am i being silly????

[amy]

really need help on this one. i feel really stupid reallly but the last few weeks ive been having smears and swabs, which i can deal with, yesterday seen doc i dont like at all, had a check as had few problems, anyway he wanted to look downstairs (tmi) sorry the thing is i didn't really want him to as didn't think was nessecary, was to stupid to say id rather have my nurse look, to make matters worse he didn't cover me with sheet or something, i know when your pregnant dignity does out the window, but i felt really interegated/interveined with, is this me being silly and my hormones are playing with my mind???? but since appointment im feeling really stressed and cant stop thinking about it, i feel stupid for writing this as you'll probably thinking its all part and parcel of being pregnant, went to docs to listen to little mans heart. thanks for letting me have me rant going to try and get some

 

[myst]

I totally understand how you feel, I always insist on a nurse or female doctor 'looking' if need be.
and even then they still get a female 'chaperone' in the room, did you have a female in the room with you ?
I had an incident a few years back and felt very creeped out by my male doctor....needless to say it made me switch to a female doctor.

the huge amount of hormones you have at the moment are gonna make you feel more uneasy about situations like this so the doctors should be understanding.

If you go back id recommend seeing a female doctor or practice nurse next time....

 

[amy]

no didn't have female in the room, my oh was outside, but come to think of it these days aren't you suppossed to have someone in with you still feel horible trying to get it out of my head, xx

 

[Hellokitty]

these days aren't you suppossed to have someone in with you

I think they are supposed to ask you if you would like a female to attend.

Not necessarily a gender issue though, I had a smear some years ago now and the (female) nurse couldn't 'find' my cervix (how difficult can that be?!). It was a really painful and humiliating experience, she made me get into weird positions and eventually went and got the Dr (also female) who sorted it out in a jiffy, but it hurt like hell (maybe Dr was cross for being pulled out of surgery).

Took me quite a while to get over that one, I felt violated for quite a while so I sympathise Kirly.

 

[carpwoman]

You 100% should have had what we call a chaperone in with you,this is disgusting,and I am appauled.

Why did he deem it necassary to examine you,what did he want to look at exactly? PM me if you dont want to say on here.

You poor thing,I really feel for you,it is not your hormones if something isnt feeling right then it isn't.
Bloody doctors they annoy the hell out of me.

PM me if you need to

C

 

[kirlykird]

Think I would have felt awful too.

Over the last few years I have had quite a few gyny probs and had to have colposcopy's, cells removed etc which has meant a lot of bit flashing to male doctors but ALWAYS and I must stress ALWAYS there has been a female nurse there with me.

As much to cover them as us!

I think it's terrible!

 

[amy]

before i was pregnant i had abnormal smear, had coloscopy, they needed to remove a little lump nothing dangerous, then i found out i was expecting so they couldn't really do anything until baby was born, anyway a few weeks back was loosing a lot of cm, seen my midwife had smears and swabs to check nothing was coming away from baby, obviously she needed a speculum ( think ive spelt wrong) to see the top of uterus, everything was fine. i went to this doc as was concerned about movement and haven't heard babys heartbeat as of yet, so to put my mind at rest went to see him, couldn't get in with anyone else. and i haven't seen my midwife for some weeks now and cant get in till middle of january i thought he would just check for babys heartbeat and that would be it!! even if he was concerned about the lump/ uterus or the amount of cm i was loosing he would have used somehting to see the top of my uterus, not his bloody fingers, k**bhead!! ....... well thats it now getting meself a doppler and going to wait next time to see midwife...

 

[kirlykird]

Myself,personally I think I would probably put in a complaint.

Even if they don't take it seriously just to point out that there should be a female member of staff present too.

 

[carpwoman]

Amy if you need a MW just phone the out of hours line they gave you at your booking in and request one of them come out to see you. That is their JOB you are the customer and can request it.

Forget going to the GP they no naff all when it comes to preg related stuff and this examination in my opinion should never have happened,at least not by him.

Please do phone that line they will page the MW on call or whoever is in the office at the time and they will then ring you back. Just because an appointment is fixed through surgery doesn't mean you can see us normally.

Hope you are ok

 

[carpwoman]

Amy if you need a MW just phone the out of hours line they gave you at your booking in and request one of them come out to see you. That is their JOB you are the customer and can request it.

Forget going to the GP they no naff all when it comes to preg related stuff and this examination in my opinion should never have happened,at least not by him.

Please do phone that line they will page the MW on call or whoever is in the office at the time and they will then ring you back. Just because an appointment is fixed through surgery doesn't mean you can see us normally.

Hope you are ok

 

[amy]

i didn't know that, thank you very much for info, god 3rd pregnancy and still learning, i feel such an idiot for not speaking up for myself, these days i think you have to. i just hope i get over this yucky feeling as its affecting the way i am with my oh, silly i know, i should just forget about it really and learn a lesson from it.. thanks for support thought it was moi being silly really