50+ having babies
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Dee1985
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My mum is 41 and my brother is 5. she is still with my dad he had the snip after baby number 4. who is now 12.
but my mum still caught pregnant 7yrs after the snip. she didnt find out till she was about 25weeks she is a biggish woman any way and she just thought it was menapuse.
but she looks young dresses better then me works 3 different cleaning jobs a day. shes is as fit as a fiddle.
but i remember a lad in my class and his mum was about 60 when we were 17 and every one took the mic at open night and say why has your nan come
i told my mum and she said i will have to go to Tylers parent night to save him the embaresment
i was so proud of my mum at school all the lads fancied her. we used to go up town drinking and lads would chat us up like we were friends
but mum says tyler was the best thing that happened to her and beeing an older mum is easier in her opinion
but my mum still caught pregnant 7yrs after the snip. she didnt find out till she was about 25weeks she is a biggish woman any way and she just thought it was menapuse.
but she looks young dresses better then me works 3 different cleaning jobs a day. shes is as fit as a fiddle.
but i remember a lad in my class and his mum was about 60 when we were 17 and every one took the mic at open night and say why has your nan come
i told my mum and she said i will have to go to Tylers parent night to save him the embaresment
i was so proud of my mum at school all the lads fancied her. we used to go up town drinking and lads would chat us up like we were friends
but mum says tyler was the best thing that happened to her and beeing an older mum is easier in her opinion
I've been sat here reading this thread thinking what are they all going to say.
I certainly agree that after menopause it's not meant to be.
And i would rather not be in the position that i now face, my hubby and i where talking about what we'd be doing when the kids are grown up etc and Kbam i'm preggers, not planned, not trying, fate.
I realise that i'm not going to have the youth and energy that i had with my other children, but i do know that this child is wanted and loved and there is no way that i would abort this child.
40 and having to start all again is bloody frightening.
I certainly agree that after menopause it's not meant to be.
And i would rather not be in the position that i now face, my hubby and i where talking about what we'd be doing when the kids are grown up etc and Kbam i'm preggers, not planned, not trying, fate.
I realise that i'm not going to have the youth and energy that i had with my other children, but i do know that this child is wanted and loved and there is no way that i would abort this child.
40 and having to start all again is bloody frightening.
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people over 50 shouldnt be able to have kids,its just not on to be honest its not fair on the kids either
I think it depends on the parents. To argue that menopause is there for a reason, then could be argued that people with fertility problems shouldnt have help.
Where as people normally would stop having kids at 40, now the average life expectancy is higher, and people are often leavin it a lot later in life to get married and settle down. In my parents youth, most people got married early 20's. Nowadays if you get married early 20's everyone says your too young to e settling down!
My Aunt and Uncle are both in their 60's and retired. However my uncle is an avide climber and they both lead very active lifestyles, and to be honest are fitter than anyone I know in their 20s!! Age doesnt nesisarily make you infirm and incapable. Plently of women of child earing age are obese and struggle walking up stairs. I think if you are physically capale of bringing up children and you can offer them a good home with lots of love, you deserve as much fertility treatment as the next person.
Where as people normally would stop having kids at 40, now the average life expectancy is higher, and people are often leavin it a lot later in life to get married and settle down. In my parents youth, most people got married early 20's. Nowadays if you get married early 20's everyone says your too young to e settling down!
My Aunt and Uncle are both in their 60's and retired. However my uncle is an avide climber and they both lead very active lifestyles, and to be honest are fitter than anyone I know in their 20s!! Age doesnt nesisarily make you infirm and incapable. Plently of women of child earing age are obese and struggle walking up stairs. I think if you are physically capale of bringing up children and you can offer them a good home with lots of love, you deserve as much fertility treatment as the next person.
I must say it's kind of interesting reading this thread and I wanted to comment on a couple of bits.
Firstly, because of a couple of posts on here rather hysterically seem to suggest that people in their 40s and 50s are ancient!
I've definitely got more energy in my 30s than I ever had in my lazy, sluggish 20s and teen years. Might be something to do with cutting out all the crap I ate, cutting down on the alcohol and getting some serious exercise! 
Given, that my parents who are in their 60s are as fit as than me and (I sincerely hope) enjoying a full sex-life, I fully expect this to continue for at least another 30 or 40 years.
Secondly, I'd just like to correct this misaprehension that IVF is somehow a) an easy option and b) something you can toddle along and pick up as though it was a bag of spuds from the supermarket just because you have the money. There is reams and reams (and reams!
) of legal documentation that has to be signed before you can go ahead. The medical team are legally required to consider the welfare of any offspring before they consent to treat you and presumably this happened in the example given. Also, they encourage you very strongly to have counselling before, during and after treatment and let me tell you, you need it!
As to whether people 50+ should be having children, it's a tough one. What if the mother was 50 and the Father was 30? We're assuming both partners are the same age in this discussion.
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Firstly, because of a couple of posts on here rather hysterically seem to suggest that people in their 40s and 50s are ancient!
I've definitely got more energy in my 30s than I ever had in my lazy, sluggish 20s and teen years. Might be something to do with cutting out all the crap I ate, cutting down on the alcohol and getting some serious exercise! Given, that my parents who are in their 60s are as fit as than me and (I sincerely hope) enjoying a full sex-life, I fully expect this to continue for at least another 30 or 40 years. Secondly, I'd just like to correct this misaprehension that IVF is somehow a) an easy option and b) something you can toddle along and pick up as though it was a bag of spuds from the supermarket just because you have the money. There is reams and reams (and reams!
) of legal documentation that has to be signed before you can go ahead. The medical team are legally required to consider the welfare of any offspring before they consent to treat you and presumably this happened in the example given. Also, they encourage you very strongly to have counselling before, during and after treatment and let me tell you, you need it! As to whether people 50+ should be having children, it's a tough one. What if the mother was 50 and the Father was 30? We're assuming both partners are the same age in this discussion.
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its just wrong!
