Thanks for the advice Jo. I do lay it on thick when he does something good, he gets embarrassed or just tells me to shut up!
Helen, thanks to you as well. I tried charts, bought and one we made and thought that would work as he would sneak stickers on it when he didn't earn any so as to show it bothered him not getting them. After a week though he just didn't care and now just either tears them or writes all over them. I just did one for rules with the support worker on Monday and he hasn't done any of it yet. Some rules are for me and some for him that we agreed on together.
Tan thanks for so much advice. I have been referred to CEFACS, the school now have a Behavioural Therapist seeing Ryan in school who seems very helpful. It was the first time yesterday and he told her that he gives home life 10/10 and school 1/10 saying he finds the work hard. It isn't the work he finds hard, it's having to sit still and get on with it as he's the most intelligent in his class. That's probably part of the problem. I used to get in trouble for daydreaming because I was bored finding the work too easy. The school have put him higher in reading and his writing is brilliant. He has trouble keeping friendships though as he just seems to follow others around and threatens them if they don't want to play with him. He gets on a lot better with the junior aged kids. They have infants and juniors at the same school.
This week so far he's been really good at school and they've rewarded him by letting him play the piano in assembly which he loves so he was really chuffed. I just hope things at home improve.
Regarding the windows, the front ones he can't unlock but the back he can as they aren't lockable with keys. I have tried Yale locks on them but he manages to get them off. I was hoping with it getting darker now that he'd stop going out but last night he went out in the cold and dark and didn't care. He just has no fear of anything.
I have also had police over to talk to him and he just says if someone grabs him he'll beat them up or run. He isn't scared of anything. I was tempted to move again somewhere off the ground floor so he couldn't get out of windows but that would mean it would be a lot harder with a pram when the baby comes and having to give up my cat which I would no way do, I adore him.
Minime, he doesn't have Autism no but I have been pushing for tests for ADHD for ages. I'm hoping that CEFACS will be able to advise me more with that although the first 4 meetings it's just me and them, no Ryan with me so a bit pointless I think.
Thanks all for your advise.
