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[Toonlass]

Till my 20 week scan time has gone soooo sloooow waiting for it. I just pray that everything is ok with my lil hippo.

My pregnancy has been completely different from the last 2, no MS, i have the 'bloom' going on, no bleeding gums and infections and my bump is a different shape. Because of all this everyone thinks i'm having a girl this time. It sounds so silly but i feel under pressure for the baby to be a girl so i am thinking about not finding out the sex this time. I think OH will be gutted if they say its a boy but if we find out at the birth he will be so relieved that the baby is here, he'll not care xx

 

[Katy_89]

Oooh good luck for your scan if you would rather not find out then don't feel pressured to. Just say you'd like a surprise this time xx

 

[Mervs Mum]

Good luck hun! We found out because I didnt want even the slightest hint of disappointment at the birth.

x

 

[Toonlass]

so do you think its best to find out now lisa so he could get over any potential dissapointment now rather than when the baby is here? I don't feel pressured to find out, i feel pressured to produce a girl lol xx

 

[Katy_89]

Well to be honest it's more the man who decides whether bump is blue or pink since all our little eggies have "X" chromosomes, remind him of this if he tries to imply otherwise

I think you can look at it either way, if you find out now any potential disappointment will be well out of the way before birth, but if you choose not to find out then hopefully the excitement of baby being here will mean that people don't even have a chance to be disappointed.

Then again you could just think I don't really know what I'm talking about because I've not been in the same situation. xx

 

[Mervs Mum]

Here's how it was for us.

With my first I really wanted a girl. At that time my hospital wouldnt tell you the sex (15 yrs ago) and people didnt have private scans like they do now. When she was born I remember very vividly *gets ready to hide from the things about to be thrown* as they passed her to me and said 'It's a............' I thought to myself 'Please dont let it be a boy'. When they said 'girl' I was so relieved. I always wonder how I would have felt had they said boy.....I look back and think it was an awful thing to think after being blessed with a healthy child.

Sooooo...... With Hebe OH really wanted a boy. I did to a degree but he REALLY did. I thought back to that moment with my first and thought, I cant have that happen again. I didnt want OH to think that thought or if the baby was born a girl (as she obviously was) I didnt want anything to spoil that incredibly special moment. I didnt want it to even enter his head for a nano second that it wasnt a boy. Which is why we decided we needed to know and we needed to know ASAP.

We had a NT scan at 13+5 and they said they thought it was a girl but were only 60% sure - not much more than a guess really but OH was visibly disappointed. He was very quiet after the scan for a few hours- days even. We decided that we'd have a 16 wk private gender scan to make sure. 95% a girl. This time he wasnt as disappointed as he was that first day. We laughed it off and started to get really excited. The 20 wk scan confirmed it and very quickly he was talking about a 'daddy's girl' etc.

This time he wanted another girl! I didnt want to know but he did and I let him have his way. He wasnt disappointed but he was definitely shocked! I said he got what he wanted but in the wring order.....he said he just never gets his own way..... He very quickly got excited and it was all good. And the main thing is that when Hebe was born he was just so overjoyed to meet her and nothing entered his head about her not being a boy and I guess that's what you can guarantee when you find out.

 

[Toonlass]

i think I'm gonna find out. Then at least he has 20 weeks to come to terms with the sex. And anyway, i want to know myself I'm honestly not bothered either way, I'm just hoping to be told the baby is healthy. The only reason i want to know is so i can prepare the new nursery. Thanx for the advice ladies x x

 

[broodylocket]

did u find out a boy or girl hun?

 

[titch]

so do you think its best to find out now lisa so he could get over any potential dissapointment now rather than when the baby is here? I don't feel pressured to find out, i feel pressured to produce a girl lol xx

If anyone should be feeling the pressure its your OH, the gender is decided by the sperm, your egg only carries an X (as women are XX) and the man has some Y sperm and some X. Depending on what he adds to the mix you either get XY - boy or XX- girl. Tell him that if he wants a boy he should be producing more y sperm! Nothing to do with your part!

King Henry 8th was really barking up the wrong tree

 

[Toonlass]

@ henry the eighth

Turns out its another boy and OH is actually pleased. There wasn't a second of dissapointment xx