Are you an only child???

[tattybear85]

im the eldest of 5 and we ranged from 22-9 i did have a younger bro but he was too good for this life and passed on nearly 3years ago aged 8months!!

I love being part of a big family even though we did used ot fight like cat and dog but we had such fun making up games going out on our bikes(bullying my other brother!!) and we all get on so well now and still rib the living daylights out of each other!!!

I def couldnt have an only child i see Oliver now playing with his toys by himself and feel really sorry for him as he has no one to play with and i cant wait to have these 2 and for them to grow up a little bit so they can all play together...i just hope the twins dont pair off and leave Oliver out!!!


xxxx

 

[kellie80]

I'm not and only child my self and I must add that I would hate it. Jessica, my eldest was 5 and a half when Aimee was born and Having siblings has really brought her on. I'm so glad we decided to have more kids She has changed so much and isn't no where near as spoilt as she used to be. I just wish I'd done it earlier.

 

[Red_Fairy]

i have 2 brothers and 2 sisters.

1 brother lives in Japan.. ive met him only a few times. (once as an adult)

Other brother is 20 years older then me, very different personalitys, hes never lived with me. We have different dads.. nothing in comon at all.

Sister number 1. Cant have children. Has always resented me cos of what ive done with my life (went to uni, had a baby) She has nothing to do with me. (cos she finds it too difficult apparently.) shes 14 years older then me.

sister number 2 - shes 4 years younger then me, turned into the worst nightmare as a teenager. (accused my dad and brother of sexual assalt) it wasnt true. Shes a compulsive liar. About anything and everything. She messed me up a few years back to the level where i didnt even want to live anymore. (spreading evil shit to people i cared about)
BUT *touch wood*. After 10 years of that she SEEMS to be coming out of it now. (shes 20) but i dont think ill ever be 'close' to her.


When i was pregnant with hannah i always said i didnt want more. I dont think sibblings are needed. (as you can imagine!) even my mum one day realised this from my perspective and completly agreed with me. (she had been a lonley child and longed for a family) its not always a good thing!! lmao.

My partner who hasd a brother (who is on herion) agreed cos his brother put his family through hell n all.


sounds harsh. just speaking from my own experience.

 

[Rubys mummy]

I am a middle child with an older brother who I am not that close to, and a younger sister who I grew up constantly clashing with but once I left home we became the best of friends!!!!

We dont intend to have any more children so Ruby is likely to be an only child, but my sisters LO 10 weeks olde than Ruby and they are aleady best of friends too like me and my sis so I reckon they will grow up very close like sisters

If I had a pound for eveytime someone has said to me "Ruby cant be an only child, its selfish!!" I would be rich

I would want Ruby to be in school if we had another baby due to the cost of childcare ( I work fulltime) and that would make me 40 having a baby...and I just could not see me wanting to try again at 40..I know lots of women do but I personally dont think I could do it

 

[kimmumof2]

im not an only child i have a sister who is less than a yr younger than me and i cudnt live without her she truely is my best friend. if you dnt wat other ids you could just ensure you take your child to mother n toddler groups etc have lots of out of the home activities like brownies groups, clubs etc then they will probably grow up to be very sociable and have many friends, which is what they need. i think as you grow up a sibling helps you grow and learn and gives you company and when your older they are like good friends so as long as you raise your child to have the skills to find people to fulfill these roles throughout their lives then being an only child might not make a difference.

my sister doesnt want any more kids but she knows that i want about 5/6 and becus we are so close our kids will be so her son already has 2 very very close cousins so she has no problems with raising him as an only child.

xxxx

 

[mummykay]

I dont want Jam to be an only child, i think if anythin happened to me and OH i would need to know he had someone there for him the whole time no matter what

Im the kid from the previous relationship, mum remarried and had my step sis when i was 6, we hated eachother and only know we see eye to eye just about

I think itd be good for Jam to have a sibling, he has already got ideas above his station, needs takin down a peg or two lol

 

[Redshoes]

lol Mummykay

I would like Isaac to have more family, in siblings, as otherwise he won;t have very much 'blood-wise'

My cousin was an only child and longed to have siblings. I have a brother but he's not always been easy My 2 best friends are 1 of 5 and as much as they have their ups and downs I really envy the relationships they all have now they've grown, and although they say it wasn't always easy 'sharing' everything, now I see how happy they are they have siblings. I'd personally love a big family, I would love for Isaac to have lots of siblings I think Wednesday will be just fine as an only or as a sibling, because she'll not know otherwise, and she'll be loved regardless, which is most important

 

[Kylie1007]

If I had a pound for eveytime someone has said to me "Ruby cant be an only child, its selfish!!" I would be rich

On the other hand, you could say that it was selfish to bring another child into an already overpopulated world!

 

[leckershell]

I've been wondering this too mid, on the one hand I would be sad to not be able to give my full attention to Ryan but on the other hand I keep hearing how it's nice for them to have siblings. If I did I would only want one more.

I have a younger brother, 4 years younger, but we didn't really play together it was more like I'd be the one sticking up for him when he got bullied. Don't know if he ever did appreciate that lol. I have a half brother who is nearly 5, but I hardly see him. If he lived closer then I wouldn't mind so much about Ryan being an only child as I'd pair them two up.

 

[Misslarue]

I have 1 younger and 1 older brother and I adore them both. We had great fun as kids together, obviously we had our rows! There is only 18 months between me and my younger brother and as we grew up in pubs, moving schools a lot we were very close as kids. All 3 of us are very close and they mean the world to me.

 

[Xena]

I'm an only child and I was fine with it.

 

[zebrastripes]

I'm an only child,no half,step or any other sort of sibling at all...and I loved it! I'm really close to my parents, and I think if I'd had siblings I would have been a totally different person- not as independant for instance

 

[Squiglet]

I'm kind of an only child... I'm definitely my parents only child.. I have a brother and sister, but they are both adopted and have Down's so mentally they were far behind me. My sister has more in common with my daughter than I ever did... and it's been nice for DD because she's been an only child for 8 years, but has had the company of my sister as if she was her sister.

I never went to the same school as my siblings, never played with them, never went out clubbing with them etc. So yer I suppose I'm an only child in many respects. I know they will never get married and have kids of their own... so my kids will never have cousins.

I have issues with friendships but that isn't down to being an only child, that's down to my baby sister dying when I was little which makes it hard for me to develop a sense of trust that a person won't leave me... because my sister did and it left me heartbroken.

Tia is very friendly and bubbly and loads of kids like her.. so being an only child for so long hasn't effected her... What I did was get her out at childminders, nurseries etc from around 8weeks old, as I was working/college and it was a great way to socialise her and get her used to interaction between other people. My parents kept me at home until I was 5 so it made it more difficult for me, because I had only ever associated with adults.

Don't get me wrong... I would have loved to have had a baby sister again, it was my greatest wish... and Tia is desperately excited about having a baby sister too.. She complains that I've waited a long time to give her someone to play with. But we always want what we don't have.

Give yourself time Midna. After I had Tia I said I'd never ever do it again.. I just couldn't face it. And it has taken me 8 years to get round to doing it again. And while I did feel broody in that time, I just couldn't face doing it a second time. Don't look at it like you won't be having any more kids, just you won't be having them anytime soon..

Ignore those who say you have to have more.. because you don't have to and Wednesday will be just fine as long as she has a mum and dad who love her and take care of her..

 

[monster_munch]

Ignore those who say you have to have more.. because you don't have to and Wednesday will be just fine as long as she has a mum and dad who love her and take care of her..

I don't think any of us said you have to have more
We just explained our personal situations. I wouldn't have had all the things I had as a child (ponies, private schooling, moped, cars) had I had siblings, but for me, not being close to my parents, I had a very lonely childhood, which in turn means for me that I wanted my daughter to have siblings.
If, for example, I wasn't able to have more then I would be able to learn from my parents' "mistakes" and know how to keep her from feeling so lonely.

Had I been closer to my parents, and had my dad not had a job that meant we moved around a lot, I probably would have been a lot better adjusted. Different children react differently so whatever you think is best, Mid, is

 

[Kimbo]

im an only child and loved it.

i have step siblings who live with my dad and his wife.. and i used to argue and fight with them just as much as normal brothers and sisters would... but the good thing was at the end of the day i could walk away from it and go back home ot my mum and be on my own.

when i was younger i used to wish i had a sister who i could play with, but as i got older i couldnt imagine not being on my own!

i had no little sisters routing through my things... annoying me or anything.. i got the attention off my mum, and christmas's used to be allllllll about me

 

[Steelgoddess]

This is a great thread...

I think its one of those things where both have their pros and cons...

I personally have a sister, we are quite close but imho I wish she was or I had a sibling who closer in age (7 years diff) I personally feel its nicer to have kids closer in age so they can play, go out with each other and share similar things.

IN saying that now although she was older she was able to teach me a load of stuff including teaching me to read, and taking me places to give my mum a break...

I believe siblings can lean on each, ie my folkes are divorced and when they would argue we would play music together and games and she would make sure i was ok, if i was on my own that would have been awful for me i think...

Siblings can also stick up for each other at school, talk about boys or girls and often encourage each other to make better choices.

ON the other side of the coin I think with an only child at least they would get alot of parental attension, they wouldnt get jealous of siblings. They would be (hopefully) maybe more likely to make friends.

I think you need to make a decision which is right for your family Wednesday may get to age 3 and you might think thats the time for another or you may think yes thats enough for you.

There are plently of lone children who are very happy and well rounded individuals.

xx

 

[_Rosie_]

i have 2 brothers who are 5 and 7 years older then me, i wouldnt like to be an only child because then there would be nobody to blame the dirty dishes on. i only get on with one of my brothers but i wouldnt like to be without them, i would be lonely and it wouldnt seem like a proper family to me.
OH is the youngest of 11 he has brothers and sisters older then my parents.

 

[debecca]

I'm the eldest of 2. My OH is an only child. He INSISTS it doesn't matter how many children we have as long as it's not an only one - I've told him we need to get this one out first before we even THINK about another

My mum was the eldest of 16

 

[Strangeness]

I'm the youngest of four and I love having my siblings! My sister is 12 years older than me and I didn't really see too much of her when I was really little cos she was out clubbing etc but now we are so close! My brother are two and four years older than me and we're also very close! They do my head in at times but I would not have it any other way. My sister lives in Gibraltar and my brother lives in London but we still stay in touch all the time and know everything that is going on! After I had Aaron I thought I didn't want anymore because I had such a rough time and I was glad to be out of it all but now seeing him grow up on his own I really wanted him to have what I had! There will be just under 3 years between them and I am very happy with that age gap.

 

[Hypnorm]

People forget about the parents who often wanted more kids but then couldnt because of medical reasons etc.
My mum wanted more kids but because of an abnormal smear test had to have a full hysterectomy when i was 5. People called her selfish just having me without even considering or asking why.

I am an olny child and although i would have loved a sibling i am not affected my it and was able to achieve everthing i wanted with my parents support. (they couldnt support me finanically but that wasnt an issue, the only problem i found is that both my parents are terribly over protective.

Now i have Ewan and i never wanted him to be an only child, we wanted them close together around 18 months gap. we started trying again when ewan was 9 months and we are still trying now, so Ewan may well be an only child. I was upset at first but now i am thanking that at least i have my boy and he means the world to me.