16month old and bed time

[Blueclass]

Please help me..
Im a first time mummy to a beautiful little girl but bed times are a drag. We have a routine she baths and i breast feed her. Moat nights she falls asleep or i still have to hold/rock her. There has been a few occasions where she has pointed to her cot and i put her down and thats it but when i thought wow this is amazing she stopped haha. I can be in her room for over a hr getting her to sleep. I dont want to leave her to cry but i just dont know what to do.
My husband and I are likely splitting so i need to sort this out.
Any ideas?

Thanks girls.

 

[KHTW]

Sorry to hear about your relationship ending, sending hugs.

I don't have a lot to advise as my DD is 2 now and has always been difficult at bedtime. We still co-sleep but the bedtime routine is much easier now, she falls asleep in under 20min.

The only thing I would say is to give her time, they are only little for so long X

 

[candymycandy]

Sorry to hear about your break up

Sounds like she's quite used to this routine and it's a big comfort for her. I would suggest controlled crying but not everyone likes it I know. You could maybe try putting her in cot but sitting in room and stroking her head etc and reassuring her you're there? Do you have a book etc before she falls asleep? X

 

[Elfs Mummy]

Charlie's 15 months and asks for bed now but it took a few nights to get him to this stage. He has a bath then lies in his cot with a bottle of ebm then sleeps we were sitting holding his hand then just next to the cot and now we just walk out which is good because Zackary cluster feeds all evening ! Xx

 

[kumber]

We were still sitting in the room at 16 months, I'm a huge advocate for gentle sleeping. She will be picking up on the difficulties with you and your husband, and her needing you at bedtime like this is likely a need for reassurance that her primary caregiver (you) will not be abandoning her. Obviously you won't be but her 16 month old mind still ruled by survival instinct doesn't know this.

Personally I would ride it out and do what she needs for comfort and reassurance. It's a killer for you I know but it doesn't last forever and she will calm down quicker for that reassurance.