Am I dealing with things normally?

[happy-chick]

x

 

[Fingers crossed]

Aw hon, sorry you're having a bad time of it. If I were you I'd go and get some help, cos if you don't it will get worse and might spiral out of control.

 

[MissGobby]

yeah i have to agree with FC - sorry about your loss hun

sending lots of hugs to you xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Ginnymarie]

Hello
you helped me so much last night...
it sounded as if you had a really traumatic experience and maybe it is all to painful, are you afraid of letting it out because it maybe like a floodgate and once opened it may just all come out, I am so frightened of loosing my baby because this seemed such a postive thing after all the death and negative things that have happened in my husbanc and my own families, that is why it will be so hard for me......if it happens, it will be like taking away something amazing that has happened....i promised myself a holiday if it happens, small thing to work for but depression is like a black cloud and nothing will make you feel better until it passes, the best thing i can say about depression is to be good to yourself, if you feel liike choc have it, if you feel like crying and smashing up a few plates do it, anger....why me....i went through that feeling yesterday, then i went through what have i done wrong, then went numb and apathetic, it is so personal and strange, my baby is still there but hanging by a thread i know it..........
i hope you are going to be ok and you have my msm if you need to talk
xxxx

 

[happy-chick]

x

 

[fynemum]

Doll, I am sorry to say there is no 'normal' way of dealing with the loss of a baby....... I do however think that going to see a councillor can only do good. i know of many ladies it has helped.
I found that I was kidding myself....... I was ok about not having my baby when he was due,,,he was just going to come late...... I thought I would fall pg straight away and it would be like my MMC never happened.....mental I know...and totally they wrong way to be.
When I took my very first AF after the MMC, well I was devistated....thats when it hit me hard, my baby was gone and was not going to come late.
I had to face the reality of loss.
I got so much support from the ladies here and on another forum, (just like councilling). I used both forums as I thought if I ranted so much people would get fed up with me, but that was not the case. people do understand that healing takes time, and that we deal with our emotions in so many different ways....sometimes we do need a little proffesional help to get us through.

I hope this makes sense to you and helps a little, Lv Yvonne xx

 

[tracey 2]

I have PMed you hun take care

 

[happy-chick]

I have PMed you hun take care

I havent received a PM hun x

 

[tracey 2]

it has gone through now hun sorry my mistake

 

[Happybunny]

Gah, I have been people over till really late, only just seen this and want to write a proper reply...but have to get sleep to get up at 6.30am. I will pm you tomorrow evening honey....for now can I send you lots of hugs

I am thinking of you sweetheart

Michelle
xxxx

 

[happy-chick]

Thanks Michelle.

I have my scan in morning.... will make a new post let you all know how i go on.

 

[Tick-Tock]

I have to say that i have been through emotions that i didn't even know existed in the last 7 weeks.........

As everyone else says, there is no normal way to deal with what we are going through and if you find you want to speak to a counsellor/friend etc then you should....

Wishing you all the best and sending lots of

J
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