Am so tired I'm crying all the time, will it get better?

[angelfairy]

Hi Girls,

sorry for not being around for the last month or so, my little girl is now 7 weeks old and has taken over my life.

I could really do with some advice and reassurance that things will get better and there is light at the end of the tunnel as I am at my wits end at the moment.

My princess sleeps throughout the day but is a nightmare at night - she will not go in her cot and cries all the time. We spend forever burping her and should have brought shares in infacol with the amount of it we go through. My husband is unable to help during the night as he has to go into work early in the morning and needs to be alert, so the night time comforting is all over to me.

Over the last few days we decided to start using gripe water instead of infacol and she has started bringing up her feeds - this is really demoralising at 4.30 in the morning as I have to start feeding her all over again. Needless to say I won't be using gripe water again.

Will it get better? How do I change her pattern of sleep during the day so she sleeps at night instead?

A very exhausted and teary eyed AngelFairy

 

[chezzabell]

sweetie it will get better

Have u ever thought about changing to the dr brown bottles and using colief drops??

Now they never worked for Alastair but i have read great results stories from using the 2 2gther, a mum on here her little daughter was waking every 2 hrs for a feed and after using these bottles and coliefs drops she stared sleeping all night. The dr brown botles are £10 for 2, if u want i can send u mine i only used them for 2 days ALastair just never liked them, in the end time and infacol worked best for him. Every baby is different. Have u asked ur HV for support??

It will get better hunny

 

[Alfiesmummy]

Oh angel im sorry to hear this bui promise you it gets better and it will completely change in a couple of weeks too, try the bottles and colief drops like Sophie27 advised its all basically trial and error to begin with. Hope that you and your princess settle into more of a routine in ther night soon, i remember those days and i feel for you

 

[OverTheMoon]

Colief drops were a godsend for me. Also my midwife leant me a special bath which was basically like a bucket so baby can be bathed in the foetal position legs up - you hold them under their arms and apparently it settles them and reminds them of being in the womb.
I remember feeling utterly exhausted like this too and crying non stop. Don't forget your hormones are still raging all over the place too.
Another idea you could try is rolling up a blanket (the cellular type) either side of baby when in the moses basket, this helps them to feel more secure. Also you could try swaddling.
If nothing else works then please take comfort in the fact that this WILL pass. You are doing a great job and the day will come where you think wow we have turned the corner.
Let us know how you are getting on. Big hugs to you and little one!

 

[Nicky_Jones]

When you say she sleeps throughout the day do you think she has day and night confused? How often is she feeding during the day?

If so from what I have read it might be worth trying the following. Set a start time for your day - 7am is recommend but we chose 7:30am so that she gets a bit of time with Daddy before going to bed. Always get her up at that time, go in, open the curtains say good morning as cheerily as possible, give her a wash, nappy change and feed. Then play with her immediately after the feed (she will be sleepy so to start with you will have to work hard), they say make sure you have a minimum of 15mins play time after feeding her. When she needs to go down for a nap put her down. Then feed her every 3 hours from your start time waking her about 15mins before a feed is due with a nappy change and repeat throughout the day until 12hrs after you woke her when you put her to bed. Come up with your own routine of maybe a massage, more calm play time, bath and feed and bed. do the same thing every night so that she knows it is time for bed. For day time naps don't close the curtains and in fact at this time of year leave the light on in the room. At night I dreamfeed 4hrs after putting her down, giving her a nappy change then and then didn't feed her until she woke asking for it (or until morning). I hope this helps and makes a bit of sense. We found at just under 8 weeks, doing this from day 1, she suddenly stopped waking for a feed at about 4am in the morning and I felt like a new person after that I never before realised how much I appreciated 6 hours sleep in one go!!!

 

[angelfairy]

Aw thanks you so much girls. I really appreciate all the support and advice .

Am off to see HV tomorrow, have a feeling that my little one may be suffering from reflux - hope it isn't.

Thanks a million

Angelfairy x

 

[budge]

Hi Girls,

sorry for not being around for the last month or so, my little girl is now 7 weeks old and has taken over my life.

I could really do with some advice and reassurance that things will get better and there is light at the end of the tunnel as I am at my wits end at the moment.

My princess sleeps throughout the day but is a nightmare at night - she will not go in her cot and cries all the time. We spend forever burping her and should have brought shares in infacol with the amount of it we go through. My husband is unable to help during the night as he has to go into work early in the morning and needs to be alert, so the night time comforting is all over to me.

Over the last few days we decided to start using gripe water instead of infacol and she has started bringing up her feeds - this is really demoralising at 4.30 in the morning as I have to start feeding her all over again. Needless to say I won't be using gripe water again.

Will it get better? How do I change her pattern of sleep during the day so she sleeps at night instead?

A very exhausted and teary eyed AngelFairy

it will get better angel fairy.
some people will jump on me for this but try popping baby in bed with you at night and feed her there. Get hubby to sleep on the settee dso he getsa good nights sleep for work and you can have more bed.
Babywill feel more secure next to you

 

[chezzabell]

totally agree budge

hope the bottle work i sent ya hun xxxxx

 

[Lyndsey]

Cant offer any advice I hope you start to feel more in control soon.

I have been told you can get infacol on prescription, this may help you save some money!

 

[claireabell]

hey hunnie....
Colief drops n the dr brown bottles worked a treat for me...a total godsend! Also i totally agree with what budge says....oooopppsss sorry to u ladies that don't! But our babies have been growing all safe and warm in our tummies and then they enter the big wide world and we make them sleep on their own....i think they like to be near us...my eldest still sometimes asks to sleep with me and i think if it makes them feel more secure and they get a good nights sleep then why not? I'm never in a deep sleep if ashlea sleeps in my bed and i put her in her growbag not under the duvet and remove the pillows....she'd sleep forever if I let her...hope you get some results soon hunnie, but perserverance babe...good luck....there is light at the end of the tunnel...xxxx

 

[cassi]

I prefer mam ultivent to dr brown bottles (i have both)

And infacol did nothing for us but coleif drops are amazing!

 

[angelfairy]

Hi Girlies,

just wanted to give you all an update, have been to see the doctor and he immediately diagnosed reflux. My princess is now on baby gaviscon sachets which she absolutely hates but are making her feel so much better.

Last night I actually manged an extra few hours of sleep and she is feeding alot better too.

Thank you for all your support, I really would have been lost without you all.

Sophie - the bottles are great and are def making a differece thx my love

Angelfairyxxx