking to him when he wakes up, just a gentle feed, change if he needs it. He's way too young to be left to cry (in my opinion) - do what you think is right, not MIL!

 

[Bee]

If he's not tired then leave him

He'll sleep when he wants to

 

[LisaJ1986]

To be honest, it's too early for any real routine. And i don't agree that babies should be left to cry at such an early age. He should establish his own routine in time.

 

[kezvsmrt]

thnk u all its jst when ever i pop him dwn asleep he wakes up soon after for another cuddle and feed so i leave him 4 10mins then pic him up again he jst doesnt seem too wna seattle x

 

[charlie84]

When they are that little they tend to want to be near/held by someone because that is what they have been used to from being inside mum for nine months.
Have you tried swaddling baby so that may make him feel secure, popping a tshirt that you have worn in his bed so he can smell you even though you may not be there.

 

[kezvsmrt]

i tryed swaddling a couple tyms but i shall try the tshirt to thanks just with swaddling he cnt reach his hands lol and because he is not allowed a dummy hee has been teached to use his hand fingers and my breast to comft him x

 

[charlie84]

Swaddling didnt work for my baby either, she hated having her arms trapped.

You say he wakes ten minutes later for another feed.
Does he fall asleep at the breast hun?
If so maybe try and get him to feed a little longer by keeping him awake by stroking his feet/cheek, so that he takes in a little more milk so he may sleep for longer than ten mins.

 

[Carley1985]

When my son was 4 weeks i started to get into a kind of routine, at around 9pm after his feed i would put him down awake in his moses basket, i bought a clip on music mobile and put it on, he loved it and watching it got him to drift to sleep for a couple of hours (but i would never leave him if he cried which was hardly ever), he was such a good baby. It gave me and my husband a little time to ourselves. He got used to this routine and i have never had any problems with bedtime, he's now 2

 

[andreag]

My LO got into her own routine (at night) at about 4 weeks. She used to cluster feed in the evenings and that got earlier and earlier and after a couple of nights when she had slept from 7-10 (downstairs) we built it into a bedtime routine and put her in her moses basket. I would never have left her to cry so wouldn't have done it while she was still feeding alot - I would have been up and down the stairs all evening
I would go with whatever suits your own routine. Personally I liked the fact that me and OH could have a proper meal together (even though for the first few days we just sat and stared at the baby monitor!). I do think routines are good for babies to make them feel secure, but it also has to be practical. My Mum asked me if I had got LO into a routine when she was 1 week old!

 

[Bexie]

Go with your own instincts and what feels right for you.

We started a routien with our daughter quite early on, she always fell asleep at the breast and from there I would place her in her moses basket/cot, it seemed to work for us. We always heard "Never let your child fall asleep at the breast", but it never proved to be a problem for us, now my daughter is given a bottle and cuddle at bed time and then placed in her cot and we don't hear a squeak out of her, (I think she enjoys her sleep!)

We put her to bed at 7pm, prior to this (Before she was on solids) we would cluster feed her. For half an hour, 4 hours and 2 hours before bedtime and then when I put her to bed I would feed her on each breast for 25 mins, unless she fell into a deep sleep. When I went to bed at 10pm I would then sleep feed her again for as long as she wanted. After a couple of weeks of doing this she started sleeping though the night.

 

[badgergirl]

I'd say it's too early for a routine to be set in stone yet. I started giving Sprog a bedtime at around 13 weeks, but I introduced it slowly.

You should do what feels right for you and your LO, rather than following the laws of the MIL - he's your baby, and your instincts will be right whatever you choose!

 

[kezvsmrt]

he is always falling asleep whilst on the boob but he does get some of my hing milk which is good, but i put him down and he will wake up after 10min becus he wants comft etc...
Last night i swaddled him and put my mainly used cardigan inside his/wrapped around his mattress in his moses basket, fed him again just before i put him down, he woke up again fed him again popped him down he woke up str8 away but thought right as he is not crying i shall leave him so he was having a little figit and play then finally dropped of to sleep without wakin up for a feed during the night and finally woke up at 8 in the morning,
He slept most of the day today on his front on my v pillow on my couch to try to get him use to the moses basket when it was actully bed time.

 

[Carley1985]

he is always falling asleep whilst on the boob but he does get some of my hing milk which is good, but i put him down and he will wake up after 10min becus he wants comft etc...
Last night i swaddled him and put my mainly used cardigan inside his/wrapped around his mattress in his moses basket, fed him again just before i put him down, he woke up again fed him again popped him down he woke up str8 away but thought right as he is not crying i shall leave him so he was having a little figit and play then finally dropped of to sleep without wakin up for a feed during the night and finally woke up at 8 in the morning,
He slept most of the day today on his front on my v pillow on my couch to try to get him use to the moses basket when it was actully bed time.

It's good to get him to settle on his own if you can, it makes things much easier, there is nothing wrong with leaving him if he is happy and not crying. As everyone has said, go with what you feel is right because you know your baby best of all!

 

[trixipaws]

think its their generation are rele big on routines my mum was always asking when i'd start a routine lol.

truth is tho my daughter let me kno when she was ready for a bedtime routine. at 3 months old she changed from a contented baby from 8am til midnight or even 1am when we all went to bed together, into a baby which like clockwork turned into a grouchy screaming unsettled little thing inthe evenings, around 7pm.

we tried a bath, boob, bed routine at 7pm and u kno what- it worked a treat! thought it'd take weeks to get used to but she took to it straight away.

i think ur baby will tell u when he's ready