A how will I cope panic!

[Becky1]

I had a bit of a panic today. I was chatting to a friend who has 3 young children and I got back to thinking and talking about how hard the first 6 weeks were, sleepless nights, establishing breastfeeding, baby blues etc... How do I cope with that and a toddler!?! x

 

[H16]

I really don't know, I am wondering that myself! Especially as my daughter is just hitting the terrible twos naughty behaviour stage!

 

[Mummybexee]

Breast feeding didn't go to plan for us this time around but can honestly say it's not too bad with an 18 month old and newborn! As long as daddy is helping - it's hard getting out the house though atm! Took me from 7.30am to 1.30pm to get out Friday! But we did it ahahaha

 

[nicky1987]

The thought terrifies me lol I will have a toddler who'll be 4 months off turning 3 when the new baby arrives and she's currently in the middle of the terrible twos! The sleepless nights are worrying me because I don't want to feel too tired for her during the day if you know what I mean! X

 

[heatheror12]

My boys are 10 weeks and almost 19months. I have found it also easier than I worked myself up for ! But I'm the same as you mummybe. If I want to go out I have to have everything ready the night before or it takes forever. An I have found myself only going places I can walk to. Iv not yet figured how you get 2 kids in and out of the car at places like supermarkets ect lol. My hubby also went working away when Leo was a week old ! That was hard but you honestly do just get on with it. And find different ways of doing things. You'll be fine

 

[Becky1]

Glad to know I'm not alone! I had a terrible time with my son sleeping so that's worrying me, everything seems worse after no sleep...

7.30am to 1.30pm to get out the house!! Best not plan any morning activities!

x

 

[Emerald rose]

I sometimes wonder how i coped when my youngest was born. I was a single mum with a 4 year old and a 7 year old.
Its hard but you just manage and with your 2nd you have some experiance of what to do.

 

[MrsTLC]

I'm hoping that, with the addition of another, that I'll be a bit more clued up as how to understand baby. Last time, I think it's because I just didn't have a clue how to listen to baby..... This time, if baby is crying, I'll try feeding again (even if only half an hour since last feed). It took me ages to find a routine last time too.... This time I'll have a routine in place first..... Oh nd baby wearing from day 1 this time!

 

[hayes]

My little girl is 4 day's old and my son is cuming up 20 months. Daddy us around a lot to help at the mo but it's going better than u thought. I am combi feeding from the start this time n don't think I will last long with breast to b honest. Haven't attempted getting out yet n do worry when hubby goes back to work but I just keep thinking it's not for long they grow n change so quick that I want to try n cherish these moments as I'm defo nit having any more.

Michelle.x

 

[Baby2sky]

I was quite worried at first as my daughter was in the middle of the terrible twos and thought I had picked the worst age gap ever lol. However she does seem to be coming out the other end now so I feel a bit more relaxed now. I'm sure there will be difficult times but I have a very supportive husband and my daughter is very helpful (dresses herself, feeds herself, already wants to help with looking after her brother) so I'm confident it will all be ok x

 

[kumber]

We are making it work atm but I second it taking flipping forever to get out the house with the two! I am terrified about hubby going back to uni, I don't know how I'm going to get the two of them down the stairs (we live in a flat) and out to the car. I think you just find a way to make it work.

 

[Gillyboos]

I'm just being as organised as possible. If I know I'm off out, I'll get my bag etc ready the night before. Got the twins in a semi routine so that I feed them at 6am, then they're back down for when my son gets up at 7.30/8am. I do the night feeds during the week and then hubby takes over during the evening so I can nap/have a bath etc. He does the nights on a Fri and Sat so I can sleep through.
Biggest struggle for me has been the c-section and having to lift my son, that's all got a lot easier now at 3 and a half weeks after surgery.
I'm/we're knackered but I just remind myself it's not forever. People are always a bit taken a back when they ask or see the small age difference, usually get asked how I cope but I don't know if I do, I just get on with it. The kids are fed, clean and dressed, I however look like crap haha, so I guess that's the trade off. I would just say don't stress, you just manage. X

 

[MummyBee]

My lg is 3days old and my son is 3 (4 in november) its working well at the minute but im getting a lot of help from my OH. Im absolutely terrified for when he goes back to work i dont know how im going to get the three of us up, ready and out for my lb to be in nursery without having to be up at stupid oclock.
We can only try our best and over time it will get easier. (Positive thibking and all that ) xx

 

[Goat]

Becky I found establishing breastfeeding second time much easier. It wasn't as painful and I only had to use the lansinoh for 4 days this time as opposed to a month the last time. Also the baby blues lasted 5 weeks with my first but second time round I'm not sure if they lasted anymore than a week. So from my experience that part is better.

Even with all the support available it's all very tough but it's not that bad. The hardest thing for me was having a baby born in late autumn in the height of cold and bugs season which my toddler seemed to continuously catch and pass onto everyone. That was the toughest part.x