Awful temper......

[Natural mamma]

The last few days i've had the shortest temper......REALLY bad its not like me. I feel like i'm really pissed off with all my kids and man for not just being good and undemanding. Its like they haven't realised that all my energy is going to be going all to the the baby very soon. And what liitle time i get for me will be spent studying for my degree.... they are going to have to put up with me not being fully there for them for a bit.

I also feel really guilty that i am putting such a massive burden on my OH. as they are not his children. He does however have the most amazing bond with them all and spends a lot of quality time with them more than their own Dad.
I am starting to feel overwhelmed.....

I have a horse and the O.H has had to take over care of him as i can't muck out at the mo as it hurts, nor can i put him in or out of the field as he has a habit of nudging me (out of love). He is also working all hours as a tree surgeon so is knackered at the end of the day. And we have four kids to deal with too.......

I know i need to prioritise, i have tried to sell my horse but just could not do it, despite him being a ficancial and time burden.

I think we can cope but i just don't want it to put a strain on us. I love him to bits ........

Moan rant over just needed to unload.

 

[KJL]

Awww poor you, you sound like you're having a tough time If it helps at all I know exactly where you are coming from. I am not so much angry as a total depressive mess right now. I feel like a massive burden to my hubby as I broke down last night and now he is unbelievably worried. I can't really function very well at the moment and he's doing everything around the house and working every day.

I too have a horse and he too has a habit of nudging (also out of love ), I luckily have a great friend who is helping me out with him but I miss it like hell and I find it so depressing.

I am starting to doubt whether I'll be able to go back to studying this yr (am hoping to start my Phd) which is stressing me as it's always been my dream and I put so much work into my past studying, but is it really going to be possible with a baby?!

I just wanted to reassure you that u really are not the only one, and you shouldn't feel like you are burdening your OH. He is there to be your support and I am sure he completely understands that your anger is linked to your pregnancy.

Have some of these

 

[Natural mamma]

Thankyou hun...... have some back

And i'm sure when we are not such hormonal messes it will all become clear. And we will get into a routine that supports our studying and horseys

 

[kazlin]

I've been quite snappy recently too, I'm just putting it down to hormones. When I feel like this I try and divert my thoughts to reading or listening to music...it kind of works

Have some more

 

[Babylicious]

I'm the same, I'm such a cow at the moment and I can't seem to stop myself from kicking off at the silliest of things. I go from an emotional wreck crying all the time to a neurotic b1tch

 

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[Happybunny]

Wow, I think it is completely understandable that you are feeling this way. I don't have any children or pets, I have left work now and I find everyday life hard work. You have got four children, a horse, you are studying AND nurturing this new life inside of you! I think you are amazing!!! You certainly should not be hard on yourself for getting stressed or angry from time to time. Your hormones will be out of whack on top of all the family pressures you have.
Keep talking to your man, he sounds wonderful! It must be difficult, but try and find some time to yourself and relax and most importantly, don't beat yourself up....you have a lot on your plate and it sounds like you are coping really well!
Lots of love to you

 

[Natural mamma]

Happybunny
PostPosted: Sun Jan 27, 2008 150 pm Post subject:
Wow, I think it is completely understandable that you are feeling this way. I don't have any children or pets, I have left work now and I find everyday life hard work. You have got four children, a horse, you are studying AND nurturing this new life inside of you! I think you are amazing!!! You certainly should not be hard on yourself for getting stressed or angry from time to time. Your hormones will be out of whack on top of all the family pressures you have.
Keep talking to your man, he sounds wonderful! It must be difficult, but try and find some time to yourself and relax and most importantly, don't beat yourself up....you have a lot on your plate and it sounds like you are coping really well!
Lots of love to you Hug Hug Hug Hug Hug Hug Hug

Thanku so much..... that is very sweet of you. I do make time for myself but then often sit and feel guilty for not doing anything...its a vicious circle..i will take on board what you said...have some hugs too

 

[Full of hope!]

Hope you feel better soon

 

[Emma58]

I'm the same, I'm such a cow at the moment and I can't seem to stop myself from kicking off at the silliest of things. I go from an emotional wreck crying all the time to a neurotic b1tch

That is exactly how I feel at the moment. OH is getting on my nerves - all i want is half an hour to my self yet every time my ass touches the settee he wants my advice on something.

I'm feeling really down at the moment and just want to be left alone - he has kicked off already today because I am not i the mood to prat about or even have a conversation.

I've rushed off my feet all day doing cleaning and housework so when I go back to work I aren't coming home to it all to do. And I don't even want to go back to work tomorrow.

 

[KJL]

Thankyou hun...... have some back

And i'm sure when we are not such hormonal messes it will all become clear. And we will get into a routine that supports our studying and horseys

Thanks for the Thank god for this forum and the support of other hormonal woman. I've just been dragged out by some friends for lunch and it was so nice to have a break from my moods! Taking the horse out tomorrow as my friend is competing him for me while i'm preggers so I'm hoping that'll cheer me up...god I miss it!

 

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[clarey]

Hang in there ladies, dont go doing anything you might regret in a few months when the hormones are easing.

From reading the posts on here everyone get days/weeks when we feel like we cant cope with things that wouldnt have seemed that big a deal a few months ago but I really think life has a way of fitting in whatever is important to you - somehow your kids, OH's, pets and studies will fit in with everything else and you will be so glad you didnt give up something you feel passionate about.

People keep telling me 'ooh you will have to stop travelling/give up your ideas of working for yourself/get rid of the cats etc etc - you have no idea how your life will change' - I am sure they are right to some extent but I will make a pretty miserable Mummy with nothing at all for myself, that I think its gonna be worth any difficulties....fingers crossed anyway

to you all, dont be stressed!