Anyone else out there?

[reillybaby1987]

Just wondering if anyone else out there has lost a parent before you found out you were pregnant, or a loved one?

I lost my mum last August after her battling with cancer for over 15 years....the last couple of days have been difficult i'e shes not around to see her first grandchild or for me too ask questions about things.....I just miss her so much and would do anything to have her back in my life but I know sadly that wont ever happen

 

[cosmicgirl]

sorry hun, didn't want to R&R x


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[kerry5a]

I haven't, but didn't want to read and run so I'm sending you a huge, über, massive, cor blimey hug x

 

[DaisyPurple]

So sorry for you hunny XXX
I know.its not quite the same but my Nan died the day before my boy was born sh had been in a semi vegetative state for 5 years prior to her death, I found the timing hard to comprehend at the time, its 10 years on the 19th November, my boy was born 6 days late. I hope that you have the support of other loved ones at this time xx
Edit: I meant to say she died the day before he was due x

 

[Princess81]

My sister died in December. She didn't like kids much but I am still heartbroken that she will never get to meet mine

 

[reillybaby1987]

I feel stupid for sitting here bawling my eyes out after all it has been over a year but its still raw only feels like yesterday....I have my dad and my brother but Its not the same, me and my brother aren't that close anymore we stay miles apart and my dad has only just come back into my life this year and all my friends live in Dumfries which is where i'm moving back too after the baby is born

 

[hugsy]

Awww hun I know how you feel

I lost my dad last year and it kills me he'l never get to know he had a granddaughter and that she will never get to meet him

Also lost my brother and it always made me cry that he never got to have a family and now the other way round that he wont get to meet mine think being pregnant makes all my bottled up feelings creep to surface because iv cried so much over them both the last few months

Hope you doin ok hunnie hugs xxx

Can you try ask your dad some of your questions he might be able to share that bond from your mams pregnancy with you

 

[reillybaby1987]

I can't ask my dad as he was never around xxx

 

[hugsy]

Sorry hun think ya posted at same time as my reply so didnt see the bit about ur dad only coming into ur life

So sorry your having such a hard time hun, i know how awful it is and it really does take years to get over so I wouldnt feel you shouldnt be crying less than a year after loosing her my brother died 12 years ago and i still cry for him and miss him every day

You can always pm me if you need to talk hun

 

[kanga86]

Hey Hun, I sadly know of the loss of ur mum. It is such a hard thing to deal with

My mum passed away 7 years ago, the day before my 18th birthday, from SADS. She was only 36! I get times where I am so sad that I can't ask her questions about being pregnant or what er experiences of labour were. Or what to expect after the baby is here. I get so upset that she will never see her kids grow up, get married, have any grandchildren etc. I think about her everyday even 7 years down the line and the pain is still so raw.

After my mmc in June I just wanted my mum, but I went to her grave and cried asking her to look after my angel baby, her grandchild so so sad.

I have my dad around but he lives 200 miles away, and we haven't been close since my mum death but that's a whole other story ( lets just say he basically abandoned me and my sister and spend my mum's life insurance on his new wife!!)

If u ever wan to chat just pm me hun xxx

 

[furryheart]

My mum passed away when i was 12, she was only 37 years old, miss her so much every single day, that was 25 years ago and her first grand daughter arrived 3 years after she passed. she has 3 grand daughters and 2 grand sons she never got to see. My dad is just the best, was both dad and mum to me, i can tell him anything. Also best grandad ever.

 

[furryheart]

Would just like to add that my brothers wife had my niece 3 years after my mum passed away, it wasnt me !

 

[Mrs. KM]

So sorry about your Mum! Unfortunately it seems that there are a lot of us going through this. I lost my sister 6 years ago to cancer, and have found it even harder since getting pregnant. She was a nurse and worked in the labor ward so loved babies. We were only 14 months apart, so very close, and always discussed raising our babies together. I just always tought she would be the one to give me advice on labor and delivery, breastfeeding and other baby things. She'll always be with me in my heart though... I just miss her. xx

 

[1986princess]

Sorry about ur mum xxx

 

[Sleepy sue]

Hi Hun I know your loss I lost my mom in feb this year, I still can't comprehend that she's not here. I miss her everyday and cry everyday for her. There are so many questions and so many times I would die for a hug off her.

It's the little things that get to you too, I was cutting the meat the other day and said to oh when I was little you'd stand by mom and try and nick a bit before it went on the plates. The next thing I'm crying stupid really!!

Yup in tears now x x

 

[Nic36]

I feel your pain so much... I lost my Dad three years ago and my Mum five months after my Dad. I was their only child and didn't manage to give them the Grandchild they would have both loved to have... But I really believe they are watching from wherever they are now, and that they will love and cherish our baby as much as if they were here in the flesh.

I was so incredibly close to my Mum - she was (and still is) my inspiration for everything I do. I miss her still every day and long for her to be with me as I journey through this new phase of my life. It makes me realise I know nothing about how her pregnancy with me progressed and what I was like as a baby. I have no one to ask so just have to wonder.

If you want to pm me any time, please feel free... Sending huge hugs... Xxxxxxx

 

[nikki8092]

My dad died a month before paiges birthday, we had his funeral 3 days before her birthday which was really hard. He never got to meet his grandson, we were all girls and he really wanted a grandson and he wont get to meet his 3rd. Makes me really sad that he has missed so much x

 

[Spammy]

Hi Hun. Hug xx. I lost my mum 2 years ago after an 8 year battle with a blood disease. I was 24 when she died and it was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. She was the most amazing woman anyone could ever wish to meet.

At the time she had 4 grandchildren and was the most amazing grandma. She never let her illness stop her playing, baking, and being the most fun grandma you could imagine. My nieces and nephews were only little when she died but they still talk about her now and I well up every time!

It kills me that my mum won't be around when I have my baby. I hate not being able to ask her things or confide in her when I feel scared. I am lucky because I have 3 sisters but its not the same. A mum and daughters relationship is one that can't be repeated

I am sorry for the long post. This thread has really made me emotional. Loads of love to you all. XxxxxxxX

 

[wiganlass2010]

I lost my dad nearly 20 years ago when i was 11. He never got to meet any of his grandkids but i know they would have been spoilt rotten if he was still here. It gets easier as the years go by but you never forget and i still remember loads about him. Hes missed so much of everything and i miss him everyday. Ive always said to my kids to look for the brightest star in the sky and when they find it, thats grandad looking down on them from heaven xx

 

[BellaRiven]

Hey Hun

I didn;t want to read and run, I am so sorry about your mum, I haven;t personally lost any parents but OH has and it makes me wonder if he thinks about it and if he does whether he will talk to me about it.

HUGE hugs to you xxxx