Anyone else getting comments about their size etc?

[Ragdoll]

So at Christmas we had my mother in law, my fiancés grandma, my mum and stepdad round for dinner. Mother in law and grandma both eat like sparrows and are two stone wet through. Fiancés grandma says to me "Are you sure you aren't having twins? Because you've just eaten enough for triplets!" (I'd had a normal sized plate of food-she'd had a side plate with her food on)

Had to defend myself and tell her that actually I'd not eaten so far that day (this was at 1pm). Since then "You're big" "Aren't you huge?" "You've put some weight on" every time I see her.

Colleagues give mixed comments ranging from "Look at the size of that bump!" To "Ooh aren't you small for 7 months?"

Getting fed up now - I've put on a stone and because of the comments I asked my midwife in a panic if I was indeed a whale for having gained a stone in 7 months. She has reassured me that I'm okay but it's still made me paranoid now if I'm eating around people.

Has anyone else experienced this? How have you dealt with it?

 

[firsttimemum29]

My mum did ask me if I was sure I wasnt having twins. We dont live near so dont see each other often. I put on very little with my first and have put on a lot more this time. I think people know better than to say too much!! Maybe if you get any more comments just politely say that your midwife isnt concerned about weight gain and that comments arent helpful when you have hormones all over the place! You arent alone with people making comments, I think people dont realise/forget how extra sensitive we can be when pregnant. Try not to take anything to heart.

 

[Mexico2014]

This is not what you need during pregnancy. I was constantly getting told I was small. Don't worry about what they say and let it go over your head. I don't know why people say things like that as it is just horrible. It's normal to put on between 1 1/2 to 2 stone during pregnancy. I know I put on a lot more!!!

Keep your chin up and think of the beautiful baby your baking!! Think how much they will be enjoying that lovely plate of food you've put in your belly.

Probably best to distance yourself from people saying hurtful things. Pregnancy is hard enough as it is without those sorts of comments. Take care xxx

 

[Ragdoll]

Thank you both

You're right that people can't help themselves , like touching your belly without asking all courtesy goes out of the window !
I think what really bothered me is that it has taken so long to get pregnant (I had IVF) and that's been a hard enough struggle always worried something would go wrong. I'd just started to relax when all the comments started up!

Silver lining though is my other half tells me how beautiful I am with my belly , even if he's just being nice at least he's making an effort !

Firsttimemum29- sorry your mum said that to you , not a confidence boosting comment , kinda glad I'm not the only one. Must be a popular phrase/question !

Mexico2014- I'm sure being told you were small was just as upsetting ! People might as well accuse you of starving your child! Very insensitive people about !

 

[Mexico2014]

Exactly, the main thing is that your other half is positive and saying lovely comments about how beautiful you look.

Yeah it was upsetting as people kept asking are you eating properly etc. I was eating properly but my placenta was critsralised which means it was shot!! So that was the reason for the smaller baby' although 6lb 9.5 is not to bad.

Just enjoy your pregnancy and I wish you all the very best. Xxx

 

[Sunbeam638]

Don't bat an eyelid to any comments you get. I have put on over 3 stone in each pregnancy starting out as a size 8/10 and I'm 5"1 so you can imagine nearly everyone I'm into conversation with feels the need to comment. I can't help it, it's just my body dealing with pregnancy and afterwards it's the best feeling seeing the "weightloss" on the scales! Equally some mums put on Half the weight and pop out the same size baby! So if anyone comments about small or large they can't see what's growing in there!

Don't take anything to heart, people don't realise and think as your pregnancy it's a free
Hall pass to comment. Now I have two children and pg I get the "oh you have your hands full" and "God don't know how you do it" i clearly must walk around looking stressed and unable to manage! Hardly, now I say "yep nothing i can't handle!" If I couldn't I wouldn't!!

Eat cake, roast dinners and don't stress it. If you don't put on too much weight high five and count it as a bonus! x

 

[Laura1992]

You can't win. I had my twins 5 1/2 weeks ago and I got constant "it can't be twins, I was way bigger with my singleton" even though I gained 3 stone and the babies were born weighing nearly 6 and a half pounds each at 36+5. People just talk rubbish and I'd pay no attention to them, although it is difficult to ignore when it's genuinely rude (like your MIL and the grandma) rather than just well meant small talk. 1 stone in 7 months is hardly a lot xxx

 

[StephHarris212]

Don't bat an eyelid to any comments you get. I have put on over 3 stone in each pregnancy starting out as a size 8/10 and I'm 5"1 so you can imagine nearly everyone I'm into conversation with feels the need to comment. I can't help it, it's just my body dealing with pregnancy and afterwards it's the best feeling seeing the "weightloss" on the scales! Equally some mums put on Half the weight and pop out the same size baby! So if anyone comments about small or large they can't see what's growing in there!

Don't take anything to heart, people don't realise and think as your pregnancy it's a free
Hall pass to comment. Now I have two children and pg I get the "oh you have your hands full" and "God don't know how you do it" i clearly must walk around looking stressed and unable to manage! Hardly, now I say "yep nothing i can't handle!" If I couldn't I wouldn't!!

Eat cake, roast dinners and don't stress it. If you don't put on too much weight high five and count it as a bonus! x

Haha, I hope I don't gain much. And, I hope this is not something I am going to have to deal with. People are just so rude and can't keep their comments to themselves. I would tell people who make comments "Didn't your momma ever tell you if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all?"

But, I agree with everyone else here. Don't let it get to your head. People are just silly and have no respect. Doesn't mean you should feel horrible because they can't keep their mouths shut you know?

Anyways, I hope that helps

 

[Ragdoll]

Thanks everyone , it's always good to know you're not alone ! I just find it so unbelievable, I for one have never commented on a pregnant ladies weight. I'm one of those excited types (have you got names, how are you decorating nursery etc etc) , which I'm hoping has never offended any of them !

 

[StephHarris212]

Thanks everyone , it's always good to know you're not alone ! I just find it so unbelievable, I for one have never commented on a pregnant ladies weight. I'm one of those excited types (have you got names, how are you decorating nursery etc etc) , which I'm hoping has never offended any of them !

That would never offend me. Haha, just comments about weight and size would. I'm with you though on asking questions like names decorations etc.

 

[Leighwiltshire]

i feel huge!!! and very self conscious about my weight, if anyone mentioned anything i think i would flip.

i have a little bump to me feels huge but everyone says im very small for being nearly 6 months,

i seek reassurance from the other half all the time, he says im beautiful and look good pregnant, thats all that matters to me hes the only one im looking to impress.

eat what you want, enjoy every minute, and look after your body when you have stopped creating another little human!

 

[Petit Pois]

Has anyone else experienced this? How have you dealt with it?

YES.

First at my work Christmas party this random woman in the toilets said I looked huge (I'd dressed up and actually felt like I looked nice so that really pissed me off) - I dealt with that by crying about it for the whole next day... I wouldn't recommend it

Then a couple of weeks ago we were at my parents for my dad's birthday and my nan chirps up "you are looking big darling, are you sure you haven't got two in there?!" YES I'M SURE. THANKS THOUGH. I don't think she meant anything nasty by it, she just speaks without thinking.

My work friend keeps saying I'm massive but I just tell him to shut the **** up.

It seems as soon as you announce your pregnancy people's manners go out the window. Try not to let it bother you - easier said than done, I know from experience! You're growing a little person, and that person needs to be fed xxxx

 

[StephHarris212]

Has anyone else experienced this? How have you dealt with it?

YES.

First at my work Christmas party this random woman in the toilets said I looked huge (I'd dressed up and actually felt like I looked nice so that really pissed me off) - I dealt with that by crying about it for the whole next day... I wouldn't recommend it

Then a couple of weeks ago we were at my parents for my dad's birthday and my nan chirps up "you are looking big darling, are you sure you haven't got two in there?!" YES I'M SURE. THANKS THOUGH. I don't think she meant anything nasty by it, she just speaks without thinking.

My work friend keeps saying I'm massive but I just tell him to shut the **** up.

It seems as soon as you announce your pregnancy people's manners go out the window. Try not to let it bother you - easier said than done, I know from experience! You're growing a little person, and that person needs to be fed xxxx

Exactly!

 

[Ragdoll]

Wow Petits Pois- its bad enough when it's people you know but for a stranger to be that nasty is unbelievable ! I don't mind when strangers ask when I'm due as I am very obviously pregnant and they are showing an interest, ironically I find the ones that ask that just go on to have a nice conversation about babies and don't comment on size/weight

 

[kabuk1]

I get the comment about looking small. Now that I'm finally in my 3rd trimester- I get, you can't be.

But the comment I get the most, thankfully, is "you have such a cute bump. You are all bump. You haven't put weight on anywhere else." Now those comments can keep on coming.

 

[lisey]

I often get comments about how big I am. I hate it when they say it. I feel like they are saying I am a fat monster. I have gained some weight everywhere this time compared to when preg with my son but it's just rude.
It's true, once you're pregnant, people think they can say what they want and it's ok xx

 

[Emily0505]

I was in a charity shop yesterday and the guy behind the till shouted across the shop to me 'how are you, you alright? You're looking SWELL' and then proceeded to fall about laughing thinking he was hilarious. Hubby thought I knew him as he was so over familiar with me! I was like erm nope, no idea who he is!

I've got an obvious pregnancy bump and I've put on a bit on my love handles but I'm not exactly massive! When you become pregnant it seems you are open to receive comments on your appearance from everyone!! Compliments are fine and more than welcome but anything regarding how big, tired, crappy you look are a big no no!!

XX

 

[Leighwiltshire]

i just went out to the sandwich van and the lad in front went oh serve her first she looks like she needs it more than me....

do i take that as in am a fat pregnant person or im little and need feeding!

 

[Emily0505]

I'd take that as a perk of being preggers! Que jumping perks! Lol!

XX

 

[Leighwiltshire]

haha i wasnt gunna say no! i was starving xx