accepting infertility...

[rach29]

So i thought id write this now before af arrives and im really feeling sorry for myself haha!
Ive been ttc for over 2 years now, so i'd say its pretty safe to say im infertile. It is secondary infertility as i have 2 girls at 9 and 7.
My partner and i have had all the tests and everything is normal so its unexplained infertility too.
I know im not quite ready to give up yet but im definatly getting to a point where i know im going to have to accept that its not going to happen for us again, as heartbreaking as that reality is. I just dont know how to get my heart in the same place as my head xxx

 

[Quinn1979]

Mrs are you absolutely sure? It took me 2 years and 8 months to get a bfp. I'm not infertile, it just took us a really long time

Just wanted to say don't give up. You never know what's around the corner. Lots of love and fertile thoughts! Xxx

 

[rach29]

Oh wow thats amazing hun congratulations! Did you ever feel like it was time to give up? It must of been hard? Its been 2 years and 3 months so far us xx

 

[Quinn1979]

All the time! It was the hardest thing I've ever experienced. The funny thing is we just thought well were not going to stop having sex so giving up was never really an option! We just dtd furiously over my fertile week!

Weird thing is after a fell in oct I had a miscarriage, I was thinking it would take the same amount of time to get pregnant again. It took 13 weeks!

Don't give up xxxxx

 

[millielaura]

I've been trying 16 months so not as long as you.. But I've found that whilst I haven't given up or anything and still try keep positive, I think I'm starting to accept this journey a lot more. I found it really hard at around the 8 month mark as I naively thought it would happen straight away and coming to terms that it wasn't going to I found really difficult. But now whilst I still feel really down about it I've accepted it will take me longer than most people.
Defo don't give up though you never know what might happen xxxx fingers crossed for you xxx

 

[Bethyboo87]

Hey hun, OH and I had tests too - semen analysis, HSG, scans, bloods - all came back normal. Took us two years for our sticky bfp too, for no apparent reason. Just makes it all the more special I suppose. Good luck xx

 

[rach29]

Thanks for your replies ladies. It is good to hear posative stories, and somewhere in my head i do feel like it could happen for us at some point, i mean we have done it before, twice, so why wouldnt it happen again?!
I said when we got to the 2 years we would give it another 6 months and im very close to end of month 3 (af due next couple of days) so i'll see what happens in next 3 months and make a decision from there. You never now hopefully i'll get a bfp before then so i wont have to make the decision of wether to carry on trying or not