am i daft?

[Alfiesmummy]

i am just soooooo broody Alfie is only 4 months old today and at the minute im in no position to have another one and its not even that i miss having a new born as christ i hated the first 2 weeks and i enjoy Alfie so much now, but the last few days iv really wanted to start trying for another, but im so torn as i want to spend as much time with Alfie as is possible but then I would absoloutely love to give him a little brother or sister now. Im defineately planning ttc this time next year but it just seems so far away and i dont know if i can hold out that long, also i want Alfie to be at the age where he knows more about whats going on, i mean has anyone else got two very close in age gap and how do they find it? i do also want to go back to work before i have another and id like to go back when Alfie is a year old, i lnow that all the things im saying point to waiting a while im just really broody!

 

[Minxy]

Although there are benefits (like being playmates and for some people getting it all out of the way) everyone I know says having two little ones is very hard, financially, emotionally and physically.

Nature makes us broody I think, it harps back to the days when we would have popped out one a year to ensure survival but I'm fighting the temptation for now!

This is in no way meant to be patronising but you are very young so have LOADS of time left for a footy team if you want. If I were you I'd get settled back to work, enjoy scrummy Alfie and think about it when things are more established and OH is around more often (doesn't he work away a lot at the moment?) You'll need the help!

 

[chezzabell]

ur not daft babe

u have a baby when ur ready and u both feel rdy

 

[lainey]

I dont know if this at all helps but there is a 10 month age gap between me and my sister.

When i was little i always wanted a "baby" sister or brother to look after. I cant remember obviously my sister being born or my mum being pregnant. Me and my sister were more like friends all the way up through the years... i still dont look at her as being my sister. I think thats why i always asked my mum for another brother/sister.

I think when I have a baby il wait afew years before trying for another one perhaps 2/3 year gap, so that little one can no whats going on and get involved with the pregnancy and preparing for its brother/sister. Also id like to see the excitement of my wee one getting ready for the birth.

 

[h33]

hiya Willow was 2 In october and Conal was born in November so there are 2 years an 1 month between it is nice to have them close together but it is hard work, sometimes i feel guilty for having Conal so close because Willow was used to having us all the herself.

My cousin has 3 children one 14 one 6 and one 5 and she says she much prefers having the 2 close together.

i'd wait a couple of months myself though 4 months is still little you have all the fun stuff to come with him yet

 

[nathanmum]

i was like this too it finally wore off when nathan was about 7 months it must be a survival thing. were gonna start trying again in april may time

 

[sparky]

there was a 11 month gap between me and my younger sister, which meant that i didnt get much time with my mum one on one when my sister was born. It made me very close to my dad tho, but turned me into a bit of a tom boy!!!

My mum had 4 within 4 years and wouldnt reccomend it, as we were all screaming kids, then bratty teenagers at the same time!!!!

One thing is nice is now that we're adults we're all approaching marriage and parenthood at about the same time and have lots in common

 

[xJodieLoux]

My brother was born on 2nd september 1980 and my other brother was born 9th july 1981 so only 10 months between them. They have always been best friends and I was always jealous, Im 5 years younger than them and dont have any other siblings. I always used to wish my mum had had another straight after me.

 

[Alfiesmummy]

Hi girls thanks for replying i forgot that i had put this thread up, I do think that I am going to wait at least untill this time next yr i just got the brood bug i think and i still have it, but im enjoying my time with Alfie and remember how time consuming he was when he was newborn and it would be just too much plus i was very lucky with Alfie hes always been quite a good baby and relativly easy to look after and i may not get so lucky next time. I think that we get like this when we are past that real hard stage and start getting those even more so magical moments I still cant wait for another addition but i will be aiting untill iv had alot more time with Alfie 1st. I want him to be just over 2 before Partington bubs no.2 makes their entrance.

Minxy - just to let you know i didnt feel patronised at all hun and appraciate what you said I am still young and have all the time in the world and yeah Ian is away alot however hes harder work than Alfie is bless him, its like a zoo at weekends and the week is like the calm after the storm haha

Thanks everyone