So im nearly 25 wks pregnant, I already have a 11 yr old son,we tried to fall pregnant after having him but nothing ever happend. Until now 11yrs on here I am pregnant wich I should be so exited about especialy seeing its a girl!! But I have so much goin on in my head and life , in short my son means everything growing up all my time whent on him doing things with him , he gotdiadgnosed type 1 diabetic when he was 2 so since its been hard! Not only that me and my partner are also carers to my mum and grandad. My mum wont even eat unless we take her food , she barely gets out of bed, my grandad is 94 and getting more and more demanding ! My partner had a huge mentalhealth issue 2 yrs bk but has had a lot of help and is geting bk to his normal self. I had hyperemisis for the 1st 4 months wich I strugld to cope with but now im better im so overtired,emotional, so low I strugle looking after my grandad, I strugle making an efort to do anything wich isnt likeme . I cant even get exsited that were havin a girl! I usualy love making a fuss bonfire night, haloween, xmas ec. But this year I dnt want to do anything , even washing and keeping clothes makes mebreathless , I feel ugly , horible,useless , its like I watch pregnant people looking amazing and doing everything where im totalyoposit trying to make ou t im doing fine!!😔
24+4 wks and fealing so low!!
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I think you're being way too generous and I'm not surprised you're feeling down! You're stretching yourself too thin. You're pregnant, you should be looking after yourself and your baby before your mum/grandad!! Could you set up some sort of meal delivery service for them? Or hire a nurse? Don't know about your financial situation but you shouldn't be caring for your family plus your mum and grandad when you're 25 weeks pregnant.
My grandads in hospital at the minute wich I though would be easier but im his next of kin and I alsogo ther every day if not twice a day , I havent gone tnt and ifeel so guilty about that, I know im nt gna sleap tnt stressing that I didnt go !
I'm also not surprised that you're feeling this way, you have so much on.
Also try not to compare yourself to other people. I keep being told how well I'm doing and how great I am getting on etc. I went to a wedding on Tuesday and everyone said how amazing it was and that I didn't look tired - but I was up all night with cramps in my leg for staying on my feet all day and it took me days to get over how tired I was. I then came home full of cold and got diarrhoea - I'm assuming that my immune system was just down because I was so worn out from the wedding.
Don't beat yourself up and make sure you get some you time as well. Call in help wherever you can as you, your baby and your son need to be who come first right now.
Also try not to compare yourself to other people. I keep being told how well I'm doing and how great I am getting on etc. I went to a wedding on Tuesday and everyone said how amazing it was and that I didn't look tired - but I was up all night with cramps in my leg for staying on my feet all day and it took me days to get over how tired I was. I then came home full of cold and got diarrhoea - I'm assuming that my immune system was just down because I was so worn out from the wedding.
Don't beat yourself up and make sure you get some you time as well. Call in help wherever you can as you, your baby and your son need to be who come first right now.
It's just pregnancy I'm afraid. Hormones make you feel dreadful. I tried desperately for my son after miscarriage and it wasn't happening, then almost 2 years later it came out of the blue. We were soooo overwhelmed and excited! We wanted him more than anything.
Then as I started to get big and hormones were at a high I felt dreadful. I felt so ill, tired, angry, ugly and like the world was against me. I lost motivation for everything and started almost regretting being pregnant. I had no clue how I was going to cope, if I would enjoy it or regret it, and I felt like I would never feel normal again and life was going to change forever in a negative way.
Once he was born everything changed instantly, I was on a high, he was SOOOOO worth it, life has been amazing, nothing has changed other than he's here and it's better. I LOVE being a mum, as soon as he arrived I felt like me again and all the negativity just went. Also, despite putting on weight and feeling huge I now finally have my pre pregnancy body back after 7 months and feel generally amazing.
Please please try not to worry, everything WILL work out and it WILL be worth it !!
I am a carer for family members also, and I manage fine. DS stays in his pram atm whilst I sort them and he knows the routine. Hubby works away most of the time so he's not around much to help, but it's still easy enough. I found a sling to be very helpful too.
Just remember you arnt yourself right now, things will get back to normal (a new, better normal) and give yourself some slack. You are pregnant for 9 months, you have forever afterwards to get back in shape and your son will adore his sister and be able to help out with her too.
I absolutely hated pregnancy, I despised every second and couldn't wait for it to be over. Now I miss it and already considering another, it's strange how your body forgets lol.
Then as I started to get big and hormones were at a high I felt dreadful. I felt so ill, tired, angry, ugly and like the world was against me. I lost motivation for everything and started almost regretting being pregnant. I had no clue how I was going to cope, if I would enjoy it or regret it, and I felt like I would never feel normal again and life was going to change forever in a negative way.
Once he was born everything changed instantly, I was on a high, he was SOOOOO worth it, life has been amazing, nothing has changed other than he's here and it's better. I LOVE being a mum, as soon as he arrived I felt like me again and all the negativity just went. Also, despite putting on weight and feeling huge I now finally have my pre pregnancy body back after 7 months and feel generally amazing.
Please please try not to worry, everything WILL work out and it WILL be worth it !!
I am a carer for family members also, and I manage fine. DS stays in his pram atm whilst I sort them and he knows the routine. Hubby works away most of the time so he's not around much to help, but it's still easy enough. I found a sling to be very helpful too.
Just remember you arnt yourself right now, things will get back to normal (a new, better normal) and give yourself some slack. You are pregnant for 9 months, you have forever afterwards to get back in shape and your son will adore his sister and be able to help out with her too.
I absolutely hated pregnancy, I despised every second and couldn't wait for it to be over. Now I miss it and already considering another, it's strange how your body forgets lol.
Also, as others said, try to make more time for you and your babies rather than running around after everyone else constantly. Especially when your little girl arrives its important to have some quality down time bonding, so work something out to give yourself a break every so often if you can 
